Where do you meet people these days?

katie99

I would like to know where do people meet each other these days? My single friends, guys and girls, all say it is so difficult to meet nice people in pubs and clubs.
I've seen postings here suggesting to join groups such as walking groups and so on. But to me you may as well put a large sign over your head declaring your interested in meeting a bf or gf.
What has happened to the old fashioned way of meeting? You know friend of a friend, in a pub or at a party?
Or are singletons after age 30 destined to remain so.

Onesimus

katie99 wrote: »

I would like to know where do people meet each other these days? My single friends, guys and girls, all say it is so difficult to meet nice people in pubs and clubs.
I've seen postings here suggesting to join groups such as walking groups and so on. But to me you may as well put a large sign over your head declaring your interested in meeting a bf or gf.
What has happened to the old fashioned way of meeting? You know friend of a friend, in a pub or at a party?
Or are singletons after age 30 destined to remain so.

Just go along with the ebb and flow of life and eventually you will meet someone someday, perhaps you've reached the ''30'' age and are feeling the need to settle down, worrying because its the age to do so and having kids any later could be dangerous for you?

Many women and men too ( but more so women ) go through this at that age in life, they are in a rush, but my advice is not to rush because in the rush of it you could end up jumping for a guy who you'll regret going for after the first few years of Marriage, just keep getting out there and Mr.Right will come along someday.

Denimgirl

katie99 wrote: »

I would like to know where do people meet each other these days? My single friends, guys and girls, all say it is so difficult to meet nice people in pubs and clubs.
I've seen postings here suggesting to join groups such as walking groups and so on. But to me you may as well put a large sign over your head declaring your interested in meeting a bf or gf.
What has happened to the old fashioned way of meeting? You know friend of a friend, in a pub or at a party?
Or are singletons after age 30 destined to remain so.

oh katie don't say that! I'm recently single and after the age of 30 ( early 30's) I don;t plan to be single forever! i want to have my dream of a family like everybody else.i think if you want that you will get it, thats my moto anyway, but you don't get it by looking for it, love finds you, leaving the house does help though!lol! every boyfriend i met was when i least expected, it out of the blue and whose to say that will stop happening it's been happening all this time so far! and it will happen for every single person too

Nulty

Ladies, dont be embarressed about the fact that your conspicuously seeking the other half. The only thing you have to be careful about is not scaring them off when you got them on the hook. Go loose and easy, you'll pick someone up and if they're not the one for you go back for more. The key is not to feel bad about rejection - everyone gets rejected. The other is not to be ashamed of looking for what makes you happy.

Enjoy life without the hassle of social conventions - do it your way.

ash23

I'm 27 and it's not easy for those in their 20s either

The last few guys I've met have been friends of friends, at weddings or (rarely) guys I meet in a pub/club.

I'd like to meet someone but I don't mind being single either.

I just find a lot of guys are very wary of getting into a relationship. Or maybe I just attract the "damaged" ones :rolleyes:

Guys in their 20s seem to be all about going travelling, seeking something better than they already have. For once I'd like to meet someone who is just happy and content in the life he has.

degrassinoel

still single in my mid-thirties and (not bragging) its not hard to meet people if you put some effort into it.
pubs and clubs arent great though, my clubbing years are well and truly over, and pubs just seem to be a bad place to meet someone for me.
sad as it sounds online dating agencies, similar interest groups, facebook etc.. and even friends of friends do seem to be the best way to meet someone you share interests with

Squiggler

Hi OP

I asked the same question as you about a year ago on another forum. Some of my friends had recently found love on the internet, one married a lovely guy she met on a dating site and the other is engaged to a wonderful man she found on facebook.

I'm in my early 30s, had been engaged twice but bailed out both times, and was beginning to think that I might never find a good guy and get married. I was happy with my life, kept busy socially, had good friends and a job I liked, but I still wanted a family. I was also convinced that having a partner would mean sacrifices and comprimises and would take away some of my freedom, which I'd become very fond of.

Thinking about all of that led me to do something that changed my life. I googled an American guy I'd met a long time ago (13 years). We had spent a week hanging around together on holidays, written for a couple of years and then lost touch. To cut a long story short, he was also still single, had thought about me a lot too and we will be married a year in August. A year ago I didn't think I could be happier than I was, but I am.

So, who knows, you may have already met the right guy...

Kimia

What about those dating websites that are just about relationships? So it weeds out the ones that just want casual flings with loads of people. E-Harmony or something?

LC2010HIS

ill let u know when i meet someone . hope its before 2012:D

kittykrazy

I love meetup.com. One of the meetups I've been to was a bit cattle-marketey (4 girls and 20 guys crowded around them) but the photography, walking, comedy nights and enviromental talks have all been amazing with nice people and you can talk about whatever your at so that's the conversation starter sorted.

Gillo

Hey OP (and a few other people here also)

Know the feeling I'm in a similiar boat.
Tired two dating sites, they were ok but there seems to be a lot more guys on them than girls which as a guy I'd say put me at a bit of a disadvantage, still had a few dates out of it, so maybe give them a shot.

OP why not try a group you'd be interested in, I used to do a lot of mountaineering and was looking at joining a walking, with a view to getting out and meeting new friends, if something more happened then cool it's a bonus, but don't set your mind on I'm joining this group and and going to meet Ms. Right, just go along and see what happens.

A bit off topic, but I've heard of people saying approach people say in a library and ask them about the book they are reading as an example or maybe when in a gallery etc, now maybe it's a lack of confidence on my part but would that not freak people out a bit some stranger coming up and strikign up a converstation like that??

ash23

Gillo wrote: »

A bit off topic, but I've heard of people saying approach people say in a library and ask them about the book they are reading as an example or maybe when in a gallery etc, now maybe it's a lack of confidence on my part but would that not freak people out a bit some stranger coming up and strikign up a converstation like that??

So long as it was genuine and not a blatant attempt to score, then I wouldn't be freaked out.

No point in specifically going to a library to do it but if you happen to be there and see a girl you like the look of, then grand.

If you don't read then it'll become pretty obvious you're trying to pull if that makes sense.

Apply it to the places you frequent. If you like books and art, then yes, librarys, art galleries etc are a good place to strike up a conversation. But if it's not your thing then saying something in a dvd rental place or even the supermarket is a good idea.

I wish more men would do it.

LegacyUser

Squiggler wrote: »

Thinking about all of that led me to do something that changed my life. I googled an American guy I'd met a long time ago (13 years). We had spent a week hanging around together on holidays, written for a couple of years and then lost touch.

So, who knows, you may have already met the right guy...

Same thing happened me. Worked with a guy twelve years ago, started working with him again last year and we've been going out six months. Before that, I was meeting men who just weren't right for me, or I wasn't right for them. I'd given up (I never believed women who said they'd given up, surely they were always looking?), but I'd gotten tired of ruining my happiness on a daily basis by searching for something that might or might not come along. In essence, wasting the best years of my life!

So instead of looking for a man, I started doing things I liked to do. If I didn't meet anyone, it didn't matter because I was getting enjoyment out of what I was doing. So do the things you like to do, whatever they may be. If you see an ad for a walking club, ask yourself whether you'd actually enjoy doing that, or are you just doing it to meet someone? If it's the former, do it. If it's the latter, try something else.

Gillo

Ok, a library and a gallery in my case were bad examples, they were the two I've heard of as examples most often but yeah know what you mean.

"I wish more men would do it"
lol wish I had the b@lls to do it! On the other side of the coin, how would you feel about approaching a guy in a similiar situation?

ash23

Gillo wrote: »

lol wish I had the b@lls to do it! On the other side of the coin, how would you feel about approaching a guy in a similiar situation?

I'm a fairly chatty person anyway and think nothing of asking someone (male or female) a question about a book or a dvd or chatting to them in the supermarket queue. You get some people who look at you like you've 25 heads but sure, they're the ones who are missing out.

I also approach guys in pubs and clubs. Just chat to them at the bar. I prefer people who are forward, where there is no ambiguity about why they are talking to you. One pet peeve is where a guy talks to me to get to my friends. It bugs me no end.
Or a guy who chats for ages but doesn't take my number or make a move.

I'm very impatient lol.

Gillo

ash23 wrote: »

You get some people who look at you like you've 25 heads but sure, they're the ones who are missing out.

Yeah suppose that's the best way of lookign at it, feck it, I'll have to give it a try, whats the worst could happen (well apart from the seven foot tall cage fighter boyfriend!!)