Lost Libido

LegacyUser

I have been having this problem for quite a while not. A few years ago I was being treated for depression and was put on SSRI's and then NSRI's. My sex drive diminished (but did not disappear completely) and my boyfriend was very supportive (although a little frustrated).

Now I am off the anti depressents and for a while things were great. However I started on the depo injection for contraception before xmas. Things were ok until I started having breakthrough bleeding. Now I am on the depo injection and a progesterone only pill. My libido has disappeared completely! All the progesterone wont be out of my system for another 2 month so I am looking for suggestions in the meantime to get my mojo back until I can switch to something else.

BTW not sure if this is the best place to put this!

LegacyUser

Anybody? I very much need your help with this!

Nevyn

Whats your diet like? do you excerise at all?
Little changes in both can lead to having a lot more engry.
Do you take the time to pamper yourself and dress in clothes which make you feel confident and sexy? When was the last time you went shopping for such clothes?
Would you consider going shopping for a new sex toy? Often using the same one can get boring and buying and using something new pushes you to explore your body all over again.

LegacyUser

My diet is ok, maybe a bit erratic. I am in a very stressful course in college and particularly coming up to exams I might skip meals unknown to myself. I try to get out and get some exercise everyday - even if its just a walk in the evening.
I have a good figure and know that I do and am pretty comfortable whatever I wear. I do occasionaly go out and buy myself some new underwear etc. However I have never bought a sex toy and am a little bit frightened by them! Would not know where to start tbh if I went out to buy one!

LegacyUser

Well from what I just read there I think I might have spoted something that might not be helping and that would be the stress factor. Being stressed will just make you feel less and less like having sex even though ironically sex helps to relieve stress. Go figure. It might be just a case of waiting until the stress of exams is over and it might start to pick up again.

But trying new things also might help and a sex toy could well be the way forward. Especially if you are a little afraid of them as just by buying one you might start to get excited about the idea of using it. Check out the Ann Summers website as it has the catalogue online and you can look at stuff without the fear of going in to a shop, as far as I know you can also order online. For a first timer I'd recommend the silver bullet, it's amazing, cheap and great when he uses it on you. Also the new durex play ring is rather effective but you will need to be in the mood before using it.

The main thing here though is for you to relax. Maybe pick a night that you both can spend the evening chilling out, have a bath together or dress up in your sexy underwear and open a nice bottle of wine with low lighting and soft music, just by doing small things like that you will be really suprised how quickly your libido will pick up. Best of luck.

Canluum

Eat regular meals with plenty of protein and fruit and veg. If you're thin, eat more... milk is great. Get your full 8 hours of sleep per night.

Do resistance exercise in the gym. Lift heavy things. Learn how to squat and deadlift... don't worry, it's nearly impossible for women to look "muscley" (not without a stupid amount of effort and very different exercises), it will increase your libido and give you an amazing figure. The heavier you (safely) lift, the better. I know some women who practice powerlifting and can deadlift >130kg and they look amazing... slim and toned. They're boyfriends are also very happy people

Take zinc supplements, it's a vital mineral and deficiency can cause a loss of libido. Most people don't get (or at least absorb) enough zinc due to modern diets.

Go to the doctor... this is a problem that (s)he might well be able to help you with. For your relationship's sake, it's worth a doctor visit.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies!

Yea the stress is a big factor and I am finding the progesterone has made me very snappy also combined with the stress! I do feel for my boyfriend as I do take the head off him over little things and I am trying to work on this. College will be finished for the summer in 3 weeks so hopefully will be able to destress somewhat.

We tried the Durex ring one night but it was a little small (ahem!) for my boyfriend so I think we will have to try something else. Surprisingly buying that did not scare me as much as the thought of buying a vibrator from a sex shop - probably because I could get it in boots! I will check out the silver bullet online

I am quite thin - lost about a stone over christmas due to stress but slowly putting it back on again. There is a gym in college so might check out lifting weights during the summer and build up some tone.I dont understand how lifting weights would help my libido though? Will hunt down some zinc supplements too. Cheers!

I have been to the doctor about this - have had pv breakthrough since Janurary because of the progesterone but there is nothing that can be done for 2 more months until the progesterone wears off. Im not anaemic anyway so that can be ruled out. I think the bleeding may also have something to do with it - its not very sexy

Canluum

Lostlibido wrote: »

I am quite thin - lost about a stone over christmas due to stress but slowly putting it back on again. There is a gym in college so might check out lifting weights during the summer and build up some tone.

Heavy resistance training is just so good for you in many ways, especially women (because of bone density). Specifically in this case it normalises testosterone, which is heavily involved in libido for both men and women.

Other benefits: reduced chance of injury, greater bone density (stops you getting osteoporisis when older), increased flexibility, strength and overall agility/mobility, lowered cholesterol, improved heart condition, lower bodyfat %, improved figure.
It generally relieves stress and helps stabilise mood too by causing prolonged release of dopamine.

Nevyn

There is a very simple basic little finger vibe which is part of the durex play range, they can be bought in chemists, you'll find them with the condoms. It's a good beginners vibe and you don't have to go into a sex shop to get it.