15 to 20 year age gap too much?

katie99

I was with the girls last night and we discussed whether or not 15 to 20- year age gap is too much for a relationship to work.
One of the girls who is 34 met a guy 50 and really likes him. He has asked her out and she accepted. However, we weren't all agreed if the age gap is too big for a relationship to work.
My own advice to her is to go for it. Obviously, there must be a chemistry between them otherwise he wouldn't have asked her out and she wouldn't have accepted.
I'd be interested to hear what other subscribers think.

PirateShampoo

Maybe you should let her live her own life and make her own mistakes.

If it makes her happy then maybe you should support your friend.

cutymonalisa

Well I am 33 and if you had asked me a few years ago would I go out with somebody 16 yrs older than me it would have been a firm 'no'. Not so much though now. Over the last few years i've found my friends and social circle is made up of people in their 20's to 50's. A lot of men in the late 40's - 50 bracket are very youthful, fun with the added advantages of having lived a bit & likely financially secure. In essence, age is but a number - your friend is right to go for it, I dont see why not.

Zaph

I'm 18 years older than my girlfriend and I couldn't wish for a better relationship. However I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't have as good a relationship with most women her age. It's all down to both people wanting the same thing from life and having similar dreams and aspirations, and I'm in the very fortunate position of having met someone with a very similar outlook to me. After that, age just ceases to be a factor.

Katgurl

I don't see a problem I'm similar age and wouldn't turn down with an attractive man that I fancied.

If relationship got serious though I'd be asking some hard questions like will I need to give upchance to have children etc

sam34

i've had a relationship with a 23 year age gap, and the age thing was never an issue

it comes down to both parties outlook and expectations from life

Asphyxia

My parents have a 17 year age gap and they have been together for 30 years and going strong they are also getting married again in July to renew their vows which I think is so romantic. I think a relationship with an age gap can work when both people want it that much.

Kiera

It depends on how old the youngest partner is tbh.

miss5

I think once both people are over 18 and are in similar places in their lives,
There is no reason why it shouldn't work, Every situation is individual and different.

LegacyUser

I'm 33 and my partner has just turned 60. We have been together almost 8 years, it hasn't all been plain sailing, he has two daughters older than me and a lot of eyebrows were raised in the beginning. I get mistaken for his daughter all the time, but we are best friends and I couldn't imagine life without him.

Ickle Magoo

I think the older you get the less an age gap matters - as long as both parties have the same wants and expectations then theoretically no age gap (within legal parameters) is too much.