Hmm, would it be so bold of me?

LegacyUser

Sorry guys, another one of these threads!

Got talking to a girl at a friend's party a few weeks ago, she was one of the few there that I hadn't met before. Fancied her from the start but soon found out that she was a really lovely, friendly, down to earth girl with similar interests.

She seemed to be interested in what I was saying and came over to talk to me specifically when the group of us were walking to the pub. There was quite a bit of playing with her hair aswell (although that might be bull, hah).. I don't know though, I wonder maybe it was just the drink making her like that?

I added her on facebook (I hate it, but it's ubiquitous) and turns out she's single (I guess it has it's benefits!); so.. the eternal question: should I message her and ask her for a drink straight away or play it cool for a bit, ask for her number and then ask her out over the phone?

A part of me wants to just go for it, but the other is a bit afraid of the possible rejection and embarressment
Would a girl be flattered anyway, even if she's not interested in me in that way?

LegacyUser

Seriously - go for it! She wouldn't talk to you if she wasn't interested . . . . .. . . chat to her on fb chat sometime she's on and see how it goes - u could always ask her out there if all goes well . . . . .

minidazzler

I used to play the numbers game a bit, text for ages adn then eventually ask them.

I now think that's a bad move, it leaves little to talk about.

Ask her for a drink

Denimgirl

andrei kanchelskis wrote: »

Sorry guys, another one of these threads!

Got talking to a girl at a friend's party a few weeks ago, she was one of the few there that I hadn't met before. Fancied her from the start but soon found out that she was a really lovely, friendly, down to earth girl with similar interests.

She seemed to be interested in what I was saying and came over to talk to me specifically when the group of us were walking to the pub. There was quite a bit of playing with her hair aswell (although that might be bull, hah).. I don't know though, I wonder maybe it was just the drink making her like that?

I added her on facebook (I hate it, but it's ubiquitous) and turns out she's single (I guess it has it's benefits!); so.. the eternal question: should I message her and ask her for a drink straight away or play it cool for a bit, ask for her number and then ask her out over the phone?

A part of me wants to just go for it, but the other is a bit afraid of the possible rejection and embarressment
Would a girl be flattered anyway, even if she's not interested in me in that way?

Don't play games just ask her out mail her and say would she like to go for a drink sometime? if she says not so what!too many guys play too cool with girls and it's just silly,if a girl likes you she won't play games with you,you have nothing to lose.Go for it!

dellas1979

Hahaha what a username! He was a great player.

Go for it...the sooner the better or someone else might snap that lovvie up!

Would be hugely flattered if someone did that for me!!:D

Katgurl

Definitely ask her no pussy-footing around, it'll set you apart from the ten million guys who just text for weeks on end.

She'll be very flattered and confidence in a man is hugely attractive.

Cianos

Just ask now before you slide in to the friends zone. You need to cash in on the energy that was between you, before it is spread too thin over a billion texts.

minidazzler

Cianos wrote: »

Just ask now before you slide in to the friends zone. You need to cash in on the energy that was between you, before it is spread too thin over a billion texts.

This, +1,000,000 this.

Miss Fluff

Ask her right away

greenprincess

Ask her out. You said your afraid she'l reject you. Sure if she does you only meet her the once and if you do ever meet her again it prob wont be for a long time so you've nothing to lose!!

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice and encouragement everyone

So I asked her out and... she said yes!! :-D

lillywhite1

Yep, ask her out asap and whatever the answer you will know what the story is.

Good luck.

HavingCrack

Just ask her out She sounds as if she'll say yes if you two are getting on as well as you're describing and even if she says no at least you won't be left wondering/regretting which is a billion times worse in my experience.

Beruthiel

andrei kanchelskis wrote: »

A part of me wants to just go for it, but the other is a bit afraid of the possible rejection and embarressment

If you intend to live your life in fear, it's not going to be interesting or much fun.
You'll be a long time dead. Before that happens, take every opportunity to enhance your time here. Call her today and ask her out.

ManOfMystery

He asked her out 4 posts back, has no-one actually read the thread?

Well done OP, hope it goes well

LegacyUser

Hahaha, I guess my second post slipped in unnoticed :-D

To be honest, even if nothing comes of it in the long run, it feels great to have taken that risk. Good things come to those who put themselves out there, I believe.. although I think when it comes to girls, that's the hardest thing to put oneself out for!!

As that song 'Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen' by Baz Luhrmann advises: "Do at least one thing every day that scares you"