I Can't Make Girlfriend Orgasm From Sex

LegacyUser

Hey guys this is really getting me down. I have never made my girlfriend orgasm from sex. I always make her orgasm with my tongue or fingers and every time we have sex after I cum I'd go down on her or touch her still she orgasms as well but I would just love to be able to make her orgasm from just sex. Shes told me that shes never had an orgasm from just sex with any of her previous partners but im beginning to think shes just saying that to make me feel better. I am just wondering is it actually normal not to be able to orgasm from sex or is everyone capable of it? Honest answers I can take it. She says she loves sex with me yet I can never make her orgasm from sex......??

LegacyUser

There are more women in the world that cannot have orgasms through penetration than you would imagine. Some women can some dont.
It took me 10 years of trying until i got there and it is still not the same intense feeling as fingers or tongue. If shes telling you she never had an orgasm during real sex she probably dosent lie to you or is saying it to make you feel better, its just the way it is. So keep on trying without pressure and if it doesent work pleasure her as you do already.

shellyboo

worriedguy5 wrote: »

Hey guys this is really getting me down. I have never made my girlfriend orgasm from sex. I always make her orgasm with my tongue or fingers and every time we have sex after I cum I'd go down on her or touch her still she orgasms as well but I would just love to be able to make her orgasm from just sex. Shes told me that shes never had an orgasm from just sex with any of her previous partners but im beginning to think shes just saying that to make me feel better. I am just wondering is it actually normal not to be able to orgasm from sex or is everyone capable of it? Honest answers I can take it. She says she loves sex with me yet I can never make her orgasm from sex......??

It's totally normal, a large proportion of women are unable to orgasm from sex alone. It's now the commonly held belief that not all women have a g-spot (the internal sensitive spot that makes penetrative orgasms possible), so just take your girlfriend's word for it and don't worry about it. Lots and lots of women are only capable of clitoral orgasms, and as long as you're giving her plenty of those, you can rest assured that she's a happy bunny

If you really want your girlfriend to orgasm during sex, why not think about investing in some sex toys? A vibrating cock ring is a fantastic thing to have on hand, it will give her clitoral stimulation during intercourse, and she may find herself able to orgasm that way.

LegacyUser

shellyboo wrote: »

It's totally normal, a large proportion of women are unable to orgasm from sex alone. It's now the commonly held belief that not all women have a g-spot (the internal sensitive spot that makes penetrative orgasms possible), so just take your girlfriend's word for it and don't worry about it. Lots and lots of women are only capable of clitoral orgasms, and as long as you're giving her plenty of those, you can rest assured that she's a happy bunny

If you really want your girlfriend to orgasm during sex, why not think about investing in some sex toys? A vibrating cock ring is a fantastic thing to have on hand, it will give her clitoral stimulation during intercourse, and she may find herself able to orgasm that way.

Thats put my mind at ease! I really wanted to get the cock ring but its just embarassing buying it because it looks as if I cant please my woman and need help and in a packed chemist I just cant bring myself to do it.

I think tonight I am going to lick her out until just before orgasm, put on the cock ring and take her from behind and see if i can make her orgasm. At least I'll have tried!
What would be the best position to use the cock ring in for maximum cliotral stimulation???

Nevyn

worriedguy5 wrote: »

Hey guys this is really getting me down. I have never made my girlfriend orgasm from sex. I always make her orgasm with my tongue or fingers and every time we have sex after I cum I'd go down on her or touch her still she orgasms as well but I would just love to be able to make her orgasm from just sex. Shes told me that shes never had an orgasm from just sex with any of her previous partners but im beginning to think shes just saying that to make me feel better. I am just wondering is it actually normal not to be able to orgasm from sex or is everyone capable of it? Honest answers I can take it. She says she loves sex with me yet I can never make her orgasm from sex......??

There is more to sex then just penetration, honestly I would say that you are making her orgasm during sex, just not from penetrative sex.
For some women it's hard for them to do, but they can help by strengthening their pelvic floor with kegel exercises.

As for what position with a vibrating cockring I would suggest missionary and I don't think buying one indicates at all that your not pleasing your partner if anything it shows that you are more then willing to do so.

Jenneke87

Hi OP,

What your girlfriend is experiencing is not all that uncommon. 10% of all woman can´t orgasm while having sex, so she´s not just saying it to make you feel better. It´s not that suprising that she can orgams when you use your tongue or fingers, becaus you have more control over the movements you make with them, which does provide the stimulans she needs to orgasm. Please don´t doubt your girlfriend and don´t think she doesn´t enjoy having sex with you. Everyone is "wired up" differently.

shellyboo

worriedguy5 wrote: »

Thats put my mind at ease! I really wanted to get the cock ring but its just embarassing buying it because it looks as if I cant please my woman and need help and in a packed chemist I just cant bring myself to do it.

I think tonight I am going to lick her out until just before orgasm, put on the cock ring and take her from behind and see if i can make her orgasm. At least I'll have tried!
What would be the best position to use the cock ring in for maximum cliotral stimulation???

Best position to use one is with her on top -- not sure it will work with doggy at all, because it won't be in contact with her clitoris!

Don't get one of those silly Durex ones from the chemist, they're not very good! Go to a proper sex shop and get a real one with replacable batteries. It absolutely WON'T look like you can't please your woman, it'll look like the opposite -- that you're doing everything you can to please her!! I have no problem coming from penetration (lucky for me) and I still use one with my boyfriend fairly frequently if I want a bit of extra stimulation or if I'm tired or worn out And you CAN please her, remember?! She's just not built for penetrative orgasms, it's not your fault!

Pembily

Jenneke87 wrote: »

10% of all woman can´t orgasm while having sex, so she´s not just saying it to make you feel better.

I would have thought it would be higher!!!!

I never orgasm through penetration before I met my ex and even then it was sporadic and when I diid ts minor in comparasion to clitoral simulation... Don't worry, its nothing you are doing / not doing!!!!

We had a good sex life and used toys so don't think just cos you have sex toys means you can't please your girlfriend!!!! That is old hat...

Relax, ask her how it feels when you are touching her, let her guide you!!!!

PS have fun experimenting

shellyboo

Pembily wrote: »

I would have thought it would be higher!!!!

I never orgasm through penetration before I met my ex and even then it was sporadic and when I diid ts minor in comparasion to clitoral simulation... Don't worry, its nothing you are doing / not doing!!!!

We had a good sex life and used toys so don't think just cos you have sex toys means you can't please your girlfriend!!!! That is old hat...

Relax, ask her how it feels when you are touching her, let her guide you!!!!

PS have fun experimenting

I think it is higher - I'd say about 10% of women are not orgasmic at all, through clitoral or vaginal stimualtion. Don't want to be pulling figures out of thin air, but I've heard something like 40% can't orgasm through sex alone.

Nevyn

and I've read studies where it's a mental/emotional block and the brain just needs retraining to those types of stimulus but all women can do it.

So it varies.

krudler

Mine cant either, doesnt stop us a cock ring is a great way to go about it though, or if she has a small vibrator let her use it on herself while you do it doggy style, thats feels great for both of you and if you can time if so ye both cum at the same time from it, it feels amazing. If you dont want to buy a sex toy in a chemist (they're not very good anyway) then either go to Anne Summer or try online, I use britishcondoms.co.uk they've got decent prices on everything. You need to stop looking as a failure on your part, womens bodies arent all the same, what works for one person wont for another, I've been with girls who could only cum through clitoral stimulation and ones who could only through penetration, finding out what works the best and improving on it to the point where its not longer and issue and sex is amazing no matter which way you do it is the best part

Gyalist

shellyboo wrote: »

I think it is higher - I'd say about 10% of women are not orgasmic at all, through clitoral or vaginal stimualtion. Don't want to be pulling figures out of thin air, but I've heard something like 40% can't orgasm through sex alone.

According to Shere Hite and other modern studies, only 30% of women reach orgasm through penetration alone.