When to have 'the chat'

sarmer

Just wondering at what stage people think is a good time to have 'the chat' at the start of the relationship to make things official?

I know some people who were official after 2 weeks, others were a few months. What is considered the norm??

bazmaiden

maybe 3 months, subjective topic tbh

Indubitable

I have never had to have "the chat" everything just fell into place (unless we didn't like each other).

msg11

WHAT?

skepticalone

well, im gonna presume you are a female here ...and the one piece of advice i can give you is this ......say feck all ....cos if ya do , he be gone quicker than he run the opposite direction ....seriously 2 weeks??? wtf ....id be thinking glenn close in that movie where she is a bunny boiler tbh .... enjoy what ya have without making it too serious too soon , thats a huge turn off .

sarmer

Personally I think 2 weeks is very soon too!! But I know 2 couples who were official after 2 weeks and they are still together years later!

Fremen

skepticalone wrote: »

well, im gonna presume you are a female here ...and the one piece of advice i can give you is this ......say feck all ....cos if ya do , he be gone quicker than he run the opposite direction ....seriously 2 weeks??? wtf ....id be thinking glenn close in that movie where she is a bunny boiler tbh .... enjoy what ya have without making it too serious too soon , thats a huge turn off .

Come again?

kiwi123

friend of mine asked this guy out after four dates and she asked him to be her boyfriend. He hasn't text her yet and this is a week later.

I'd say about a between a month and a half and two of like being exclusive. Depends on the couple really!

SugarHigh

skepticalone wrote: »

well, im gonna presume you are a female here ...and the one piece of advice i can give you is this ......say feck all ....cos if ya do , he be gone quicker than he run the opposite direction ....seriously 2 weeks??? wtf ....id be thinking glenn close in that movie where she is a bunny boiler tbh .... enjoy what ya have without making it too serious too soon , thats a huge turn off .

After hours is full of horny teenage boys and bitter middle aged women. Why don't they just solve each others problems?

bazmaiden

Fremen wrote: »

Come again?

thats what she said


BOOM!!!

4zn76tysfajdxp

Probably before the wedding.

My name is URL

It should happen naturally as the relationship progresses.. up until you want to get engaged there shouldn't be any talk of getting serious, imo

I'm single btw, so obviously my advice is foolproof

sarmer

I don't really mean a chat to make things really serious, just the chat to go from casually dating to actually calling someone a boyfriend/girlfriend..

Mint Sauce

chat about what??

alwaysadub

You mean like "Will you be my boyfriend"?

People still do that in adulthood??

Haven't asked that since i was a kid!

skepticalone

SugarHigh wrote: »

After hours is full of horny teenage boys and bitter middle aged women. Why don't they just solve each others problems?

presume you are referring to me there ......im not bitter and i wouldnt screw a teenager ... by the way , did you get up on the wrong side of the bed today? moody ass.

PK2008

You can have it anytime (as long as you're stocious drunk and can deny all memory of it the next morning)



(Anything less than 2 months and she gets the blankety blank cheque book and pen....... didnt she do well........nice to see you, to see you nice....whats a hot spot not............and so on)

southsiderosie

From the title, I thought you meant this chat.

Reganio 2

The the baby is due.

Black Swan

Go to a pub. They'll chat you up right away.

cson

This thread had the potential for hilariousness with a title like "The Chat". Instead it's a shitey relationship question. Pah, thread fail: be gone to Relationship Issues and never come back! :cool:

RonMexico

Jaysus thought this was going to be about her taking it up the chocolate hallway.

SugarHigh

skepticalone wrote: »

presume you are referring to me there ......im not bitter and i wouldnt screw a teenager ... by the way , did you get up on the wrong side of the bed today? moody ass.

I bet your husbands new GF doesn't have that attitude.:D



maybe too far:pac:

skepticalone

RonMexico wrote: »

Jaysus thought this was going to be about her taking it up the chocolate hallway.

o m g ....... you mean not ALL women are familiar with that??? tsk tsk , this is how i get around that one ..... i have a 12 inch dildo and ....if you expect me to take it , you will need to know how it feels first !!! problem solved ....usually .:D

skepticalone

SugarHigh wrote: »

I bet your husbands new GF doesn't have that attitude.:D



maybe too far:pac:

ha ha !!! that cow is welcome to him , im well rid over 3 years now . nice to meet ya .

bazmaiden

skepticalone wrote: »

o m g ....... you mean not ALL women are familiar with that??? tsk tsk , this is how i get around that one ..... i have a 12 inch dildo and ....if you expect me to take it , you will need to know how it feels first !!! problem solved ....usually .:D

wow
are you related to Abi?

4zn76tysfajdxp

skepticalone wrote: »

o m g ....... you mean not ALL women are familiar with that??? tsk tsk , this is how i get around that one ..... i have a 12 inch dildo and ....if you expect me to take it , you will need to know how it feels first !!! problem solved ....usually .:D

Are you busy Friday night?

cson

Didn't think the patrons of AH would be so willing to take 12 inches of rubber up their arse just so they could return the favour. But hey, there is no level of decency in here so I shouldn't be surprised. :pac:

Pherekydes

Where's the option for "Before you start anything"?

Fago!

About 1 and a half to 2 months?

RonMexico

skepticalone wrote: »

o m g ....... you mean not ALL women are familiar with that??? tsk tsk , this is how i get around that one ..... i have a 12 inch dildo and ....if you expect me to take it , you will need to know how it feels first !!! problem solved ....usually .:D

Usually...so you have then?

Bolag_the_2nd

we have become so americanised, back in the day, *COUGH* it was,
Him - Are ya dancing,
Her - are ya asking,
Him - im asking
Her - im dancing
few drinks, quick fumble, pregnancy, marriage, jobs oxo.:)

My name is URL

Bolag_the_2nd wrote: »

few drinks, quick fumble, pregnancy, marriage, jobs oxo.:)

Yeah, them Oxo are gonna come in handy

starbelgrade

Is it just me, or am I the only one who's never had 'the chat'? I never even knew that 'the chat' existed. The last time I asked a youngwan if she'd 'go out with me', I was around 13 years old.

RonMexico

starbelgrade wrote: »

Is it just me, or am I the only one who's never had 'the chat'? I never even knew that 'the chat' existed. The last time I asked a youngwan if she'd 'go out with me', I was around 13 years old.

But that's because it was the last time you went out with somebody.

Abi

bazmaiden wrote: »

wow
are you related to Abi?

Emm. I think thats We'llallhavetea you're thinking of :pac:



That girl would leave ya catchin' flies

southsiderosie

Bolag_the_2nd wrote: »

we have become so americanised, back in the day, *COUGH* it was,
Him - Are ya dancing,
Her - are ya asking,
Him - im asking
Her - im dancing
few drinks, quick fumble, pregnancy, marriage, jobs oxo.:)

An Irish girl once told me a story about a co-worker who went on a date one-on-one with an American guy, and assumed that because they went out alone without other friends that it signified they were boyfriend and girlfriend. She saw him a week later in a bar with another girl and freaked out, calling him everything but a child of god in the middle of the pub.

The Irish are something all right when to comes to dating, but Americanized isn't it. :P

(or this girl was just a lunatic)

jester77

When shagging someone else would cause him/her to get upset, then it's probably time to have the chat...












... and tell them you are seeing someone else

xoixo

Delighted reading through this thread!

I've never had the talk and past two boyfriends it was just a matter of falling into place, we both just knew. And all my friends thought it was bizarre and I should "have the talk" to make sure I wasn't be messed about.

Knew I was right!

jester77

xoixo wrote: »

Delighted reading through this thread!

I've never had the talk and past two boyfriends it was just a matter of falling into place, we both just knew. And all my friends thought it was bizarre and I should "have the talk" to make sure I wasn't be messed about.

Knew I was right!

Are you really sure you are right???

we'llallhavetea_old

Abigayle wrote: »

Emm. I think thats We'llallhavetea you're thinking of :pac:



That girl would leave ya catchin' flies

the perfect opportunity to lob my "12 inch dildo" in your gob :pac:

starbelgrade

RonMexico wrote: »

But that's because it was the last time you went out with somebody.

Yep - and me & youre ma have been happy ever since.

bazmaiden

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

the perfect opportunity to lob my "12 inch dildo" in your gob :pac:

I apologise Abi, you were quite right indeed

Fago!

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

the perfect opportunity to lob my "12 inch dildo" in your gob :pac:

If you and Abi ever cross paths, I wanna be involved.

bazmaiden

Fago! wrote: »

If you and Abi ever cross paths, I wanna be involved.

And throw skepticalone into the mix and its a hoe-down!!!

YE HA!!! *cracks whip

4zn76tysfajdxp

Fago! wrote: »

If you and Abi ever cross paths, I wanna be involved.

Ever see Requiem for a Dream?

we'llallhavetea_old

Fago! wrote: »

If you and Abi ever cross paths, I wanna be involved.

you may want to take personal accident cover

we'llallhavetea_old

Erick Damaged Seashell wrote: »

Ever see Requiem for a Dream?

durty

you bring the coke fago

mail4liam

After the leg-over and a cigarette?

skepticalone

so....when are we all going to have "the chat" ...i come armed with a bag of 12 inchers .....lol:)

Abi

we'llallhavetea wrote: »

the perfect opportunity to lob my "12 inch dildo" in your gob :pac:

bazmaiden wrote: »

I apologise Abi, you were quite right indeed

Ahh. there we go.. all is right with the world again :pac:

Fago! wrote: »

If you and Abi ever cross paths, I wanna be involved.

Only just recently... I asked her out