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LC2010HIS

Anyones weight ever stop them from doing things they would do if they didnt have to worry about it??

Funky Kingston

LC2010HIS wrote: »

Anyones weight ever stop them from doing things they would do if they didnt have to worry about it??

This could be completely off topic but i often lose weight rapidly if i am sick or under stress , its part of a deficiency i have . I have had a pretty hard time over the past few months and lost a ton of weight , I didn't have the energy to go out and do things because i constantly felt tired and sluggish . generally rotten and not in the mood to do things . It is limiting.

Giselle

LC2010HIS wrote: »

Anyones weight ever stop them from doing things they would do if they didnt have to worry about it??

Your life isnt made worth living to the full by reaching some magic number on the scales.

You're living it right now, so make the most of it and sod your weight worries!:)

Not really. I don't really worry about my weight. Except when I'm stressed. Then it just starts dropping off and I get really worried that I'm going to die >.>

Blush_01

Giselle wrote: »

Your life isnt made worth living to the full by reaching some magic number on the scales.

You're living it right now, so make the most of it and sod your weight worries!:)

I think it's about more than magic numbers for some people though. It's easy to say sod your weight worries, but that's the same as saying sod your worries about anything else - work, relationships, where you are in life and so on. It's all totally dependent on how big a part of your life the issue is. Some people can't just get over what's bothering them without help. For a lot of people - be they actually overweight or underweight, or think that they are - there's a huge psychological side to things too.

Yes, my weight stops me from doing some things I want to do and makes me self-conscious a lot of the time. It makes me extremely self conscious at times if I'm honest. Then again, morons yell abuse out their car windows at me when they drive by on a regular basis. It bothers me a lot less than it did before, but it still niggles. Unfortunately, I'm stubborn in a bad way, and whenever something like that happens it tends to make me resolve not to change. I guess I'm a work in progress.

Dinkie

Yes, I'm not huge, but I am a size 14/16. I have put on a lot of weight in the past couple years. I would love to loose it, but am too embarrassed to go to the gym, start running etc.

I also wear really dowdy clothes now - to hide the rolls of fat.

I used to be worse however, my current bf has enabled me to change my perception somewhat. He just doesn't notice my weight issue - eventhough he is slim, etc.

LC2010HIS

i was a grand size 12/14 and im tall so i dont mind.
But ive gained a little since 6th year started, im a stress eater, and its stopped me from dancing when out etc
My mam thinks im bein silly but she doesnt go to school with size 6's

Cupcake_Crisis

I am very concious of what body parts are on show, so id never be naked, or in a swim suit infront of friends, or anyone else for that matter.. But i reckon id be like that no matter my size.

LC2010HIS

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

I am very concious of what body parts are on show, so id never be naked, or in a swim suit infront of friends, or anyone else for that matter.. But i reckon id be like that no matter my size.

same. im upset about my arms atm. so it stops me wearin tshirts alone.
I never had a prob with my arms but the minute i stopped exercisin ,it appeared :eek:

Going swimming; quite often.

Going to ibiza - just would love to experience it for a weekend or something but know I would feel manky

Fluffybums

Buying nice clothes, correction clothes. Find clothes shops depressing, size 16/18 and think Black's tents would be as flattering on me as anything in the normal shops.
Cheap and cheerful jeans and tops are my limit even then only if the current ones have worn out.

Lia_lia

Eh no. Even though there are some things I'd like to change about my body (stretchmarks, yuck), I'm pretty comfortable. Used communal showers a few times where you have to be naked with 10+ other people. Always change my clothes in front of my friends/parents/brother without any awkwardness. It's only weight. You only live once and all that jazz!

jellie

Fluffybums wrote: »

Buying nice clothes, correction clothes. Find clothes shops depressing, size 16/18 and think Black's tents would be as flattering on me as anything in the normal shops.
Cheap and cheerful jeans and tops are my limit even then only if the current ones have worn out.

i used to feel like this. lost some weight, gained some confidence and started dressing differently. now ive put back on some of the weight, so id be a 16/18 too but i havent gone back to hiding my body. if you look and learn to enjoy clothes you can find nice things that flatter your shape. i rarely wear jeans these days, i much prefer dresses - this is personal taste obviously, but i like girly things, and would never have worn a dress before, now you cant get me out of them

rainbow kirby

Used to be very self-conscious about my weight before I lost weight (was a size 18-20, now a 12), but not so much any more. I'm pretty comfortable with my size at the moment and I've no particular desire to be a size 6 because it wouldn't suit me. I don't let my weight stop me from doing anything.

CK75

anyone notice that clothes in shops at the moment are either for young skinny girls or very old women - whats a 30 something woman size 14 supposed to wear?

liah

It's definitely stopped me from swimming or wearing shorts or revealing clothes. I'm not overweight by any means (5'5", fluctuate between size 6-8) but still incredibly self-conscious. I hate being naked in front of anyone. Just completely wrecks my head, because I know every single little flaw and every little bit of me is out on display and I really don't want people to know they exist!

I haven't actually gone swimming in years due to the fact that I'm absolutely terrified of wearing a bathing suit. They are so not flattering!

booyah1024

god yes, my weight stops me doing so much that i want to, mainly asking girls out, as i get up the courage to ask someone out, i look at myself and say "there's no way they'd say yes" so then i don't ask.

CK75

Not all women are very particular about their weight or mens weight - I have friends of all shapes and sizes male and female - if you like a girl ask her out, she might just say "yes"!!!!;)

LC2010HIS

im not huge but my untoned parts stop me doing alot i get very concious

booyah1024

CK75 wrote: »

Not all women are very particular about their weight or mens weight - I have friends of all shapes and sizes male and female - if you like a girl ask her out, she might just say "yes"!!!!;)

tis too late now anyways she's got a boyfriend in the mean time. only thing i keep telling myself it's probably for the best as we both work in the same company so if it went pear shape it would have been really awkward.

like to point out that i'm not huge by anymeans 14 stone.

GirlOfGlass

I generally hate going swimming, I usually walk around with a t-shirt over my bikini on if I'm on holidays, cause I look too skeletal otherwise. Not a pretty sight.

....Woman are never happy.

Lia_lia

Wow. Can't believe how self-conscious people are. Maybe I just have a very confident bunch of friends.

Catari Jaguar

liah wrote: »

It's definitely stopped me from swimming or wearing shorts or revealing clothes. I'm not overweight by any means (5'5", fluctuate between size 6-8)

I haven't actually gone swimming in years due to the fact that I'm absolutely terrified of wearing a bathing suit. They are so not flattering!

Does not compute...

I was a stone heavier but still only 10 -12. Felt crap compared to thinner friend's (especially in photos) but still wore what I wanted and strutted around in a bikini/ (the boobs distract)

When I reach my target weight I know I'll feel amazing

ztoical

Has my weight every stopped me doing stuff? Hmmm maybe honestly can't think of anything off the top of my head and anything it's stopped me doing I prob didn't want to do in the first place. I couldn't run a marathon but most people I know couldn't run one without a lot of training first. I would not look good in skinny jeans, or a tiny string bikini but honestly they aren't think I'd wear not matter what my weight.

To me someones weight stopping them doing something are the people who can't walk, can't get out of bed, need to buy two seats on a plane....those are massive wake up your damaging yourself events. Not being able to fit into some top wouldn't worry me, I just took a dress making class and alter clothes to suit. I've got a small chest but a big ass and most clothes for big ass people are made for big chested people as well so everythings always tight on the bottom and a tent on top but not going to get depressed about not fitting the really narrow cookie cutter world of clothing manufacturers.

I think years spent sharing a flat with a drag queen taught me to not a give a toss what people think, if she could go out in full makeup and heels and rock it then so could I [cept for the heels part, nothing to do with weight just can't walk in the things]

liah wrote: »

I haven't actually gone swimming in years due to the fact that I'm absolutely terrified of wearing a bathing suit. They are so not flattering!

seriously? That's actually really sad [and I mean sad as in sad not your sad, I'm alot bigger then you and go swimming a couple of times a week no bother, would hate not being able to go swimming.] I can understand some people not wanting to get into some string bikini thing and sit around on a beach but that's very different to going swimming wearing a proper bathing suit. I live in an area with a big Muslim population and I see women swimming in my local pool wearing these could be an option if your really that hung up about it but you'd prob get more looks for wearing that then just putting on a plain black bathing suit.

SugarHigh

I fall into the same thought process that a lot of people fall into of thinking "If only 'x' was true than 'y' would be different" like I have always been way too scrawny so I set a goal of gaining a certain amount of weight but even when I achieved it I wasn't that much happier with my body.

It wouldn't stop me from doing anything but it would make more anxious when I'm on a beach or something like that.

liah

ztoical wrote: »

seriously? That's actually really sad [and I mean sad as in sad not your sad, I'm alot bigger then you and go swimming a couple of times a week no bother, would hate not being able to go swimming.] I can understand some people not wanting to get into some string bikini thing and sit around on a beach but that's very different to going swimming wearing a proper bathing suit. I live in an area with a big Muslim population and I see women swimming in my local pool wearing these could be an option if your really that hung up about it but you'd prob get more looks for wearing that then just putting on a plain black bathing suit.

Oh, I know! It is sad. But just because I'm not big doesn't mean I don't have wobbly bits. And I know I should feel comfortable in my own skin, but it's hard sometimes. People can be so judgmental.

Truley

ztoical wrote: »

I live in an area with a big Muslim population and I see women swimming in my local pool wearing these could be an option if your really that hung up about it but you'd prob get more looks for wearing that then just putting on a plain black bathing suit.

Wow those thing are actually pretty cool. Why do swimming suits have to be so skimpy anyway? Despite the fact that I am slim I have always hated the idea of bikinis and skimpy swimsuits. They have no practical advantages and are unflattering to even the fittest of us. A really nice fitting swimsuit or a swimdress look so much better on most women and don't make you feel so 'on display.'

ztoical

Truley wrote: »

Wow those thing are actually pretty cool. Why do swimming suits have to be so skimpy anyway? Despite the fact that I am slim I have always hated the idea of bikinis and skimpy swimsuits. They have no practical advantages and are unflattering to even the fittest of us. A really nice fitting swimsuit or a swimdress look so much better on most women and don't make you feel so 'on display.'

I guess it depends on why your putting the swim suit on. honestly those swimsuits, bikinis and dresses to me are for people who want to lie around the pool/beach and see and be seen. I want to swim and the more you've on the more if gets in the way. My local pool has women only sessions for those who are very uncomfortable and your pretty much 'on show' walking the couple of meters from the dressing room to the pool then your in the water and doing laps.

Asphyxia

It used to for me, I used to be alot heavier a couple years ago and I would hate the thought of going places or even shopping. I would get so depressed looking at all the pretty girl picking up size 8 and 10's. Thankfully it all changed I joined a gym and started exercising properly! I have lost quite bit of weight without needing to diet and can now pick up a healthy size 10!

you*ess*bee

Yes, for sure. I feel very uncomfortable in swimwear, anything close to clingy fabric, shorts, dresses above the knee, etc. Ive already been heavy, but at 5'10" its easier to hide extra weight. That said im still uneasy about certain things, especially getting my photo taken. Id like to go out and enjoy an evening without feeling like people are looking at me, or just confident in general. I know this has to do with my own self esteem to some extent, but celebs/tv does influance the way people think. And a size 12 is now a 'PLUS SIZE', I can only wish I was that size. I currently feel like a whale model. Doesnt help that there isnt a huge rage of clothes for girls my size (18).

And lastly, one of my major pet peeves is clothing companies bringing out some items in a range of sizes from 6-30! I assure you I DO NOT look good in a strapless halter top, nor a pair of booty shorts that a size 8 would get away with wearing. I wish they would start making clothes that are more flattering to the fuller figured lady.

PrettyInPunk

Yes most definately. My weight fluctuates alot between a 10 and 14. Im by no means fat, but still terribly self conscious of how my body looks. Im 5'7 and ill never forget being on a j1 2 years ago at a size 8-10 crying because i felt so fat. Its psychological.

fillefatale

cherub rock wrote: »

Does not compute...

I was a stone heavier but still only 10 -12. Felt crap compared to thinner friend's (especially in photos) but still wore what I wanted and strutted around in a bikini/ (the boobs distract)

When I reach my target weight I know I'll feel amazing

I don't know, skinny girls have issues too, took me a while to believe it too. I'm a 10-12, can't remember when I last had a flat tummy.

I am definitely getting a swimsuit from For Luna, apparently they're very forgiving and retro styles look fabulous on all shapes and sizes!

OP. It does limit me, I feel very self conscious in clothes and sit with my arms crossed over my tummy/wear long cardigans to pull around me, etc. But if I wear a baggy jumper I wear skinnies or tight pants on the bottom to balance it out and display the features I'm most comfortable with.

Nervous Wreck

LC2010HIS wrote: »

Anyones weight ever stop them from doing things they would do if they didnt have to worry about it??

The only thing my weight has ever stopped me from doing that I'd like to for the laugh is sumo wrestling. I'm simply not fat enough.


In general though, it's not a person's weight that stops them from engaging in certain social/public/whatever acts; it's their insecurities about their weight. And tbh, if your insecurities about your weight are causing you to refrain from doing something you'd like to, you need to do one of two things:

1. Lose weight
or
2. Find a way to be happy with your weight.


No use pissing and moaning about something that YOU DO HAVE POWER OVER. If your weight is causing you emotional stress/self-consciousness/whatever, then do something about it. It's your body and you have the power to change it.

monkeyfudge

Blush_01 wrote: »

Then again, morons yell abuse out their car windows at me when they drive by on a regular basis. It bothers me a lot less than it did before, but it still niggles. Unfortunately, I'm stubborn in a bad way, and whenever something like that happens it tends to make me resolve not to change. I guess I'm a work in progress.

Ah. Morons yell crap out of cars for whatever reason that entires their feeble brains.

I've gotten it for wearing a hat, having a beard, wearing glasses and even for having the audacity to carry a bag.

They're the same sort of people who beep and wolf whistle at Hunky Dory crisp adverts on bus shelters. Their opinion doesn't really count for much at all, does it?

starbelgrade

monkeyfudge wrote: »

Ah. Morons yell crap out of cars for whatever reason that entires their feeble brains.

I've gotten it for wearing a hat, having a beard, wearing glasses and even for having the audacity to carry a bag.

They're the same sort of people who beep and wolf whistle at Hunky Dory crisp adverts on bus shelters. Their opinion doesn't really count for much at all, does it?

You're either a man bag wearer or a very hairy woman.

monkeyfudge

starbelgrade wrote: »

You're either a man bag wearer or a very hairy woman.

I have two bags. Both practical. Either for carrying a laptop or books. It's either that or cary my stuff around cradled in my arms.

tatabubbly

Feeling that since i'm going on holidays with my BF who is a stunner that i have to drop a stone before i can even contemplate standing next to her in a bikini, i'd feel like a whale beside her! Made the plunge and bought a years gym membership yesterday

Handsome Bob

Lia_lia wrote: »

Wow. Can't believe how self-conscious people are. Maybe I just have a very confident bunch of friends.

Until you experience it you can't really say that you'd be confident regardless of how you look. Be 16 stone and come back to me.

terlywerly

I would never say my weight acutally stops me from doing things, but it can play a part in things all the same. It can be very demotivating going around shops trying to find flattering clothes when you have weight on, and I know people will say 'oh just buy the next size up' but sometimes that just isn't the answer. Along with the bit of weight I have on, I am also very large in the boob department, so even if I was a size 8 on the bottom (and I have been in the past), I will never be anything but a 12/14 on top, and find it pretty much impossible to buy shirts/blouses. So that can be irritating, but as I said thats more boobs than actual weight.
I'd be very self conscious about my arms though, and the tops of my legs. I wouldn't normally wear sleveless things unless I was melted with the heat and that doesn't happen very often in Ireland. And swimsuits can be awkward as well (boobs+weight), but I'm not really that pushed about swimming.
It is all a state of mind though, and I try not to let it upset me too much, but we do all have our bad moments.

barleybooley

Meh, a little sometimes I guess. I'd never wear a bikini, too much flab that wobbles with any movement. OH brightens up any self conscious days with "but baby, I think you're beautiful" and I know he really means it.

What really annoys me is my overly pasty, overly hairy skin, bloody Celtic genes

beks101

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

tbh, if your insecurities about your weight are causing you to refrain from doing something you'd like to, you need to do one of two things:

1. Lose weight
or
2. Find a way to be happy with your weight.


No use pissing and moaning about something that YOU DO HAVE POWER OVER. If your weight is causing you emotional stress/self-consciousness/whatever, then do something about it. It's your body and you have the power to change it.

While I 100% agree with this, if only it were that easy! That's a guy's attitude towards food and weight (and to be fair, a common attitude guys have) but I think for a myriad of reasons weight is a psychological thing far more for women than it is for men.

If it was as simple as 'right, I'm going to lose a stone and then I'll feel better about myself' and a few months later, BAM, you're a stone lighter and ready to rock n roll...eating disorders, eating distress and body insecurities would be a thing of the past.

I remember coming home from the States after a J1 a few years back looking like a starved Somalian orphan and my Dad thinking I was the most selfish and deranged creature on the face of the planet for refusing point blank to eat properly and gain the weight I so obviously needed, it just made no logical sense.

For the most part IME anyway weight insecurities just don't make any logical sense - I've had two slim friends (size eight and size ten) recently blame their respective recent break-ups on their weight and vow to lose a stone in an effort to feel better about themselves and I've a size eight sister who thinks she's a whale. None of these girls needs to lose weight, yes they need to find a way to be happy with their weight but it's not as easy as making the decision and snapping out of the mentality of a lifetime.

Personally, I always want to be thinner, but even when I was a size six I thought I was hideous, I've sort of accepted I'll never be fully happy. It stops me from wearing certain types of clothes sometimes, but that's about the extent of it really. Togs are a bit of a phobia too though! :eek:

Dudess

I'm an "apple" shape which is great in a lot of ways as it means slender lower body: slim legs, small bum, narrow hips; then on the upper bod: ample boobage. But the trade-off is major susceptability to a spare tyre, so I have to watch what I eat - anything wheat-based is a no-no or a rarity (and the brown version at that). It's not just because of how it would look or so I can buy tops that are fitted at the waist, it's for health reasons. Fat around the waist is quite dangerous as it covers vital organs, plus it increases a person's risk of developing type 2 diabetes dramatically.

The Big Red Button

You know how a lot of anorexics have Body Dysmorphic Disorder ... I think that I have that, except in the opposite form!

The scales tell me that I've put on weight ... I need to buy clothes two sizes bigger than normal ... my friends and parents subtly or not-so-subtly comment on my weight gain ... but I look in the mirror, and don't think I look all that heavy at all!

I'm not a whole lot overweight at all by any standards, but I am trying to lose weight at the moment, because of the above reasons. I mentioned my diet to my friend, and she said "Ah sure you piled all the weight on so fast, you'll lose it again just as quickly!" I was kind of shocked, I was expecting her to say I didn't need to lose any! Similarly, my boyfriend commented last weekend that I'd lost a load of weight already - I hadn't thought I had all that much to lose.

But yeah, I don't think my weight has ever stopped me doing anything. I wouldn't really have any shame in traipsing about in a bikini at the pool or on holidays or whatever. And I woudn't think twice about getting changed in front of my friends, I do it all the time!

If anything, I'm too thickskinned (there's a pun in there somewhere!) when it comes to my weight. I mean, I know that at the moment I have a wee bit extra that I should get rid of, but I sure as hell am not going to miss out on anything between now and the time that I manage to do so. I amn't ever going to be perfect - if I was a size zero I still wouldn't be perfect. No point in dwelling on it - I'm young and relatively healthy, and I'm just going to enjoy life

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Blush_01

monkeyfudge wrote: »

Ah. Morons yell crap out of cars for whatever reason that entires their feeble brains.

I've gotten it for wearing a hat, having a beard, wearing glasses and even for having the audacity to carry a bag.

They're the same sort of people who beep and wolf whistle at Hunky Dory crisp adverts on bus shelters. Their opinion doesn't really count for much at all, does it?

Ah c'mere, I know that. But it still hurts when you're walking up to your front door and some scumbag sticks his head out the window to have a go at you while driving rapidly in the opposite direction. I always want to come back with something cutting and intelligent, but I'm always so gobsmacked.

I do firmly believe that people treat you the way you let them treat you - but sometimes it's nigh on impossible to figure out how to stop letting them treat you like crap.

Weight is emotional as well as physical. There's no getting around that. It's not an excuse, but it is something that needs to be taken into consideration. There's a reason for every action you take - even if it's boredom or so subconscious that you don't quite know what it is yourself. If you don't kill the root of a weed, it'll still grow back. Weight problems are the same. That applies regardless of what kind of weight problem you have IMO.

Birdie086

You know how a lot of anorexics have Body Dysmorphic Disorder ... I think that I have that, except in the opposite form!

The scales tell me that I've put on weight ... I need to buy clothes two sizes bigger than normal ... my friends and parents subtly or not-so-subtly comment on my weight gain ... but I look in the mirror, and don't think I look all that heavy at all!

This is me, I am a 16 at the mo, but look my best at a 12, when i look i n the mirror i see a 12 even though i know i am nearly 3 stone above my size 12 weight!!!! Started my diet again today, this i start once a week for about two days!!!(and only cos tis my belly annoys me)

My wieght doesnt stop me doing anything, I go to spin classes with the skinnies four/five times a week, am confident but like everyone have bad days. I feel sorry for anyone who feels their weight - be they over or under, holds them back. I think as most peoples get older they do get more real confidence, at least this has been the case for me and my friends.

Dudess

sashafierce wrote: »

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That makes me sad.

E-huggles...

Blush, those comments must be devastating, no matter who makes them...

Wibbs

chatterpillar wrote: »

You know how a lot of anorexics have Body Dysmorphic Disorder ... I think that I have that, except in the opposite form!

The scales tell me that I've put on weight ... I need to buy clothes two sizes bigger than normal ... my friends and parents subtly or not-so-subtly comment on my weight gain ... but I look in the mirror, and don't think I look all that heavy at all!

I'm not a whole lot overweight at all by any standards, but I am trying to lose weight at the moment, because of the above reasons. I mentioned my diet to my friend, and she said "Ah sure you piled all the weight on so fast, you'll lose it again just as quickly!" I was kind of shocked, I was expecting her to say I didn't need to lose any! Similarly, my boyfriend commented last weekend that I'd lost a load of weight already - I hadn't thought I had all that much to lose.

But yeah, I don't think my weight has ever stopped me doing anything. I wouldn't really have any shame in traipsing about in a bikini at the pool or on holidays or whatever. And I woudn't think twice about getting changed in front of my friends, I do it all the time!

If anything, I'm too thickskinned (there's a pun in there somewhere!) when it comes to my weight. I mean, I know that at the moment I have a wee bit extra that I should get rid of, but I sure as hell am not going to miss out on anything between now and the time that I manage to do so. I amn't ever going to be perfect - if I was a size zero I still wouldn't be perfect. No point in dwelling on it - I'm young and relatively healthy, and I'm just going to enjoy life

You're normal and well balanced. :eek: Congrats and BTW do you do masterclasses? I have these issues you see....

Blush_01 wrote: »

Weight is emotional as well as physical.

+1000 and nail on the head. Generally with guys its an abstract thing, a number,that they can choose to work with of choose to ignore. Chunky men are less, much less taken to task by their peers over tehir weight. Eat less, move more defo works better on men as a general thing.

sashafierce

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miss5

I think people place so much emphasis on physical appearance that personsality,
attitude, and intelligence all become overlooked and are sadly undervalued.
I don't think weight should stop anyone doing what they want.

metaoblivia

No, my weight has never stopped me from doing things, going places, or wearing certain clothes. I feel completely comfortable in a bikini and I have no problem changing in front of others. I honestly don't ever consider what others might be thinking about my body. It is what it is, and if they don't like it... oh well!