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  • 15-05-2010 2:16am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I know i shouldn't be starting this thread.

    But i cannot get over this woman. I refuse to.

    She broke up with me over a year ago after going out for 4 years, but we were young and i was stupid.

    She broke up with me at a time where i needed her, and while i think she should have at least offered me the support that i gave so willingly to her, i do think she was justified in what she did.

    I've kinda met somebody else, she hasn't...

    but i can't commit, or even contemplate commiting to somebody else when i'm not even close to being over her.

    I keep thinking i am, and then something will remind me of her, or i'll dream about her, or aaaaaagh

    i don't have a question, i'm just ****ing sick of being in no-mans-land, and want so badly to move on but at the same time i don't want to get over her.

    /bangs face off table


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  • #2
    smileyscientist
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 77 ✭✭smileyscientist


    OP I understand completely what you are going through. Its mental torture. My relationship just skidded to a sudden end a few days ago and although its much more recent than yours its still hurts like hell:(

    First of all I would advise you to let the other woman off the hook if you have no interest on that front, Its unfair to both you and even more so to her. But you do need to give yourself space to allow yourself to deal with the end of the previous relationship. The old advice of 'get over someone by getting under another' just doesnt work when you are not emotionally ready for that and as you have already learned, makes you miss them more..minefield

    Get out, enjoy being single and spending time in your own company. Reconnect with friends, take up a new hobby( I know it sounds cliched)but it DOES work!:D

    Stop looking for someone to replace your ex. Give yourself time to get over her and dont rush it. I always think the end of a loving relationship is like the death of a loved one, the only differnece is they go on to live their life, just not in your life so its natural and essential to grieve.

    If in a few weeks time, you find no change in feeling like this, then maybe consider talking to someone a little more qualified to lend advice. It can only help.

    I dont know what else I can say to you. Just take your time and dont push yourself to get over them, thats not to say you should wait around pining for them, the very opposite in fact, get over them actively by acknowledging that by letting them go you are giving yourself the best gift- the opportunity of finding someone who truely appreciates and deserves your love:)

    Be strong x x


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