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LegacyUser

married with one child..ill keep this short like my sex...i have always suffered from PE unless i drink about 4 or 5 beers and smoke a joint in which case i can last a little while ..in my 8 years with my partner i have made her cum with my knob alone about 4 or 5 times..i have been told of the start stop method and the practicing of the muscle to prevent this..nothing has worked for me and i find now i depend on alcohol to even inititiate sex..so its reached a head now where my partner wont have sex with me at all because its over so fast. i really want to sort this so we have decided i should go to the doc and get viagra spray,,i have no hassle getting a boner but i am presuming that one i come the first time with this spray ill last for ages with a boner..havent gone to doc yet but i am goin this week..tried the desensitising johnnys too and they sont work very well either. i am at my wits end..sex is not a pleasure at all because its over so fast. please give me hints or tips or will viagra work for me?

Xiney

no medical advice, folks - that's for his doctor to sort out. So no telling him if viagra will work because we're not qualified to make that judgement ok?

Acoshla

quickdrawmcgrath wrote: »

in my 8 years with my partner i have made her cum with my knob alone about 4 or 5 times..

so its reached a head now where my partner wont have sex with me at all because its over so fast

First of all women mainly come through clitoral stimulation, there's a lot of women out there who never come during penetrative sex, so that's not your fault or anything, and you shouldn't feel like it is. The emphasis should be on having a good time not keeping track of that. Can't you do that for her in other ways anyway?

Secondly, the stress of having your partner refuse is hardly helpful to you, pressure to perform would make even the most confident long lasting lovers get nervous, I understand it must be difficult for your partner but at the same time she's not helping by making you feel even worse about it than you already do. You need her support, I think you should definitely talk to her about this.

LegacyUser

thanks for that....i do make her cum with my mouth or my hands whenever she want and i always make her cum sometimes 3 times in a row if i am energetic..ok so its not the point of cumming perhaps but its more of a case of her enjoying me inside her which is fine as i love it too and her wanting it to last longer than 60 seconds. another thing is i really love blow jobs and she doesnt go down on me..she said that if i last longer in the sack then she will reward me with blowjobs. i have gotten about 8 in the last 8 years..i even said recently that i want blowjobs so much that i had thought of goin to a hooker..in my stupidity i thought this may make her her want to pleasure me more because all i get is the odd **** and 60 second sex which i dont even get anymore..at least i really love bjs and i last longer than sex..

S23

You could try using those condoms that have the stuff on the inside of them that desensitizes your penis. I think the basic premise is that they numb the tip of your penis for a while so you are less likely to cum. It should ensure you last a while before it wears off then you should be able to cum while, hopefully, the extra time you've spent at it should mean your partner is more likely to cum as well?

Just looked it up they are called Durex Performa

muinteoir09

S23 wrote: »

You could try using those condoms that have the stuff on the inside of them that desensitizes your penis. I think the basic premise is that they numb the tip of your penis for a while so you are less likely to cum. It should ensure you last a while before it wears off then you should be able to cum while, hopefully, the extra time you've spent at it should mean your partner is more likely to cum as well?

Just looked it up they are called Durex Performa

He's already tried this - didn't work.

OP - firstly, as has been said, most women don't cum from penetrative sex so don't worry about that. Secondly, pressure to perform for longer will not help the problem. I realise that you can't help but get stressed but you and your partner need to sit down and talk and agree to remove the pressure and the stress for the bedroom - talk of hookers won't help this.