interested or not?

LegacyUser

I've gone out with this girl a good few times now. We're dating but aren't bf/gf yet. Anyway I like her a lot and we get on really well. The problem is on the last two dates she brought along her younger relative who is quite close to her. She was apologetic and asked me if it was ok with me if he went. She said that he asked if he could come along. Its a bit opf a buzz kill as I'm sure you can imagine!!! Anyway my question is should I be flattered that she feels comfortable enough and trusting enough of me to bring a younger relative along or should I be worried that she's doing this to fob me off?

whatsamsn

I can definitely see why you are worried op.

The problem is its too hard to come down on one side right now. It could just be she was lumbered with her younger relative. Being coaxed into doing stuff with them, hence why bringing them along. Or it could be a sign that that she doesnt want to have solo dates which means only one thing, as i imagine you are thinking by asking on here.


Best advice is to judge what happenes next.
If it is indeed her just being lumbered with this relative, dates will naturally go back to just you and her.
If they dont, and more importantly other signs pop up - such as dates are becoming less frequent, or instead of dates being you and her take shape in other forms - such as a date being a "night out" - were you go drinking with her and its a night out with all her friends too, or even any social activity with her friends involved... then i think you know your answer.


Best advice is to keep your eyes open here and read the picture. You'll know one way or the other very soon.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice. I am naturally hoping for thne best at the moment but asyou say I need to keep an open mind. I just think its a strange thing to do if she's not interested though. Surely she could just tell me or else not respond to texts???

Barracudaincork

to worry or not to worry wrote: »

I've gone out with this girl a good few times now. We're dating but aren't bf/gf yet.

Can I ask what age you are and if you have had sex yet?

I only ask because if she is younger or even if she is shy she may not want to be "alone" with you in case you make a move (a natural progression) and she feels uncomfortable with saying not yet etc or she is afraid you will dump her etc if she makes you wait.

If you are already having sex then it could just be she got landed with her cousin last minute, wait and see what happens next and if it happens again, tell her you'd like to just hang out with the two of you, although its cool if her cousin comes along every so often.

LegacyUser

Hi Barracudaincork. Thanks for the reply. We're both mid twenties and haven't had sex yet (with each other). She had a bf for a really long time before this (8 years). They broke up about a year ago though. Perhaps this has some bearing on things. I do understand what you mean about the uncomfortable part in relation to sex and that could be very true. Perhaps there is light at the end of the tunnel :-).