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Enough sex???

  • 04-05-2010 6:26pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Another thread here got me thinking about this and I didn't want to hi-jack it so decided I would start my own.

    Me and the bf probably have sex 7-8 times a week on average. We would engage most nights, and weekend mornings and during the day sometimes also. It does vary but I would say it never goes below 4 - times a week. I think this is fairly healthy but I do find at times that I am turning my bf down just because I'm so tired or whatever.

    I work in a pretty busy job and often stay late, I also am studying part-time so all in all things can get pretty full on at times and some evenings I just need to sleep. Most of the time he understands and is fine (even during these times I feel bad), other times he sort of pushes it a bit and won't take a hint so i have to say straight out that I'm just too exhausted, these times I feel really, really bad, it sort of feels like an inadequate excuse.

    I can't think of one occasion when he has turned me down when I've initiated sex and I'm wondering if it's something that might really bother him or if I'm beating myself up over nothing.

    Any guys opinions would be appreciated, not a major issue I know.


Comments

  • #2
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    have you asked him how he feels about it?


  • #3
    TitoPuente
    Closed Accounts Posts: 549 ✭✭✭TitoPuente


    If you're not in the mood some nights because you're tired then you're not in the mood. If your boyfriend is a considerate, understanding person then he won't mind. People aren't sex robots!


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yes I have, he says he is perfectly happy with our sex life. TBH that should be enough for me but I am a worrier by nature... If there isn't an actual problem, I'll find something to worry about


  • #5
    rediguana25
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 89 ✭✭rediguana25


    enoughsex wrote: »
    Yes I have, he says he is perfectly happy with our sex life. TBH that should be enough for me but I am a worrier by nature... If there isn't an actual problem, I'll find something to worry about

    Sounds like ur just creating problems in your head- stop the worrying it never does you any good. Get on with your life, ur study and ur job- be open with ur bf and enjoy the time you are together- all your really doing is letting your thoughts get in the way- life is too short- so relax and stop letting your negative thoughts ruin what u have


  • #6
    vicecreamsundae
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 793 ✭✭✭vicecreamsundae


    OP, if you're worried about it , and if turning him down when you're exhausted makes you feel guilty then just explain to him that when you turn him down it's only because you're truly wrecked and that you'd hate for him to think it's something personal. a little reassurance can go a long way!
    but it doesn't sound like he has taken it personally, so i wouldn't fret if i were you.


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