Potential awkward meeting with ex at wedding looms...

LegacyUser

Howdee,

This is not an immediate concern, but it will be happening, and will probably happen in an informal situation before then. I've never been in that position before. What do I say? Do I acknowledge them? Do I talk to them? Do I just make small talk to be civil?
Thing is, I would imagine they will be at the wedding with some guy in the future (maybe not..), but will more than likely be. I don't know if I will be with someone or not at it as I'm not with anyone at the moment. So, If they are with someone, I'll feel like a right t*t, being on my own in front of them, almost humiliation like "look at him, he's a disaster, still can't hold onto a woman".

If I am with someone, then it could be awkward too, being all lovey dovey in front of an ex, though I would be sure if I am going out with someone by then, I'll be happy with that person, so I won't give a fiddlers feck about her.
But, chances are we will pass each other on the way to the bar. Do I just say "hi" and walk on, or what's the best thing to do in that situation, seeing as we will be in the same room for most of the day.

With this person, it ended fairly quickly with not 100% closure (for me anyways). I do feel awkward about this day when it looms, uncomfortable in fact....

profitius

You're overthing things way too much.


Best tip I can give you is not to give a F*** what people think. Is she still that important to you that you're worried about what she'll think?

LegacyUser

the more I think about it, I would have absolutely nothing to say to this person if I ever meet them again, so yeah, what am I getting all bothered about........I dunno....I just don't like awkward situations like that..

profitius

hoolahooped wrote: »

the more I think about it, I would have absolutely nothing to say to this person if I ever meet them again, so yeah, what am I getting all bothered about........I dunno....I just don't like awkward situations like that..

Its only as awkward as you think it is.

Look at it from her point of view. If you seem awkward around her she'll notice and it'll make her feel awkward around you but if you couldn't care less she'll notice that too and things will go smoothly. All these things are in the head.

LegacyUser

more I think about it, the more pi*sed off I'm getting thinking about, so I really think I'll just stay at the opposite side of the room to her...

krudler

hoolahooped wrote: »

more I think about it, the more pi*sed off I'm getting thinking about, so I really think I'll just stay at the opposite side of the room to her...

dont, be the bigger person and go right up to her, be polite,ask how she is, if she's with someone introduce yourself. Show that you've gotten on with life and havent turned into one of those "but I cant go my ex will be there!" people. lifes too short to be worrying about this kind of stuff, just go and enjoy the night, its a wedding so there'll be plenty of single women there

magneticimpulse

if it bothers you that much dont go to the wedding!!! seriously why wreck your head over it. your clearly not over it...because if you were, you wouldnt even think about it.

how far away is the wedding? dont date someone before it just to bring them to the wedding, that would be really mean to the other person.

if your by yourself and single...so what. if you decide to go, go and be strong. bring a relative or best mate (even if its a bloke). ive been invited to a wedding and im bringing a female friend. so what if im single...im going to have a good time with my friend and dance away.

worse comes to worse, bring a mate...yis can have a laugh, drink at the bar and you will totally forget her (never know she might be single too). either way it could be like "wedding crashers" with your friend

greenprincess

I think just go and enjoy yourself. If you have someone you want to bring, bring them, if you dont, then go alone. She'll see that you are moving on with your life and you are just being yourself. That your not trying to 'one up her' because you dont care what she or anyone else thinks. Also if she still has feeling for you seeing you just being yourself will make her really jealous!

LegacyUser

krudler wrote: »

dont, be the bigger person and go right up to her, be polite,ask how she is, if she's with someone introduce yourself. Show that you've gotten on with life and havent turned into one of those "but I cant go my ex will be there!" people. lifes too short to be worrying about this kind of stuff, just go and enjoy the night, its a wedding so there'll be plenty of single women there

weddings are a disaster for single women lol..
yeah, I should just go and be myself. No way I'm bringing someone just for the sake of it...I'd rather go alone...