How many good friends do you have?

gagiteebo

Sometimes things happen that make you realise how many true friends you actually have. Something along these lines has happened to me recently and it was a shock and somewhat hurtful to realise that some of the people I thought were my good friends...well weren't. I know I'm better off knowing, I'd rather have a few good friends than loads of false friends.

I'd say I have about 2 or 3 people I would now class as true friends. The type that will be there for you no matter what and I feel lucky to have them.

So how many do you all have? Not including parents or siblings, relatives as they can make good friends too but people you've met through school, work etc

El Horseboxo

My close friends are the ones the i see outside of drinking. Out of the group of 20 or so people i'd regularly head out with i reckon only 5 of them are actually close friends that i could depend on for other things.

almostnever

Three or four, maybe five at a push.

Rabies

I've got my old best mates back in Ireland. Still in touch with those boys. We have know each other for 25yrs and counting.
Have a great bunch of mates here too. Got my back on everything, proven times.

Apart from that I have loads of friends too.

Facebook tells me I have waaaaay more though

Bodhisopha

I ain't got no motherfúcking friends.

brummytom

Yeah I'd say 2 or 3 real friends, then a few more 'mates'

minidazzler

I have a few really good friends who I would expect to have my back, I would hazard 5/6 of them. There are far more who I would have their backs, but couldn't really count on them to help me.

gagiteebo

minidazzler wrote: »

I have a few really good friends who I would expect to have my back, I would hazard 5/6 of them. There are far more who I would have their backs, but couldn't really count on them to help me.

Yeah I know what you mean...however why would you be there for someone who wouldn't be there for you?

Asphyxia

Thinking just now I would say I have 3 people that I could really count on completly to be there for me and that I could confide in and trust, after that I may have about 7 people who I would hang out with but I wouldn't be as close with. I am very cautious to whom I would trust as it has come back and bit me in the ass before. I am pretty happy with the 3 people I can trust.

weiland79

Will YOU be my friend?:(

gagiteebo

Pocketfizz wrote: »

Thinking just now I would say I have 3 people that I could really count on completly to be there for me and that I could confide in and trust, after that I may have about 7 people who I would hang out with but I wouldn't be as close with. I am very cautious to whom I would trust as it has come back and bit me in the ass before. I am pretty happy with the 3 people I can trust.

Yeah I would be cautious too for the same reasons....am finding it more difficult to figure out who I can and cannot trust these days though....a lot of people seem to have their own agenda :rolleyes: But like yourself I'm happy with my small group I see some people with 20/30 friends that they hang around with and I honestly wonder how many of them could they actually trust.

Mars Bar

I have my 3 best friends.

I still have friends that would have been my best friends back in primary school that I still keep in touch with and stuff but wouldn't be texting them every day or anything.

As the saying goes, it's quality, not quantity.

AckwelFoley

I had 3 until i ate them

phasers

I have 2 best friends and 2 good friends

I hate pretty much everyone else I'm forced to interact with.

sarmer

I have 5 best friends from college and 3 best friends from school. All would be the type of friends who would be there in a heartbeat if I needed them and I can tell anything to. Also have maybe another 6 or 7 who I'd be quite good friends with - would meet for lunch and gossip/talk about boy problems - and plenty of acquaintances also. I am also very close to other females in my family - mum, aunt, cousins - no sisters as I am an only child. Probably why I've gone out and made many close friends.

Unfortunately I'm bad with boyfriends though

LoanShark

I hang around with agroup of 12, known each other since secondary school...Out of that there is 3 that I would call on Day or night

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Op-4iqRCDV4

Biggins

Bodhisopha wrote: »

I ain't got no motherfúcking friends.

Thats good to hear - your ma is safe then!
MILF is over-rated!

minidazzler

gagiteebo wrote: »

Yeah I know what you mean...however why would you be there for someone who wouldn't be there for you?

Because I am a better friend than some of them are!

Lia_lia

I'd say 5 or 6. I've lots of other friends but they wouldn't be that close.

Bodhisopha

Biggins wrote: »

Thats good to hear - your ma is safe then!
MILF is over-rated!

Believe me, she is no MILF!

But i'll tell her you said so, it'll make her day.

LoanShark

Bodhisopha wrote: »

Believe me, she is no MILF!

But i'll tell her you said so, it'll make her day.

Pictures please...And we will be the deciding officers if shes a MILF or not!

entropi

I've plenty of friends and aquaintances, but true friends I could trust with my life? not many...maybe 4 or 5 at the most.

Kasabian

2 and a half

msg11

So did ye ride someones fella or bird?

recylingbin

Wait til I check facebook...

edit: Facebook says: 219.

AckwelFoley

phasers wrote: »

I have 2 best friends and 2 good friends

I hate pretty much everyone else I'm forced to interact with.

pfft. No you dont.

internet doesnt count

Scarydoll

Do sisters count? Otherwise I've none:(

elleburp

4 good friends and my sister

Although there's only some things I'd tell either of those 4. The only one who knows me inside out is my sis

epgc3fyqirnbsx

My mam is my friend

Deus Ex Machina

An interesting thing which is emerging here is the criteria which people apply in order to distinguish real friends from the others. Is "having my back" in all circumstances really a trait which one would want in a friend? I know people who are generous and helpful, but I don't have all that much in common with them, I also know people who would have no problem helping me out if I desreved it, but if I was in the wrong they would have no problem making that very clear, and they certainly wouldn't be leaping in to help me unduly.

I do think trust is important, but for me at least it has to be based on something more than some sort of mindless loyalty. The reason my friends are my friends is because we are enjoy each others company because we are sufficiently different from one another (or obstinate) to allow interesting conversation, we have respect for each other, and, probably due to a combination of the above, we are able to almost completely honest with each other. I say almost because I don't think anybody in this world is completely honest all the time.

So to answer the question, real friends, I have two.

InkSlinger67

Cohen Ripe Resistance wrote: »

My mam is my friend

Agnes: Seymour, are you looking at naked ladies on the Internet?
Seymour: Of course not, mother!
Agnes: Sissy!

Sorry!

ChocolateSauce

3-5, depending on a variety of factors far too complicated to try and articulate.

Caoimhín

I have many acquaintances but only about 7 good friends, of whom i would give my life for.

force majeure

Do 5ft imaginary rabbits who speak english count!!!:rolleyes: hold on my VBF is needling me to lend them a fiver. :cool:

KittyeeTrix

Less since I joined Boards..........but fcuk it I don't care:D

helimachoptor

4 really good mates, 1 is recent enough but a few other friends similar to most people i'd say. You generally grow out of people and it takes a lot of effort to keep real friendships going

Des Carter

dont have any friends, only acquaintances caues the truth is that when push comes to shove basic instinct is to look out for your own survival etc and as a result your "friends" will turn their back on you/stab you in the back in a second if it will benefit them.

A possible exception would be familly or BF/GF or spouse but even this is rare if the situation is serious enough.

meathman1

im a young lad,have 2 lads i could trust..3 girls though

Novella

I have one really, really good friend. I'd do anything for him and I know he'd do anything for me. Other than him, I wouldn't count on anyone else tbh. I mean, I have lots of friends, but no one quite like him.

Ickle Magoo

My sister is my best friend and we speak daily...I have two really, really good friends at home who were my bridesmaids and we've known each other for 15 yrs or so...and here I have a group of 6 close friends whom I met when I went to a baby group and now our kids are in school together.

Killer Pigeon

I have zero friend but I do have acquaintances.

MeerKat17

I'd say 4/5 really good friends that I'd trust with anything.

triple-M

none everyone seems to have stabbed me in the back at some stage or another

DazMarz

Two or three. These would be the people I would turn to when life seems to have truly gone arse-over-tits on me. Thankfully it's never happened, but I've been there for them whenever they needed me, and I'd hope I could rely on them in the future if/when I need them.

KittyeeTrix

plenty of friends but really only one I would tell absolutely everything to:)

chocgirl

I only have 3 or 4 "good" friends, doesn't seem like many when I think about it:(

Slow Show

I'm not sure if I have friends that would stick with me through anything, or ones I would always be friends with.
But out of my circle of friends; I'd say I have three close friends, maybe four or five. These are the ones I can tell anything to.