People are such Assholes

LegacyUser

I am just wondering if anyone else ever gets really down about society? I actually get very depressed about how horrible people as a whole are. I'm talking about people cheating on people they supposedly love all the time, people screwing other's over, people being so self centered. There just seems to be such a lack of respect for your common man. The other day I had a colleague making jokes about a married women with kids he slept with and I was just disgusted. Today I saw an old lady drop a 50euro note and a lady behind her pick it up and put it into her bag! I told the old lady but she didnt understand and the women denied it and started walking off before the old women realised. Its stuff like that, it really gets me down. People just dont seem to give a **** anymore its every man for himself. I've been fortunate in that I've never had anything bad happen to me just seen it happen to others but it still really depresses me. I dont have time for much people these days its like I can see right through them. I hate modern society. The obsession with celebritites, the greed
I cant really describe it but does anyone just feel that our society is so pathetic and depressing?

Zaph

Sorry OP, but is there a particular issue you need help with, or is this just a general discussion about how the world isn't that great a place any more. If it's the latter, the Humanities forum might be a better place for such a discussion.

nyarlothothep

Its a perplexing dichotomy. The world is more civilized nowadays than back in the middle ages, maybe the good spirit in humanity comes through in the long run. There are two sides to the coin I think and it depends which one you want to look at more.

LegacyUser

Zaph wrote: »

Sorry OP, but is there a particular issue you need help with, or is this just a general discussion about how the world isn't that great a place any more. If it's the latter, the Humanities forum might be a better place for such a discussion.

It's been getting me seriously depressed. Then sometimes I think im wrong and maybe its me that has the issue and no one else. Just wondering if anyone else agrees or what?

tenchi-fan

societyblues wrote: »

It's been getting me seriously depressed. Then sometimes I think im wrong and maybe its me that has the issue and no one else. Just wondering if anyone else agrees or what?

I think this is what you call externalising your problems.

seosamh1980

YOU'RE common, how do you like them apples?

Ickle Magoo

It's depressing if you only concentrate on the bad stuff. What about all the nice people doing good things? Join a charity or volunteer and meet some people who give their time and expertise out of nice-ness. Ignore the negative and look for the positives; people helping little old ladies across the road, raising money for charity, volunteering, holding doors open, fighting for injustices and those less fortunate. Plenty to be proud of and celebrate too, if you look. :cool:

epgc3fyqirnbsx

You're focusing on the negatives.
There's lots of positives there aswell, you just need to try to focus on them. You'll only get upset otherwise, which is what is happening.
It's easy to train yourself to focus on the good stuff with a bit of practice and it doesn't stop you from being a realist either, you'll just be a positive one.
Dont sweat the small stuff, its not worth it

Silverfish

seosamh1980 wrote: »

YOU'RE common, how do you like them apples?

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Thank you.

bedrock#1

hi OP,

it's funny you mention the woman putting the 50 in her bag and walking off.... I had a similar experience about 3 weeks ago outside Connolly station. I crossed the road to head towards Talbot street and this drunken man must have been about 55/60 dropped €20 in front of me behind him, i picked it up and gave him a tap on the shoulder and gave it back to him. he tried to give me a fiver and was telling me he'd but me a pint for being so honest, i declined, i was heading to a mates flat.... so there are decent people out there it just seems dishonest people are like buses for you ... they all come at once... :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

this is probably going aa bit off topic.... but i have been feelin extremely negative lately about everything, i think people are nothing but assholes as well for the most part, i dont want to get to know new people anymore as i just feel so cynical, i'm tired of trusting people only to realise they've landed me in some sh!t. I lost my job due to the recession, although didn't like the job so not a huge loss maybe.. but even with regards to retraining, i honestly dont see the point as i just think there is no chance i'll get a job, its like i just dont want to try anymore i've just about had it with everything.
it seems impossible to change my mindset though i know its only making my situation worse. i'm just really anxious as well like i can barely eat sometimes i feel so nauseous thinking about all the mistakes i've made and worried about making a move in case its another mistake. i need to get out of this frame of mind and believe positive things will happen

feel free to delete my post

bedrock#1

doesn't seem off topic at all.... a lot of people feel the same (me included). you should try and look into WHY it is the way it is... read some Marx, Plato, Foucault these are people who really thought about this stuff it might inspire you to make a difference....

Denimgirl

I do think like you and get disappointed in how people behave towards eachother,but we live in a world oan't change free will and you can't stop people being nasty, cheating, or selfish to eachother.The way I look at life is I can't change the world but I can change my world I choose to have nice genuine people in it,and I try to be the best person I can be.thats all you can do really!the problems of the world were here before we were born and will be here after we're gone so no point wasting time getting yourself down about it,enjoy your life

Denimgirl

what could be the problem is having too much time on your hands to think about these things and I don't mean that in a smart way!I have just been made redundant also a couple of weeks ago i did'nt like my job so was'nt too upset in fact not at all.I think the other posters are right as to join a group and change your way of thinking the moment you get a negative thought stop and turned it into a positive one.

bedrock#1

Denimgirl wrote: »

I do think like you and get disappointed in how people behave towards eachother,but we live in a world oan't change free will and you can't stop people being nasty, cheating, or selfish to eachother.The way I look at life is I can't change the world but I can change my world I choose to have nice genuine people in it,and I try to be the best person I can be.thats all you can do really!the problems of the world were here before we were born and will be here after we're gone so no point wasting time getting yourself down about it,enjoy your life

You hit the nail on the head Demingirl

"For a man to conquer himself is the first and noblest of all victories" ..... PLATO

if everyone conquered themselves where would the problems lie???

wurzlitzer

I agree with the OP, people are becoming very selfish, inconsiderate false.
I'm alright Jack attitude.

I am see so much indecent behaviour, it makes me furious sometimes.
But on the otherhand, i happen to have amazing friends and family, who never cease to amaze me when i see the good deeds that they do, and their unselfish attitude to life and generoisity.

so i experience both worlds.

Maybe join an evening class, i did and i find people that do so, are kind interesting and open minded, or volunteer.

But lads maybe if we all decide tomorrow to do one good deed no matter how small for the rest of out lifes....

I have been thinking of joining a charity that visits the elderly, as the amount of people living on their own over sixty five is rising in Ireland and the aged who live on their own deserve to have their stories heard.