Did gf do something?

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this.

With gf 2.5 years. Pretty happy and honest relationship, can see it going places. She seems the loyal type and we've had no major issues at all since we started going out.

Was away at weekend there for a stag weekend. Gf was back at home and went out with her friend on Sat night. I got back on Sunday but was still pretty hungover and no real shape to drive so I didn't see gf, just stayed in my place and spoke to her on phone. She too seemed pretty hungover and a bit cagey, but I just put it down to the drink. Asked how her night went and she said it was pretty good. Asked if she saw anyone she knew (she went to a place a lot of our friends would frequent), she said no. She did mention that her friend hooked up with some guy and left my gf to make her own way home, I was slightly annoyed that her friend would leave her on her own like this at the end of the night - but ultimately it's between them. Apparently my gf got straight into a taxi when her friend left and then went home.

So anyway, spoke to a male friend of mine this morning who I haven't seen in a while. He asked if I was still going out with xxxxx, I said yeah, why? He then mentions that he's nearly sure he saw her walking through the town with some guy on Sat night. I suggested it may have been mistaken identity but he was adamant it was her. It was in the same part of town she was in.

So not really sure now what to do, or how to approach this. Haven't spoken to her yet. She could have innocently met some guy she knows and he walked her to a taxi, but why would she not have mentioned this when I asked if she met anyone she knew? Why not mention it when I made an issue of her friend leaving her all on her own?

Or am I just blowing this out of proportion in my head?

Faith

Why don't you just drop it into conversation next time you're talking to her? "Oh, I was talking to Bob the other day and he said he spotted you on Saturday night. He didn't think you saw him though, you were walking along x area with a guy he didn't recognise so he didn't bother going up to say hi". You can probably tell a lot by her reaction.

ziedth

+1,

her face should say allot.

LegacyUser

DidsomethingHappen wrote: »

So not really sure now what to do, or how to approach this. Haven't spoken to her yet. She could have innocently met some guy she knows and he walked her to a taxi, but why would she not have mentioned this when I asked if she met anyone she knew? Why not mention it when I made an issue of her friend leaving her all on her own?

Some guy told you something about your girlfriend.
You simply tell her what he said. No confrontation, just put it to her and see what she says.
Then you can get into the issues of her telling you lies or maybe there is some innocent reason.

tinkerbell

I'd agree with what Faith said, just drop it innocently into conversation. You'll know by her reaction on if there's something sinister going on or not.

Ever2010

Just say it to her, for all you know she could've been walking towards a taxi and ran into someone she grew up with - God knows! Or it could've been two drunk strangers having a chat... all possible. Something that's not significant to even mention to you.

Erica<3

Here's a thought,
If you are going out with somebody for whatever amount of time, there should be a good amount of trust where you could just ask HER and not have to go on the opinions of the people of boards who don't even know the girl.
She mightn't even remember, or just thinks it's so insignificant its not even worth telling you.

Bottom line ; ask her, you'll drive yourself insane wondering otherwise.

Fitz Guddentheidt

Faith wrote: »

Why don't you just drop it into conversation next time you're talking to her? "Oh, I was talking to Bob the other day and he said he spotted you on Saturday night. He didn't think you saw him though, you were walking along x area with a guy he didn't recognise so he didn't bother going up to say hi". You can probably tell a lot by her reaction.

Faith. How did you know his name was Bob?

LegacyUser

Thanks all for your replies. I am going to bring it up when I see her tonight.

I realise that it could be totally innocent, which is why I'm not accusing her of anything - just asking.

However, it just seems strange that when I made a point of saying her friend should not have left her (drunk) on her own at 2am in the morning, she never said that it was ok because she had someone with her, or some guy walked her to the taxi to keep her safe. In fact she implied she didn't encounter anyone at all and immediately got into a taxi after her friend left. Yet it seems she was spotted walking through town quite casually with this guy, going by what I was told. It's also the fact that she was so cagey the next day.

Anyway, I guess I'll find out tonight.

LegacyUser

Good luck OP. I hope its not what it seems. Be sure to watch her face carefully when you bring it up. Even the best liers will always give the game away for a split second initially before composing themselves. Hope its all innocent.