Need some advice on friend / former friend / I don't know now!

LegacyUser

HI,

Im going to cut a long story short here if i can.

Been friends with a girl for years and throughout that time one of us has been involved with someone else. That was never a problem, in fact she was the one I could talk to about things etc. (even though when we first met, we kissed a few times and nearly got together)

A few months back and it was the first time we both were single. Didnt think much of it, too much water under the bridge etc. Then one night out we end up kissing (quite drunkenly). Still didnt think much of it. Then one night a few weeks after meet her friend who basically tells me that she was mad about me, i should ask her out etc. We do end up kissing again that night.

Only after that night I started thinking about the possibility of us getting together until i realised it was what i wanted. I took from what her friend said and that we had kissed that she wanted it too. So I started suggesting we meet up, in a subtle enough way and she came up with all sorts of excuses until this went on for a couple of weeks and I stopped trying.

Met her bout a month or 2 after with a diff friend of hers and it came up in conversation bout some guy she was scoring. That was grand, a bit more awkward than previous times though. Then when she goes to the toilet her friend says something bout how were meant to be etc.

Havent spoken to her since...I genuinely miss the banter as friends we had and im not sure if that is gone. I wont lie, I think i still do want to be with her. But what is annoying me is that until her friend said to me that i should go for it with her, things were great btw us as friends.

Should i try just go back to the way were before as if nothing happened?

I feel really pissed off with her for not even meeting to talk about what wsa going on. Im wondering what the reason is. I have been involved with a few girls that she would know, not friends, but could this be a reason?

Some might say that I should cut contact completely....but I really dont want it to have to be like that?

Last contact was that I was supposed to be organising a night for us with old mutual friends....should i do this?? Was thinking of passing the buck to someone else, but then I dont know if its a good idea to see her with all this unresolved....

LegacyUser

Any advice/thoughts would be much appreciated..

LegacyUser

firstly, i think u should think you want.

if u want to be together, man up and arrange to meet. and tell her ur feelings. hope for the best, prepare for the worst (cut her off if she rejects)

if u want to be friends, that's no harm to wait for a while until the air is clear.

my 0.5 cent.

goodgirl7279

It doesnt sound to me like she is interested as she has had an opportunity for things to go further and didnt take the bait. organise the night out and try and get the friendship back on track. as for her friends butting in telling you how she feels i wouldnt take any notice as what they say and her behaviour dont add up. next time they try to tell you stuff like that, say youll believe it when it comes from the horses mouth....maybe you should just ask the horse? good luck

newtoboards

I'd organise the night out and as the previous poster said try to get things back on track with your friendship. I would talk to her on the night out or even before and acknowledge what has gone on between you and that you had hoped something could happen between you but understand she's not interested. Tell her you still really want to be her friend and don't want akwardness between you. It'll help break the ice between you if nothing else.