What Do I Do

LegacyUser

Hello everyone

Bit of background. Thursday night I am out with my law school friends and at the same time I also have alternative plans with friends who I used to live with. My plan was start the night with my law school friends in the bar they chose then try to convince as many of them to join me at the club I was going to.

Whilst at the bar I got to talking to an incredibly beautiful girl (surprise surprise lol) we got talking and got along really well, I had never spoken to her before this night, I had a feeling she was attracted to me but I wasnt sure.

I was adamant that I'd be going to the club I was going to and wasnt bothered what my law school buddies were doing who consequently went to the club the rest of the law school had chosen to go to.

The law school club was on the way to the club of my choice as we were walking to the clubs I was still talking to the beautiful girl who ended up ditching her friends who were going to the law school club to come to the club of my choice.

My old housemates didnt actually make it to the club but I had convinced some people from law school to go to the club and they went before hand.

Fast forward to near the end of the night at the club, Beautiful girl tells me she is single (albeit after a slight hesistation) so after a little bit I kiss her and we go back to my place which was opposite the club.

We keep kissing and I kiss her on the neck and other places but her knickers stayed on and there was no sex. But there was alot of kissing and caressing her body and body contact. We spooned through the night and the next morning there was more of the same basically.

So I walk her home and when we get to hers she drops the bombshell that she is actually in an on/off relationship and needed time to sort her head out and I could tell from the look on her face that she was upset about the whole thing but even after she told me we still kiss goodbye the same way we kissed the night before.

So I decided that it would be good idea to give her space, so i made the obligatory next day call which she didnt answer so I sent a text to which she replied and then I replied. I left it a whole day and then on sunday she texts me saying her judgement wasnt good and that she was sorry.

So I call her just let her know that I was ok with things and that thing werent going to be awkward.

Ok so thats what happened, and now I have no idea what I'm feeling. To me Thursday was an incredibly intimate night because we didnt have sex. Personally I know if it was a one night stand I could handle it but it wasnt it felt like more than that.

Also I wasnt drunk because I dont drink and she wasnt that drunk either.

Am I completely unjustified in feeling that the night was more intimate without the sex and what am I supposed to do, my play right now is too just keep it simple and friendly with her but I'm constantly thinking about what happened and when I seen her today I wanted to go straight up to her and kiss her. I'm so confused I have no idea what I'm feeling or how I'm supposed to deal with this.

Apologies for the length of the post.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Thank you

forestfruits

I dont really think you have a choice shes made it fairly clear that shes not interested in anything happening again.

LegacyUser

I understand that. But am I wrong in thinking that the night was more intimate than it was, Am I being naive is what I really want to know, I have never experienced anything like this before which is why ask what I ask.

LegacyUser

My god way to drag things out. Do you do this with everything in your life. You had a one night stand if it was even thay. Get on with your life.

LegacyUser

It wasnt a one night stand if it was a one night stand I'd get over it fairly soon my issue is that it felt like there were feelings involved which is not possible and thats what I need clarification on. Am I justified in feeling like this or Am I being naive.

Piriz

jesus man there was so much needless detail in there I hope they 'law' that out of you in 'law school'.
you had a moment which was intimate and now she says she doesn't want it to happen again, she made a mistake..enjoy it for what it was and move on..
you seem to get very attached very quickly, i'd be conscious of this too, it will be problematic if you can't adapt to a sensible pace and instead get intense after intimacy..
good luck

Ickle Magoo

What can you do? Anything other than leaving her alone after that's what she's asked you do will just be deemed unwanted harassment.

She's told you she's not interested in continuing a relationship with you - in fact she called your "incredibly intimate night" a lapse in judgement. You are getting in way too deep, way too soon.

I don't think not having sex necessarily makes it more intimate, in some instances it can be a way of keeping things deliberately less so - it all depends on the people involved and their own motivations.

My advice? Chalk it up to experience and move on - and next time, move slow and keep it cool.

Best of luck.

LegacyUser

Thank you everybody for your comments in particular Ickle Magoo thank you for your comment it was very helpful and apologies for the needless detail.