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LegacyUser

This is probably not a PI strictly speaking, but Im looking for some real advise as opposed to wading through lots of bad one liners! If theres a more appropriate forum where i can get serious responses, please move it mods.

Ok so Im eager to take a holiday this summer. I caught the travel bug a few years ago and have managed to get at least a week somewhere sunny, once a year. I have a small group of friends that Ive been on trips with before but this year, for various reasons (financial problems, work commitments etc) none of the lads can manage to go this summer. I really dont want to spend the whole summer looking out the office window at the rain sheeting down, so Ive been thinking about heading off on my own. I like my own company and think that Id have a blast, so its an option.

The thing is, I got a txt this evening from a girl I went to school with. Ok first of all, her parents are big friends of my family. We spent a fair bit of time together growing up. (Both mid 20's now) In fact Im pretty sure she was my first kiss! We always got on well. I hadnt seen her for over 10 years when last year my mother mentioned that this girl was home visiting her own family and maybe I should drop down. It was abit weird at first but then we fell into conversation and it was like she never went away. Im not the most open of people so it really amazed me how at ease i felt with someone I hadnt talked to, since i was practically a kid. Ive kept in contact with her on an off over the past 18 mths or so. Just a txt here n there.

So it just struck me this evening, would it be entirely mad to invite her on holiday with me!? I just thought of sending an email saying that Im planning on going myself and if she had the time off, it might be a bit of craic.
Part of me thinks we really arent that pally to be doing something like this. Another part of me says, fúck it, ive seen people in college who know each other a wet week head to Ibiza! Ive known this girl since ...... forever. Im just thinkin that for any number of reasons, she wont be able / wont want to go, and ill look like an utter tool for thrown this out there. Another consideration is, I know for a fact shes single, as am i. Im purely looking for a travelling companion. I dont have any ideas about things happening on this trip. Would i be giving off the wrong impression?

Id appreciate your thoughts on this, esp the ladies out there.

silverberg

It's a toughie, from the female perspective I'd say don't ask her if you think you are not that pally to be going on holiday. Unless you tell her about your trip and say 'hey you should come' or something along that lines to gage her reaction. Just personally I am thinking in my head about someone I know a long time but am not great mates with and it would be strange if he invited me away with him.

cafecolour

I'd say it might give the wrong impression, if it's just the two of you. Especially as you haven't seen much of each other recently.

You could float it in a 'passive' way. Say you're keen on going on vacation, but you don't have any mates who have free time. Ask her 'advice' if she thinks it would be odd to travel alone. She'll likely say no, why not, etc. You can add, at the end, in an offhand/joking matter (like it just occurred to you) - 'say, you're not free for a week in July, are you ' or something.

Kuz_3040

Personally I wouldnt do it because it can be construed a little strong and could damage your relationship. But what the other 2 have said already about bringing it up in a jokey way and judge her response would definitely be worthwhile.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies. I like the stealthy approach both of you are alluding too! I can see why that would be the only way to go, if I decide to ask her. When I think about it, it would seem highly unusual if she sent a holiday invite to me out of the blue. Ill try to bring up the subject in conversation and see if she bites!