Help please!?

sawsax92

Hi everyone. I'm sorry but I'm afraid this is probably going to be a bit long winded...
Basically I have a very close female friend, whom I'm also incredibly attracted to. She knows I like her, but unfortunately she told me she doesn't feel the same way, however we've managed to move past this and have formed a wonderful friendship. We are both 17 and this girl means the world to me, but the truth is I'm finding this friendship extremely difficult. For one, she has quite a bad temper at times, and usually every month we have a big argument over nothing or she'll over react to something minor, for maybe a week, and then it'll be all peachy again for a while. I've liked this girl for over a year now and we've truly been best friends for a year now also, we've had our ups and downs (during one of these pointless arguments she wouldn't even talk to me, which really broke my heart, and started becoming closer to another (mutual) male friend of hers, and she said were never going to be the same again, but I managed to fix things with the help of another female friend) so things have been on and off great since then, but 3 weeks ago she started being REALLY nice to me, and I loved it, we would text all night and meet up every other day, life was good. And then she started talking about the fact that the two of us are single, and that we should do something about it, but I didn't think much of it. So she gave me her friends number to start texting, and when I did, she started texting me about the night when I told her I liked her, and that the way I said it was lovely. So anyway, I said 'I'm getting nostalgic now, but I'm glad that you said we should only be just good friends, rather than risk our friendship over a little relationship that might not last very long'. And she replied to that 'yeah, but I often wonder what things would have been like, I'd say we would still be together now' and that kind of stuck in my head, but I tried not to react to it, incase I weirded her out. So eventually she said, 'if I could go back now, I'd say yes'. And she also said that she feels a special connection with me she doesn't feel with anyone else, and that 'even though were just friends now, that may change in the future'. I was over the moon, I thought maybe I have a second chance to get back the only girl I've ever felt this attracted to, it feels like shes the one, but I'm terrified to ask her out because she might start being weird with me again and not want to talk to me. I love this girl with all my heart, and I know I always will. Unfortunately that time when things are weird between us for no reason has come again, and it came again today. Last night our mutual male friend from earlier had a big fight with his significant other, and she was trying to help him through it. Shes been texting our mutual male friend today, but when she was texting me she seemed weird and distant, and like she doesn't want to talk to me, with answers like 'np' and 'k' which is far cry from yesterday morning! Its like now shes found a better replacement for my position as her best male friend (and possibly best friend). To summarise;
I'm afraid shes replacing me,
I'm afraid I had a second chance to get her to like me back and
I'm to afraid to risk our friendship by asking her out again.

I'm sorry this is so long. Any help would be awesome. Please.

John.

cafecolour

Honestly, I know it's hard to hear, but because you are in love with her, you've convinced yourself friendship is better than nothing at all.

It's not. Being friends with someone you are into who doesn't return the interest is a headwreck and not fun.

So I'd let the friendship fade. It's the only way you're going to be able to move on and find a girl who likes you back.

Maguined

The reason she is now being cool with you again could be down to the fact that she was telling you how she felt in an obvious way to try and get you to ask her out again. You didn't bite and ask her out so she could be feeling rejected and resigning herself to the fact that you don't like her like that anymore.

If you like this girl then just say it to her, tell her you want more and let that be it, sitting on your feelings like this is not going to last this long, what happens when she starts dating some other guy? your feelings of jealously will get in the way of your friendship anyway so you might as well ask her out now.