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I broke up with girlfriend

  • 18-04-2010 7:03am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I broke up with my girlfriend of six year last week as I just feel I am to young to be settled down and have so much responsibilities, I am 20 years old.
    Thing is I am just so worried about her she has taken it very badly. She keeps texting and ringing me begging me to take her back, asking to meet up etc. She does not have much friends so there isn't alout of people to support her. She has said that there is no point of her living now that I have broken her and she thinks of suicide, this is really killing me as I just don't no what to do. I no the best thing to do at a break up is to just cut contact but I just worry so much about her doing something stupid.
    So I'm just asking for advice on the best way to approach this?
    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Contact her family or best friend and tell them what she is telling you. She needs support from someone.


  • #3
    bronte
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,331 ✭✭✭✭bronte


    Wow, just out of a six year relationship at your age is really something!
    You were right to listen to yourself and realise that you wanted your freedom.
    Sometimes the right thing to do is often the hardest.
    It is not up to you to save this girl, however as the last poster said, I'd give one of her family a shout just so they know her current mindset.
    Don't get dragged back in by emotional blackmail.


  • #4
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Let her parents know that you've broken up and give them some examples of what she is threatening to do and say you thought it best they know so they can keep an eye on things but you have to cut contact to stop the calls and begging and threats; then cut contact, get a new e-mail, msn, sim if you have to.

    It seems very cruel but without the means to contact or speak to you, she will not be able to harbour any hopes of a reunion, forced via emotional blackmail or otherwise and that's kinder in the long run.

    Best of luck.


  • #5
    sam34
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,073 ✭✭✭sam34


    tell her parents of your concern and then cut all contact

    DO NOT get sucked in to relpying/texting/msn etc

    if she is genuinely suicidal, her parents can go about arranging appropriate help for her

    if she is not genuinely suicidal and is only trying to manipulate and blackmail you, the worst thing you could do would be to give in to her

    if you do that, you are setting up a pattern of such behaviour lifelong


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