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I like a guy at work... what to do about it?

  • 17-04-2010 6:24pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I like a guy at work. We're on the same team and I've never liked someone I work with before. I don't know what to do. I'm terrified to ask him out as it could be really awkward if he isn't interested. I don't think he has a clue that I remotely like him either!. Has anyone any similar experiences of this sort of thing!?. Thank you.


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  • #2
    ApeXaviour
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    I assuming you're a girl, and that he's straight and single, two out of three won't work.

    Manoeuvre for alone time: "I'm going to grab some coffee, Tom can you help me?", there are a million ways to do this on the fly. Even after work, it's not a date, it's just grabbing a sandwich walking to your car etc. During these times if you're flirtatious, laugh at his corny jokes, touch his arm at appropriate intervals etc. (as a woman these are the tools at your disposal) he'll get the picture eventually without any awkwardness ensuing. If he's interested he'll respond positively, accept your standing a little too close, not be standoffish or uncomfortable when alone with you. This is when you can be fairly sure he'd be happy to attend a social occasion with you. If he doesn't initiate it then you could try something like "Hey Tom I'm heading for a drink with a friend after work, you should join us!", ideally your friend would be a taken woman, or a guy who's in on it and only stays for one or two drinks. It can be anything though, this is just an example.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Firstly, fair play for wanting to make the first move. I say go for it, if he's worth liking and you obviously think highly of him, then surely he's a stand up guy and on the off chance that he does turn you down then surely he's mature enough for things not to be awkward after.

    ApeXaviour has some good ideas, you could also find areas of common ground and invite him, cinema, gig (if into same music), do some tourist activities (viking splash) if they are into that stuff, or you could also just happen to have a spare ticket to something and invite them along!

    All in all - go for it.


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