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socially dumb

  • 17-04-2010 9:30am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hello,
    Firstly thanks for taking the time to tread this my thread. My problem centres around my ability to feal calm in social situations. If I were at a party or event where I didnt really know the people there I would feel really awkward and out of place there and I would basically want to leave. I suppose conversation pieces and skills are my major failings.

    My people(social) skills are lacking quite considerably. Im ok if i have one or two more people with me but when im on my own I find it quite difficult to innitiate and carry a conversation. I cant focus on the person in question as im too focused upon myself and my mind seems to go blank when im talking to others. I am really bad with conversation.

    Something happins to me when im talking to most people my head goes into overload focusing on myself and trying to say the right things always. This leads to a boring conversation usually. Im not too up to date on most topical issues these days so I suppose thats something I could be working on by reading the paper etc..

    Does anyone know ways of boosting ones social and conversational skills?????


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    I'm the same, but i'm going to go short of saying what exactly I think is wrong with you (I mean, disorder-wise). Instead, I think you should take stock of the fact that you know what your limitations are in a social context. However, with this knowledge, think about how you can manage to deal with - and improve - these limitations. Life isn't about recognising your problems and then letting them get the better of you. No, life is about improving ourselves constantly right up until our moment of death.

    The next time you at an event, take the risk and initiate a conversation with someone. You have to face your fears. Think about what you could say before you actually go.

    Kevin


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