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Advice please

  • 17-04-2010 1:27am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm with my bf over three years now and we're at the stage where we are talking about the future. We are both definitely commited to each other and there are no problems on that side in terms of trust or what we both want together.

    But our s*x life leaves a bit to be desired. Basically I can orgasm whenever we have sex but he can't at all. He says he still enjoys it even though he doesn't come but I feel I'm letting him down. For me I feel like a failure if he doesn't cum and so I don't really feel like having sex if I can't even get him off. Because of that I have a much lower sex drive, I love him to bits and know he feels the same but I don't want to drift into a platonic relationship which we seem to be doing lately.

    Any advice? We have tried spicing things up but no luck so far..


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    He needs counselling. And I think you do too. Separately.

    You can't discuss the future without discussing this first - it will be a disaster - "the future" I mean.

    It's prob psychological on his part and counselling may help this. Or it may not be psychological, or it may not help. Maybe he'll never be able to come while having sex with you, and how would that be for a future?

    How have you got to 3 years with this going on?

    Go to counselling yourself first to get ideas and to straighten out your head.

    You may love him to bits but he doesn't sound like 'future' material, at least at the moment.


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