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Lost my best friend, drinking, can't study!!

  • 15-04-2010 9:32pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey,

    Feeling so down...haven't done any study for my summer exams...my best friend fell out with me and doesn't wish to speak to me...at least for a long while. I'm drinking every night to feel better...probably gonna fail my summer exams. I want to refix things with my best friend...but feel I've destroyed things...feel so guilty. No study done as a consequence of this falling out...making me depressed....drinking every night...can't get over this...love my friend (not sexually) but as a friend...and it was my fault I ruined it. Felt suicidal sometimes...but won't act...just feel so bad....the friend doesn't want to speak to me...so if I contact to try and sort it out...it'll make things worse....feel like my life is slipping through my fingers....don't know what to do. :(


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  • #2
    RandolphEsq
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,296 ✭✭✭RandolphEsq


    Stop drinking first and foremost! That will only end badly. Sober up, then try to talk to your friend and apologise from the heart. If they reject you, give them time and space. Perhaps then make a nice gesture. If the damage is irreparable than put it down to experience and move on


  • #3
    Padjo1981
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 234 ✭✭Padjo1981


    Well stay away from the drink. It's a long a slippery road trust me! Give your friend time, if your friend is so angry with you you just need to give them some space. These things always work themselves out.


  • #4
    Walls
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,258 ✭✭✭Walls


    What do you do? You stop drinking, that's what you do. You've woken up a few mornings now, had anything changed? Had anything improved? Quit hitting yourself, that would be a start.

    Secondly, recognise you can't control your friend. You've tried to make amends and given the chance you'll try again. Is failing your exams going to bring them back? No. So take control of what you can change and do something about it. There are a few weeks left before exams (how much depends on what you've studied) and so give it two hours minimum a day.

    Finally, get out of the house and get some air, get a walk. The weather is good, you need some cheering up. Life will continue, so be sure to get out there.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the responses guys.

    Yeah, you're right...nothing changes in the morning after drinking...which is probably one of the more stressful parts. Just sometimes, when I drink in the evenings, it helps to forget what's happening, but it's shortlived...and the next morning...it returns. I guess I'll have to completely avoid it...might be hard...

    Giving the space is hard, because I want to try and fix things so much...maybe it will get easier as things continue.

    Regarding study...yeah, a few weeks left...motivation has been drained...which makes study difficult...as least concentration for a long while.

    Again, thanks for the responses thus far! Appreciated.


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