Puzzling Ex

merlie

Ok, I've just finished chatting with me ex boyfriend of 6 years on msn. We had been friends before we ever went out and remained friends after we broke up last year. He told me back then he was looking for someone else and joined a dating website. He has since dated a girl but she left him after two months. He is back looking. I am getting on with my life and doing things and am relatively ok with things.

Tonight our conversation, started off lightly and we had a laugh and it was all fun and then he started talking about the past and things. He then told me that he took a photo of himself on Monday. I said oh and he asked me did I want to see it. I knew it was for the dating website and I know what one he is on and I have seen the photo already and it is one of him in the same pose and place that was on his original profile on another dating website back in all those years ago before we met. I told him its ok, but he sent it to me anyway and two other photos of the city where he lives and his keyboard all of which I have seen already.

Then he goes and asks me for photos of my last trip to England and more or less told me that if I didn't then he would find it hard to be friends with me. He said he wanted to be pleased to see me in England, meaning he wanted to see them. He went over old songs he said reminded him of me and that he has them on his iPhone, I thought ok he likes the songs fair enough but I couldn't understand how come he is demanding photos or our friendship. Like none of my other friends are like that. I know me and him had trust issues in the past that's cos I never felt good enough for him.

He told me another time, that I could send him photos of anything I liked and I did and now he says he wants the ones from my trip over instead or there is no friendship then I told him I didn't understand any of what he was saying ...as it made no sense as this was a friendship ...you don't demand things off of a friend!

Then he went on ok..no hassle...and tells me to send it when ever I want.

I don't get any of this at all. I am drained and feel exhausted by the conversation we had. I didn't expect any of this and I really don't know where it all came from. He was serious and stuff and it was almost like being back in the relationship all over again!

I don't know what to think about this. Why the sudden change? I was not expecting any of this and I do not understand why he is acting this way.

minidazzler

I think, why would you want to be friends with an Ex who is attempting to use emotional blackmail to get what he wants.

Do you have any really good reason to be friends with him? Sounds like he is clinging as tight as he can to the remnants of whatever ye had.

merlie

minidazzler wrote: »

Do you have any really good reason to be friends with him?

Thanks for your reply. I see what you mean when you say about the emotional blackmail when he said its either the photos or there is no friendship. I was so tired last night talking with him and I was taken aback by what he had said, been trying to make sense of it.

I do not understand his behaviour, after all it is only a friendship we have and no more.

In answer to your question, we both decided to remain friends after the break up, as we had both agreed that we had been a big part of each others lives and would miss the other being around.

I have been getting on with my life and do not want to revisit our relationship of old. He is actively seeking someone else and I am enjoying my life being single again and not getting involved with anyone until I feel the time is right for me. Not going to rush anything.