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how to be more friendly!

  • 14-04-2010 6:11pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Im too seriious for my own good. I am shy and so find it hard to be friendly to people because im afraid of what they think. Now people think im snobby when Im not.
    How can you stop yourself being too serious...I find it hard to joke around with people I dont know, especially lads.
    I want to be one of those warm, fun, friendly people that people like!


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  • #2
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    Well, I find being self-effacing a good start if you think you're too serious.

    But I wouldn't trying too hard to become something different. Just start talking to everyone - you don't have to be all 'fun' and 'charming' about it. Honestly, most people are quite happy to talk to anyone being nice to them.


  • #3
    Hitgirl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭Hitgirl


    Try not to stereotype - you have yourself down as a "far too serious" person and want to be "one of those warm, fun, friendly people that people like". Who's to say that people don't like you!? It seems to me that you're just shy and too worried what people think. Being friendly shouldn't have to be an effort, it's a very natural thing and everyone is capable of it. If you are constantly worried about what someone is thinking of you when you're talking to them, you'll find it difficult to make any sort of conversation. You dont have to make jokes and make people laugh to create a good impression, that will come itself if you don't try so hard. If you dont feel confident talking to someone, allow the other person to lead the conversation and just interact with them, it will come naturally, trust me. It's very easy if you just let it happen :)


  • #4
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    meanperson wrote: »
    Im too seriious for my own good. I am shy and so find it hard to be friendly to people because im afraid of what they think. Now people think im snobby when Im not.
    How can you stop yourself being too serious...I find it hard to joke around with people I dont know, especially lads.
    I want to be one of those warm, fun, friendly people that people like!

    I think it's all about conversation really. I'm sort of in the same boat. If you're serious and introverted you might come across as unfriendly or intense!

    Just appear friendly, show you're interested in people and be really positive so that people like talking to you. It will actually take some effort on your part.

    If you know someone likes cars, ask them how their car is going. if some one has kids, ask how the kids are. If someone's pride and joy is your dog.. you get the picture.. even if you don't particularly give a s*** about dogs you can say "oh great, my friend bought a ****su, it's a mad little thing"

    Even at work, on Monday morning don't start talking about work straight away, make smalltalk like "how was your weekend, did you get up to much"


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