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cheesey1

I have posted previously about how I'm trying to get over an ex and how we still spend time together etc. But in my efforts to get over him I joined a on line dating service and have been chatting to a guy the last few weeks, now I know I have said before that I have still met up with my ex etc. but have been told that he is only using me, that I am being a door mat etc.

So when this other guy asked me to meet him yesterday evening I said yes as I guess there is only way to get over an ex and even if nothing happened with this other person at least I will have given it a try.

He said that he would give me a call in the evening and we'd arrange what time to meet, he seemed all for it the last few days, now the only problem I have is that he knows what I looked like and I don't know what he looks like and also he has my number and I don't have his - sorry for the long story! so he mailed me just before I was leaving working to say that he would call me later on and we would arrange what time to meet. We had arrange to go for a walk on a beach.

So got home from work,shower changed and waited for the call! At 8pm when no call came, I just changed into my tracksuit and went out for a walk myself and then called to friends. There was no calls or texts to my phone from him.

This morning get to work check my mail and there is a mail from him saying that he mislaid his phone yesterday evening and couldn't find it and when he tried to ring it it went to voice mail so battery must have died. He said we should just have arranged to meet at 7.30 at entrance to beach.

Now I didn't fret to much about it but just wondering do people really mislay their phone these days or was it all just an excuse even thought he was the one who was asking me out!!

Again apologise for the long thread.

Thanks for reading!

scarymoon1

This happened me a couple of times on the net, guys all chat and full of confidence online but in reality they are d opposite. ive been cancelled on twice with guys from the net. i feel they like the attention online. the story that the guy misplaced his phone, i wouldnt believe it. my guess is he was playing u around to see would u agree to meet him, u agreed so ego boost 4 him. plyus why did u agree to meet him with no pic???!!! u could hav been talking to anything!

LegacyUser

OP, those excuses from online men are way too familiar. I've heard them all at this stage!
A favourite one I hear is phone went dead and I left my charger at work. Or I lost my phone.


It might be a case of him just chickening out or more than likely something better came along last night for him.

I've a mate who is doing the online dating thing and he has several dates lined up in a week and often has to cancel some as he liked a previous date and goes on a second one with one of the girls.

I'd say you've found yourself one of the messers.

cheesey1

I just mailed him back and said that it was find that I just went out with some mates, he said that he left the phone in his car and went to a shop and left the car unlocked and thinks someone may have stolen it - now I like to give people the benefit of the doubt but at the same time I don't want to be taken for a fool.

MicraBoy

He said that he would give me a call in the evening and we'd arrange what time to meet, he seemed all for it the last few days, now the only problem I have is that he knows what I looked like and I don't know what he looks like and also he has my number and I don't have his - sorry for the long story! so he mailed me just before I was leaving working to say that he would call me later on and we would arrange what time to meet. We had arrange to go for a walk on a beach.

Ok I'm gonna take this slightly off topic and say you need to wise up a bit.

Number one: Don't meet people from the internet to go for a walk on the beach. Meet in a public place like a bar or cafe. You always need to be able to walk away from such meets in safety.

Number two: You should never meet some one who doesn't supply a clear recent face pic.

Number three: You should never meet someone whose phone number you don't have.

In on line dating terms there are hard and fast rules for your own safety and to avoid the kind of muppetry you are seeing now.

No pic = No chat. Someone who is unwilling to share a photo within a few messages is probably wasting your time. Don't bother with them. It's fair enough to not have your pic up for display to all, but you should be willing to share privately.

Emme

First date off the internet should be somewhere public like a pub or coffee shop, dinner if you're VERY lucky. Make sure you have a picture and a mobile number which you will have rung him on to make sure he's who he says he is. Before going on the date tell a friend where you're going, who you're going with and maybe give your friend the date's phone number as well.

Going for a walk on the beach with somebody you've never seen before is asking for trouble! :eek:

zzantara

Hi Cheesey,
Please take this in the spirit that it is sent;
You are giving too much info to a stranger that you have never met, only give your number to someone who has given theirs first ( any genuine guy will understand and respect your concern.
Preferably get a land line number.
Without doubt DO NOT meet for the first time in an isolated area such as a beach/park etc,go somewhere where there are lots of people around and where you can easily get home from ( availability of Taxi'etc).
The net is great but we need to treat contacts with caution and everyone will be safe.
Again any genuine guy will respect your concerns !

Miss Fluff

+1 to what has been said above.

What age are you? It's astounding that you would agree to meet a complete stranger to go for a walk on the beach without knowing a single thing about them. To not even know what they look like! You don't want to find yourself sexually assulated or beaten up or worse in an attempt to get over your ex. You really need to put on the brakes here, really get to know someone by emails/phone calls and some judicious social network stalking before agreeing to meet them and even then, only in a public place having given his number and details to a trusted friend.:mad:

And on a side note, he sounds like a messer so you should be glad he didn't bother going through with the date.