Womanising guy in my year

LegacyUser

I am a college girl and in 2nd year of my course.

There is a guy in my year who is a bit of a loner his class. (I have friends in his class). He is on speaking terms with everyone but doesn't really make an effort to make friends with people. He has never made an effort to get to know me, even though we've actually sat beside each other in a lot of lectures. You would think he was not the outgoing type. However, he does be in the college bar every night with a different girl. Like he actually comes to the bar with a different girl and goes off with her. I don't think he is being honest with these girls at all as they all look lovey-dovey with them. I feel very sorry for them and angry that he has no respect for women and relationships. I'm not joking when I say he is with a different girl literally every night. I think he works as a DJ so women must be throwing themselves at him for some reason.

Problem is, I do be in the bar now and again with my friends and see him with different girls and so do they and sometimes I have to stop myself from saying something to him about it. I know I am in the wrong, but something about this guy and what he does just rubs me up the wrong way. I am finding it hard to keep my mouth closed and not say something to him. It's just the fact that he openly makes a fool of these girls by bringing other girls and being all lovey-dovey with them in front of everyone that annoys me. But then again, he doesn't really seem to know anyone in college. I know I shouldnt say anything as it is none of my business, but I don't think I can control myself. How do I deal with this???

Victor

I'm not sure if this is really a Personal Issue.

LegacyUser

Victor wrote: »

I'm not sure if this is really a Personal Issue.

obvious, she loves him

Lux23

Sounds like you fancy him OP.

username123

So you dont know the guy too well as he doesnt make an effort at friendship, you see him in the bar with different girls, and it drives you mad. Why?

Why do you care what he does in his personal life? Why do you think he is making a fool of these girls? Do you know who they are? They could be friends or relations of his for all you know?
Even if theyre not, if theyre happy to be in the bar with him - who cares?

Sounds like you might be jealous of him and his percieved free and easy lifestyle. Or maybe you fancy him?

I suggest you find something in your own life to focus on rather than obsessing on the live and loves of a relative stranger in some of your classes.

Curry Addict

u need to find more important things to think about, tbh. obsessing about something like this is utterly selfish also.

gimme5minutes

Is this for real?? You want to start a row with some guy you dont even actually know over his love life? Seriously? That is absolutely mad. It'd be bad enough sticking your nose into a friend's love life, but doing it to someone you don't even know is pure lunacy.

Anyway, I don't think a degree in psychology is needed to figure out what's going on here. You are overcome with jealousy because this guy is a big hit with the women but he never bothered with you. Just forget about him, you will only make a complete fool of yourself if you start giving out to him over a non-issue like his love life.

ManOfMystery

OP - at the risk of sounding blunt, what the guy does in his personal life (and who he does it with) is absolutely none of your business and you need to butt out.

By your own admission, you don't know him, so if you have some issue with how he conducts his love life then it really stinks of jealousy or attention seeking.

And also - just because he comes to the bar with a different girl and goes off with one every night doesn't mean they're all sleeping with him. A guy I know has many female friends and goes out drinking with them but there's nothing else going on.

LegacyUser

gimme5minutes wrote: »

Anyway, I don't think a degree in psychology is needed to figure out what's going on here. You are overcome with jealousy because this guy is a big hit with the women but he never bothered with you.

I got it wrong, you're right, she's not in love with him. Just jealous that he hooks up with lots of hot girls, but never bothered asking her out. Makes her think, what is wrong with her that he doesn't want her, she then decides he's disgusting only because he doesn't bother with her.

OP wrote:

He has never made an effort to get to know me, even though we've actually sat beside each other in a lot of lectures.

JimmyCrackCorn

Maybe he likes to keep his social life separate from his study. I deliberately keep work seperate from my personal life.

The best way to deal with this is to build a bridge get over it and move on. Life is way too short for that.

zxcvbnm1

OP - that is serioulsy one crazy post by you.

It goes to show rhat there really are all sorts out there.

Personally i actually don't see anythung wrong in what he does.

So he goes on lots of dates.
Good luck to him i say !