Have a date :) :/

LegacyUser

Hi,
Sorry for the silly question but...

I have a dinner date tomorrow night. I really want it to go well but I'm terrible at this kinda thing. Or at least I am ok with it but I'm not good at pushing things forwards.

I've had a few girls friends and met a good few girls but it was usually a more situational thing. Like when you are out or something and you meet.

I'm not great and being forward and leading to a kiss when its just a one one one date.

Any advice?

Katgurl

How do you know her? Have you ever kissed her before?

LegacyUser

Hi,
I don't know her that well. We've met before but after some small talk I asked her for her number and set up to met for dinner. It wasn't in a pub or a club or anything so no we haven't

I know its just the same situation but sometimes its easier if its just a group of people out having drinks.

anomalous

go to a place that you know is nice it doesn't have to be particularly fancy/expensive just nice service and grand food

dont chicken out because if you do it once she might not give u a second chance

try to project confidence its not as hard as it sounds if your relaxed you will seem more confident and to get to that place you just need to think like "ill give it my best shot and if it doesn't work out its like an interview its good experience"

dont drink too much

try to make her laugh girls love that

good luck with the date let us know how it goes

AnnyHallsal

And flirt! Don't let the nerves stop you from showing that you're interested and wouldn't mind a smooch.

hightower1

Mate...... always put yourself into a win win situation.... do what I do.....

Agree to yourself you wont try do anything other than talk, get to know her and the most important have a laugh. If your not going on a date to have a laugh you shouldnt be there in the first place.

So..... she will appreciate your not thinking about 1 thing, your nerves will be gone cause there is no "moment" to live up to and you'll have more fun......

One thing men know is that women want you more when you want them less.... its why women look at you more when your in a relationship, its cause your not bothered. So be not bothered on the date, dont try kiss her at all worst case is she see's you as a nice guy and ye have a laugh an you get a second date.......best case is SHE tries for the kiss in which case pressure is off you and you know she's into you like that.


Remember, dont try to do anything other than have a laugh. You'll feel better and be a better date. Good luck brother and enjoy yourself.

AnnyHallsal

I completely disagree. If a guy didn't try to kiss me on a date that was going well, he'd be dangerously close to the friendzone. I'd say - go for the kiss, what's the worst that can happen? She pulls away cos she's not interested. At least you know where you stand. By all means have a laugh, but enjoy creating chemistry too. It's a date ffs!

hightower1

AnnyHallsal wrote: »

I completely disagree. If a guy didn't try to kiss me on a date that was going well, he'd be dangerously close to the friendzone. I'd say - go for the kiss, what's the worst that can happen? She pulls away cos she's not interested. At least you know where you stand. By all means have a laugh, but enjoy creating chemistry too. It's a date ffs!

Well its worked well for me tbh, just cause he doesnt try something doesnt mean there is no chemistry. If it was turned around and said "well if I was on a date with a girl who didnt try to kiss me she'd be close to the friends zone"???? I think an inordinate amount of men and women would be just friends at the end of that experiment.

If you put too much pressure on physicality on a date especially a first date you loose sight of the fact that dates are meant to be fun! Women dont put so much pressure on themselves on first dates thinking oh how will I try to kiss him!!! I dont worry about it at all, I just go to have fun with the other person and if something happens then it happens, great, if not then you've been on a date and had a no pressure fun time .... the measure of all good dates.

If you go and have a good date , fun time and DONT kiss.... well if that girl wasnt still interested in me as more than friends I'd consider her to be a bit short sighted or must not have been that physically into me to want to wait, or a bit too spineless to see something she wants at that time (the kiss) and not initiate it herself, ether way not someone worth a second date for.