DVD's driving me to obsession

LegacyUser

I am a female in my early 20's. Recently I have been watching some soft porn DVD's. I find them very arousing. They are a bit fetishy. The trouble is I have begun to fantasise about the things I see in them and have begun to scour internet sites for more material. I am also wondering how to find a man who will act a role in my fantasies. this is taking over my life and I am worried that I will go futher and get into trouble.

finbarrk

Nothing unusual about fantascising anyway. I suppose if you are single you can basically do what you want.

G-Money

OP I wouldn't worry about that too much if I were you. We all have different fantasies and fetishes that do it for us. I know I have a few myself but I'd probably wait until I was with a girl for quite a while and I was comfortable with her, before I'd suggest any of them.

In the meantime, I don't think there's anything wrong with you exploring this stuff online and fantasizing about it. It's possible you could meet a guy who doesn't want to take part in whatever it is, but cross that bridge if you come to it.

Good luck.

Taltos

Am with GM on this.
Just chill and enjoy yourself. This will only be an issue if you let it...
By the way there is loads out there including online novelettes that are also meant to be quite good - if my OH is to be believed...

Look at it this way - if you get pleasure from this and no-one is being hurt then it cannot be all bad.

spurious

It's also possible that whatever you fantasise about, if you find someone to act it out, it may be terribly disappointing. This isn't unusual.

unattendedbag

Dear OP.
Ill give you the same advice id give to a fella. Its all perfectly natural and healthy what you described except the worrying statement of taking over your life and getting you into trouble. If its getting to a point where it is affecting your work/study relationships or your health then its time to to get help and do something about it. However as above, if its just a fantasy and omething u enjoy as a past-time then nothing to worry about. With regars to getting into trouble. As long as you are not risking anything dangerous like indecent exposure, breaking up marriages, anything unsafe/unhealthy or any unlawful acts then i guess you have nothing to worry about.

Have fun.

LegacyUser

The worry I have is that I will end up meeting a stanger from the internet and having something terrible happen. I know from my searches that many men share this fantasy. Acting it out could be fun but could also be dangerous.

shellyboo

obsessing wrote: »

The worry I have is that I will end up meeting a stanger from the internet and having something terrible happen. I know from my searches that many men share this fantasy. Acting it out could be fun but could also be dangerous.

Well, take measures to prevent that happening. Nobody is going to reach out of your monitor and grab you and do something terrible to you.

If you want to meet someone to act out your fantasy, then do it; but take the normal precautions. Get to know someone a bit first, let someone know where you're going when you meet them, arrange to send a text/call to let them know all is ok, meet in a public place, etc etc etc.

It would help to know what fantasy you're talking about... it might turn out to be something incredibly common.

krustydoyle

as a fella there is weird stuff that turns me on but ive only met 1 girl that shares the same fantasy as me but i havent acted on it yet but yet i cant stop thinking about it.. trust me when you find the right chap that shares these thoughts you wont feel badly bout why you fantasize about the stuff you've seen on the dvd's..

mike65

It sounds like its a new thing or recent anyway, I suspect the "urge" will lessen over time. Best just to enjoy it for what it is "solo" for the time being.

krustydoyle

Or what ive learned with some of my friends is when you try it you might not enjoy it at all...