parents in trouble?

LegacyUser

I may as well mention my age so as not to look like im a kid, Im 25, from a fairly normal family, basically I call around to my parents quite a bit, just for chatting or maybe a dinner or whatever.
A few weeks ago I noticed they were barely talking but I thought that had seemed to calm down , they seemed quite cold to each other though. Then another day I arrived at the house and they were both watching TV in different rooms (before they came to chat to me), now sometimes this is normal if there is genuinely two different things on both want to watch, but its rare. Anyway this happened two more times since, which is odd.

And then the real give away thing was when I was upstairs getting a few things I noticed one of the rooms was set up for sleeping, I noticed a few bits and pieces and one of their alarm clocks etc in another room implying theyre not even staying in the same room!!!

I havent mentioned this to my sisters and probably wont, I dont know why I guess I just feel uncomfortable talking about it.

Im a grown man and fully respect both their privacy and any decisions they might make and wouldn't even mention it to them, but do you think whats going on is really bad regarding their marriage?

They are married more than 30 years, I am getting the feeling they may have had enough of each other or something but im not sure. They've never ever had any major issues (in front of us anyway) , they always got on well,so its obviously quite strange for me to see this. Maybe its just a big row thatll die away. Wouldn't mind hearing some of your opinions. Dont worry im not sensitive, more curious to see have other people witnessed or been a part of this kind of behaviour.

Doop

Just wanted to say, I've seen the excatly the same thing with my own parents. Its easy to say but I wouldnt worry about it.

My parents have slept in different rooms for years now, will watch TV separetly, in fact do most stuff separetly. But its what works for them, I think at some stage of some peoples lives, a marrige becomes more about companionship than anything else. Things were never 100% rosey growing up in my house. And I use to stress about these things but I figure... We're all adults at this stage, parents are people too and far from perfect. Live the way that makes you guys happy.

If your concerened could you ask your mother or father, whats with the sleeping arrangements, the fact that you pretty much know already, will mean it aint much of a shock, but maybe clear the air. Sometimes people just need space.. physical space!