Bored and fed up

LegacyUser

I'm feeling incredibly bored and fed up these days and have very little interest in things. I was supposed to go away for the week but at the last minute I sort of bottled it/cancelled and felt like an idiot for doing so. That left me with 2 weeks off work and nothing to do. I'm basically sitting about my apartment, surfing the net, watching TV and generally boring myself to tears.

I've got some issues in my life - low self esteem, low confidence. I'm overweight and I know I need to do something about it but I just can't seem to motivate myself to eat right or exercise. I thought to myself I would spend these two weeks going to the gym and eating right and every day I just don't want to do either. I eat some crap, then feel like crap and vow never to do it again, then the next day I've forgotten about how bad I felt and it's back to square one.

I'm even supposed to meet a girl tonight and I'm very uninterested in the whole thing. We got chatting online and swapped pics and she seems ok looking but I'm just generally very uninterested in meeting up with her. At the same time, I don't know if I could be bothered meeting any girl at the moment so strong is my ambivalence towards things. I'm actually hoping she cancels but I doubt she will. I cancelled last week as I was feeling a bit off that morning. It was true, but at the same time I was looking for an excuse not to go. I was glad I didn't go as I felt worse that night.

How do I snap myself out of this? I just seem to be stuck in a rut of boredom, depression and general apathy towards almost everything.

I know there's lots of people worse off than me, I just need to vent.

Hank_Jones

I used to feel like that sometimes.
I'd say to go out and do things that you enjoy, things that are just for you.
If you become involved in things that you are interested in, then you are likely to meet people with common interests.
Talking to people who have similar interests allows you to build confidence, as you'll most likely be talking about stuff that you actually like.
Regarding exercise, I would advise you to start exercising at home, sit ups, push ups, squats.
This sort of thing will improve your fitness and you won't feel so self concious about your weight etc and will be more willing to go out and exercise with others.
Plus you'll probably begin to enjoy it.
I hadn't run for years (like nearly 10) and after doing some exercise at home I decided to give it a go.
At first it was tough going, but then I began to enjoy it, clears your mind and makes you feel better about yourself.

As for food, if you just go out and buy healthy food, have nothing (or very little) in the apartment that is unhealthy,
then you will be pretty much forced to eat quite healthily.
If I was you, I'd be making dishes with vegetables that you like.
Personally, I always make dishes with Peppers, Onions, Carrots, Mushrooms, Chillies, Potatoes or Brocolli.
It's fairly easy to cook something one day and then just put left overs in the fridge for another couple of days (or else you could freeze it),
then all you would have to cook potatoes, or rice, or whatever to go with it.
Just buy fruit and vegetables that you like, don't go out of your way to buy healthy, healthy weight watchers stuff, just make nice homely meals with lots of vegetables.

LegacyUser

Thanks for this. I like the idea of doing the sit-ups, squats and push-ups at home. I would like to get into jogging I think, but I need to get my weight down first so as to not hurt my joints. I suppose sorting out the food in the apartment is a quick and painless way of moving things in the right direction too.

I think I will aim to do 10 sit-ups, push-ups and squats tomorrow morning. And increase it by 1 every day and see how I get on.

I'm still ambivalent about meeting that girl later. I suppose I should go meet up with her as if I cancel again, I can't organise a 3rd meeting. However I'm really not that bothered. I suppose I'll go for one or two and then if I'm not that interested, I'll head on. She could very well do the same thing herself anyway.

LD 50

Goingur wrote: »

Thanks for this. I like the idea of doing the sit-ups, squats and push-ups at home. I would like to get into jogging I think, but I need to get my weight down first so as to not hurt my joints. I suppose sorting out the food in the apartment is a quick and painless way of moving things in the right direction too.

I think I will aim to do 10 sit-ups, push-ups and squats tomorrow morning. And increase it by 1 every day and see how I get on.

Why not start now? If you put it off today, you're likely to put it off tomorrow.