Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

girlfriend moved away today

  • 31-03-2010 10:01am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    i was seeing a girl on-off for 3 years, it was always quite casual up until about 3 months ago when she got a job in america, our relationship became quite intense when we realised she was moving away. she left this morning for new york. on sunday night she texted me saying she didnt think she could be with me because she would be too upset me being here and her over there. although i kind of agreed, i felt her doing it 3 days before she left, and by text, was a bit insensitive.

    she had a going away party on monday night, and i was too upset to go, she texted me to come but i said i couldnt. i tried to contact her yesterday to meet up and say my goodbye but she texted me saying 'whats the point'. we had an argument that i had hurt her by not showing up, and that she had hurt me by sending that text. she's now gone and i am in bits. i feel physically sick that i didnt go to the party but at the time i was too upset.

    i sent her an email to let her know what she meant to me and wish her good luck, but i cant get her out of my head. i dont really know what advice im looking for i just had to write it all down. i just want to stop thinking about her?


Comments

  • #2
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    It'll take time to forget, probably a couple months. Distract yourself as much as possible in the meantime - friends/sports/video games/movies/etc. Minimize contact with her.


  • #3
    pookie82
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,217 ✭✭✭pookie82


    Sounds like a classic case of don't know what you've got 'till it's gone. In fairness, three years is long enough surely to realise if you want to become serious with someone. Things hotted up once she announced she was going away because the time limit spiced things up, but you have to examine whether she would hold the same appeal if she had stayed here.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    if she hadnt of moved, do you really think it would have developed into a serious relationship? 3 years is long enough to figure out how you feel about someone, it was casual and on/off for a reason. it sounds more like wanting what what you cant have, rather than not realising what youve got til its gone. iv been through pretty much the exact same thing and eventually came to realise this. you say it got intense when you found out she was moving? would you have felt any more intense or any different about her if you hadnt of gotten this news? dosent sound like it! she is right by saying the long distance thing is not going to work, this will only drag out the loss you feel at the moment. its understandable youre upset, you have lost someone youre used to having around, thats a bit of a change. but stop trying to magnify it as being anything more than that because its not. accept the change and move on. focus on your own life. you will meet someone eventually who you will want something deeper than an on/off relationship with.


Advertisement