What qualities do guys like in a girl?

Monkey09

Hi there!
I'm looking for some serious answers to this question please! There's a guy in college that i really like. He seems to have a great personality-friendly and chatty. I've spoken to him briefly a couple of times and we seemed to get on quite well together.
I was just wondfering if there are any qualities which guys really like in a girl??
I'd be really grateful for any advice!

Nevyn

There is no magical catch all answer for this.
You can't take a straw poll on the internet and assume the person you like will be the same.

kjl

Monkey09 wrote: »

Hi there!
I'm looking for some serious answers to this question please! There's a guy in college that i really like. He seems to have a great personality-friendly and chatty. I've spoken to him briefly a couple of times and we seemed to get on quite well together.
I was just wondfering if there are any qualities which guys really like in a girl??
I'd be really grateful for any advice!

Well guys like it when girls ask them out.

Sanjuro

Confidence. Independence. A great sense of humour. Intelligence. Kindness. Empathy. But then, that's just me. Some other guy might have the complete opposite taste in women. It's all subjective, OP.

Elle Collins

I find that men generally appreciate independence in a woman and are very turned off by women who bawl up into their faces looking for premature commitment as if they had nothing worthwhile going on in their own lives.

Of course some men will like women who behave like limpits, but is that really the sort of man you'd want anyway?

Ginja Ninja

Monkey09 wrote: »

we seemed to get on quite well together.

this would be near the top for any relationship,if he gets on well with you and vice versa,great.If at all possible try and spend more time with him[it'd be a lot easier if you have a common group of friends or something like this]

if he likes you as a friend it could probably lead on to something more,most guys put personality first for most of these situation.

none of that is garaunteed but if you get and spend time together it's a good start

meditraitor

When I younger I loved a decent pair of tits, nice ass, good looks but now I think honesty, intellect and sense of humour are everything.....

Stu

Easy on the eye (doesn't have to be stunning), Kind, Caring, Easygoing, Good Converation, have their own life.

Turn Offs : Women who play mind games, need constant reassurance. Drama Queens, I don't like Drama for no reason.

Hank_Jones

I like girls to have some of the same interests as me (that way we have stuff to talk about).
For them to not to too worried about their looks (just makes me think they are vain and high maintenance).
They should be smart, not worried to be themselves and not scared of doing things they want for fear of what other people will think of them.

I think I just described myself in female form.
Does that make me shallow?
I think I also described certain attributes of girls I like though.

LegacyUser

This is a highly ambiguous question as the answers will often vary from person to person. But from my own point of view I think there has to be an obvious attraction between you, although this can often grow out of nowhere. For example, I have often known girls for a while before realizing that I found them attractive, its funny like that. Also I think when it comes to guys, a lot of men become more attracted to some girls after the girl has shown interest in them, particularly if the guy in question is not a babe magnet and doesn't always have girls throwing themselves at him.

Another thing is opposites often attract. I am big in to music and art so I always picture the girl I end up with to be like me in female form but I have often had feelings for girls who didn't quite share my interests in the past. I think there is a personal connection that goes beyond things you have in common some times, however I think it is important to share interests! OP don't try be anybody but yourself and if ye click, ye click. If not then wasn't meant to be and it was just a crush. Believe me crushes come and go, but actually connecting with someone isn't far more rare.

The_Kew_Tour

Looks do come into it no question, but you dont have to be perfect. (I aint so dont expect girl be either)

For me a cuteness about a girl wins me all the time. Nice warm smile and not type girl who gets jealous easy.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

The thing I like most about girls is their capacity to be kind and caring.
And they love cuddles (fellas do to but are less likely to admit it!)

Nulty

I don't want to change the subject but in my case, I'd generally look for a girl with a caring attitude, I don't care if a girl is 'boring' as long as shes got an inquisitive mind and treats everyone equally.

I have to respect her, in a nutshell.

Respect first, impress later.

Tigger

ask him out

unless you never had a chance he'll say yes

Agent J

Sanity.

Wibbs

Looks, loyalty, emotional consistency and the ability to think of others outside themselves. The latter a biggy.

Micky Dolenz

Smile and be friendly. A smiling woman is a thing of beauty

Monkey09

kjl wrote: »

Well guys like it when girls ask them out.

I'd never have the confidence to do that...too scared of rejection. I'm more of a traditional girl to be honest!! I prefer the guy to ask me...

Agent J

Monkey09 wrote: »

I'd never have the confidence to do that...too scared of rejection. I'm more of a traditional girl to be honest!! I prefer the guy to ask me...

Thats such a cop out.

Seriously it is very impressive for someone to have the guts to ask someone out. It shows a lot of confidence and independance if done right.

krustydoyle

I like girls to be honest and not be drama queens... been mature is a big thing for me... and girls that dont simply judge you so quickly... jesus that can be annoying.. sorry for the mini rant but im fecked up of been solely judged on my looks..

best of luck

Eve_Dublin

krustydoyle wrote: »

I like girls to be honest and not be drama queens... been mature is a big thing for me... and girls that dont simply judge you so quickly... jesus that can be annoying.. sorry for the mini rant but im fecked up of been solely judged on my looks..

best of luck

You've a better chance than us women krusty. Women base their judgement of men a lot less on looks than visa versa. Perhaps you're not being judged solely on your looks but on how you carry yourself as well. I've gone out with some very unconventional looking men in my time but they all had one thing in common: an ability to be comfortable in their own skin. Super-dooper attractive trait in any one.

OP all the guys above mentioned how they like a decent, kind, respectful woman....a lot of men like the total opposite as well but I'm a firm believer than like attract alike...if you're kind and respectful, you'll attract the same in men.

krustydoyle

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

You've a better chance than us women krusty. Women base their judgement of men a lot less on looks than visa versa. Perhaps you're not being judged solely on your looks but on how you carry yourself as well. I've gone out with some very unconventional looking men in my time but they all had one thing in common: an ability to be comfortable in their own skin. Super-dooper attractive trait in any one.

OP all the guys above mentioned how they like a decent, kind, respectful woman....a lot of men like the total opposite as well but I'm a firm believer than like attract alike...if you're kind and respectful, you'll attract the same in men.

Honest to god im kind and considerate so i dunno what im doing wrong, i keep finding girls that need looking after or have serious problems. and the few proper relationships ive had i fecked up.. im 26 now and im back in college but it bothers me so much at times ye know???

W.Shakes-Beer

krustydoyle wrote: »

Honest to god im kind and considerate so i dunno what im doing wrong, i keep finding girls that need looking after or have serious problems. and the few proper relationships ive had i fecked up.. im 26 now and im back in college but it bothers me so much at times ye know???

i like a girl thats pretty but doesnt have to wear tonnes of makeup to look pretty, a naturally pretty girl if you will.

I like girls that arent sleazy, who dont go out and blind drunk all the time and that are easy to chat to, and who dont judge others based on looks etc.

I like a girl that is quite just...normal i guess. Bit like myself!

Need2Know4Sure

Monkey09 wrote: »

I'd never have the confidence to do that...too scared of rejection. I'm more of a traditional girl to be honest!! I prefer the guy to ask me...

As others have said...everybody is different so really hard to answer that question.

Surely you could flirt with him a bit.....Head out on the same night hes going out and accidently on purpose bump into him

Magenta

Monkey09 wrote: »

I was just wondfering if there are any qualities which guys really like in a girl??
I'd be really grateful for any advice!

Babe don't worry about stuff like that... if he likes you, he likes you the way you are.