Jealousy

justforadvice

How do you stop jealous feeling , when in actual fact there doesnt appear to be any reason to feel jealous.

This is a nightmare , any advice would be most welcome.

Please

vicecreamsundae

[i'm assuming you're talking about in relationships?]

ugh jealousy is the worst, it really can ruin relationships for no reason at all! in my first proper relationship, we were both really jealous -especially at the start when we were younger. we didn't like each other hanging out with friends of the opposite sex and all that kind of thing. it's really unhealthy. i've definitely gotten over it, though i'm not sure how...i guess just growing up and just telling myself i don't WANT to be that jealous kind of person. because if you get jealous easily, you're the one it drives mad [even though it's no picnic for the other person either].

just stay rational, and when something starts to make you jealous just remind yourself you're overreacting, that whatever is making you jealous is normal, and healthy and you trust each other.

what kind of things are making you jealous?

John Mason

as a ex gf who was on the receiving end of unnecessary jealousy, the only thing you can do is work on your self esteem go an see a counsellor.

i repeat EX GF!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LegacyUser

that's a tough one alright, I'd say that eventually it will bypass with time and like the OP said, this type of thing can destroy relationships and it could be so avoidable. maybe its best to sit down and talk to the person your apparently jealous of, because maybe there is something even though you said there was nothing to be jealous of. dont let this destroy the relationship...sort it out someway or the other. id say talk to the person, surely they'll understand if its a relationship/friendship your talking bout. hope this helps.

justforadvice

Thank you so much for your kind advice , I thnk it really is a matter of self esteem , .
Its hard to explain what make m jealous , my partner is very loving but a very good mixer with other folk , I suppose when he chats to other women I get knot in my stomach and this makes me so irrational.

Wow I sound like such a loser , wouldnt mind but I am old enough to know better ,

vicecreamsundae wrote: »

[i'm assuming you're talking about in relationships?]

ugh jealousy is the worst, it really can ruin relationships for no reason at all! in my first proper relationship, we were both really jealous -especially at the start when we were younger. we didn't like each other hanging out with friends of the opposite sex and all that kind of thing. it's really unhealthy. i've definitely gotten over it, though i'm not sure how...i guess just growing up and just telling myself i don't WANT to be that jealous kind of person. because if you get jealous easily, you're the one it drives mad [even though it's no picnic for the other person either].

just stay rational, and when something starts to make you jealous just remind yourself you're overreacting, that whatever is making you jealous is normal, and healthy and you trust each other.

what kind of things are making you jealous?