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Depression and relationship

  • 28-03-2010 3:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I was going out with what seemed a really nice guy for a few months. It was going great on both our parts. He seemed to be made up he was with me and I was made up with him.
    He would ring me twice a day for a chat if we weren't seeing each other that night and we would see each other atleast twice a week.
    I met his friends and all seemed to be going well.
    Then just over a couple of days he gets very blasé about calling me and when pressed he tells me he can't be in a relationship right now as he has serious things happenning that he needs to sort out.
    He is genuine when he says he has problems that have to get sorted but I think he may be a bit down too. He told me he would like to see me when he gets the problem sorted if I was still available and that there's nothing I did wrong and he still really likes me.
    The thing I can't understand and need to get my head around is, is it possible to really really like someone and just shut them out totally cause you're going through a hard time?
    He said he wasn't giving me false hope and I do like the guy he knows this and still can't let me in.
    Should I just move on or wait a couple of weeks and see will he let me be there for him?

    Ps his problem is nothing health or mentality wise, it's one that can be sorted within a couple of months max
    I just feel I'm making a fool of myself letting him know I'm there and all he has to do is call.
    Any advice is more than welcome.
    Thanks.


Comments

  • #2
    girlwitcurls
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 180 ✭✭girlwitcurls


    in a saimilar situation myself!!

    im 7 weeks on and decided to move on ...

    good luck xx


  • #3
    polswan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1 ✭polswan


    Hi op,
    reading your post reminded me of a similar situation I was in and regret to this day not giving the other person the time needed to deal with issues they had at the time.Personally I would give the guy time to deal with whatever it is he has to deal with,within reason of course.You say he likes you and vice versa so what's a couple of weeks in the broader scheme of things?
    Going by your post you say he's genuine and you have no reason to believe otherwise so this is probably the way he feels able to deal with whatever his problems are.Sometimes being there for someone means giving them the time and space to deal with whatever it is they're going through. The fact that he sees you having a relationship when he sorts his problems out is a good thing in my opinion as he will then be able to focus fully on the relationship.
    From experience I know if you do give the other person a chance at least you wo'nt be wondering what if further down the line.
    No you're not making a fool of yourself as if he's a genuine guy like you said well surely he deserves a chance.However I would not wait around too long but a few weeks is reasonable enough time so they can let you know how things are progressing or not.
    Best of luck hope it turns out ok for you xx


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