Advice Needed

ksdad

Hello,

I'm new here and a bit embarrased to be posting here but here goes:

My partner and I separated last year and she returned to Birmingham with our son and daughter. I just got word last night that my daughter has been taken seriously ill and I really, badly want/need to see her and she has been asking for me. The problem is that I am out of work since three weeks ago and my social welfare claim hasn't come through and I'm told it won't for another five to six weeks. As a result I cannot afford to go.

I went to the Community Welfare officer today and she gave me a sheaf of forms to fill in. I explained that I urgently needed some money (only €200 or so) to get a boat and train fare but she was steadfast that she can't help until my forms are processed and she can't (or won't?) until next Tuesday at the earliest. I asked for a special or urgent needs payment but she again said she can't until forms are processed. I went to the citizens advice bureau and they said the Community Welfare Officer was my only source. Is this true? By the way the CW officer is only there one day a week.

Does anyone have any advice? I went to my bank to see if they could do a short term small overdraft but when they heard I was laid off they said no chance. I'm not a Credit Union member. I'm owed redundancy which hasn't come through yet either as it's in the hands of a liquidator. I'm so desperate to see her any advice would be appreciated. My head is really messed up over this so maybe I'm missing something.

kjl

Sell something....

surely you have something valuable around the house, like a laptop or xbox or something, put up an ad in adverts.ie, sister site of boards and you should get a response very quickly.

GL

ksdad

I tried selling my pc today but the guy in the shop offered €30 for it cos it's over three years old. I don't have an x box or any of that kind of stuff. I'm not sure I have anything of any real value but I will try. My problem is time. I really need to move fast. Thanks for your input though.

Is your relationship with your ex partner amicable enough you could ask them to fund it, explain the situation and sign something saying you'll pay them back asap? Or similar with a family member?

ksdad

I don't have any close family. My ex hasn't returned my calls today. I have left her a message explaining the situation. The time thing is really getting to me now. I'm getting worried.

Shayman

is there noone that could lend it to you in the interim? I'd love to help as I've been in a similar spot, but I'm organising to get away to see a sick friend myself. I really wish I could!

ksdad

No. I tried a few sources today. No joy. I even begged the welfare officers on the phone but they didnt care. I suppose there's no chance now. The thing that is really killing me is if she's thinking I haven't come because I don't love her. I adore her.

LegacyUser

ksdad wrote: »

No. I tried a few sources today. No joy. I even begged the welfare officers on the phone but they didnt care. I suppose there's no chance now. The thing that is really killing me is if she's thinking I haven't come because I don't love her. I adore her.

Hey op i hope your daughter is ok

Have you tried svp ? They might help out with ticket,You never know they are great people. Or do the ferry and coach i know takes longer to get there but will get you there, and its cheaper.Even ask a friends anyone to get together and throw in cash.I am sure they will help wouldn't they? Ask people you would be least likely to ask you never know they may surprise you.

tenchi-fan

Do you not have any family, friends or former workmates who would lend you the money? And did you not explain the situation to your ex to see if she would help out?

If not, you could try a charity organisation.

Having exhausted all of those avenues, all I can really advise is to ask your ex to let you speak to your daughter over the phone.