very upset over this

LegacyUser

ok bit of a long story so i'll keep it brief,basicially my boyfriend is in college and there's a fella in his class he doesnt really get on with it's been this way from the start they just don't like eachother anyway today they were taking the piss out of eachother trading insults etc when this fella says to my boyfriend that i'm a dog obviously my boyfriend goes for him etc,now this fella has only seen me a handfull of times and never face to face or up close but since my boyfriend rang me up to tell me this i can't stop crying i'm just so upset over this i mean this fella doesn't even know me, now i cant stop thinking to myself that maybe its true, i've never had much confidence to begin with but now its totally shattered.i just dont know how to get over this how to move on,i've never thought i was a model but i'm not a dog, when i was single i had quiet a few offers and i've even been told i'm good looking. I'm just so hurt

Kimia

Why are you giving this randomer so much power over your emotions?

STOP it right now! Who cares what anyone thinks of you? If anything this just highlights that you need to work on feeling secure in yourself.

Stop crying and start getting confident in yourself. It's never nice to hear that someone doesn't find you attractive but really, should you care that much? No of course not.

Pyr0

when i was single i had quiet a few offers and i've even been told i'm good looking. I'm just so hurt

So you've been told and offered things by a lot of people by the sounds of it but yet you let ONE little comment set you off ? Do you see the logic in that at all ? Ignore the comment and stop crying about it.

Overheal

veryhurt wrote: »

ok bit of a long story so i'll keep it brief,basicially my boyfriend is in college and there's a fella in his class he doesnt really get on with it's been this way from the start they just don't like eachother anyway today they were taking the piss out of eachother trading insults etc when this fella says to my boyfriend that i'm a dog obviously my boyfriend goes for him etc,now this fella has only seen me a handfull of times and never face to face or up close but since my boyfriend rang me up to tell me this i can't stop crying i'm just so upset over this i mean this fella doesn't even know me, now i cant stop thinking to myself that maybe its true, i've never had much confidence to begin with but now its totally shattered.i just dont know how to get over this how to move on,i've never thought i was a model but i'm not a dog, when i was single i had quiet a few offers and i've even been told i'm good looking. I'm just so hurt

You seem to be giving a lot of weight to someone's opinion, one which has no credibility whatsoever.

Why?

Nevyn

Some idiot makes a school yard idiotic remark about you and then your boy friend foolishly tells you, and it has you crying?

Girl there is something not right with you if what some random idiot said is upsetting you this much.

Miss Fluff

Overheal wrote: »

You seem to be giving a lot of weight to someone's opinion, one which has no credibility whatsoever.

Why?

+1. You don't even know this bloke, or he you. You shouldn't give a flying
fiddlers what he did or didn't say. And why let a randomers idiotic comment effect you like this?

JonathanAnon

veryhurt wrote: »

i just dont know how to get over this how to move on,i've never thought i was a model but i'm not a dog, when i was single i had quiet a few offers and i've even been told i'm good looking. I'm just so hurt

WHY are you taking the opinion of your boyfriend's arch enemy as being an objective evalutaion of your looks. He is likely to say "your girlfriend is a dog" even if you were a supermodel. He is just saying anything at all to annoy your boyfriend. Can you not see that?

cafecolour

Good god honey, if you believe everything this lad says, what you must think of your BFs poor mother!


Just to emphasize that I'm not taking the piss: If you believe you're a dog because this lad said it, you might as well believe he's been sleeping with you BFs mother as well - because I guarantee he's used that one already and that's the level he's operating on.

kjl

hmmmm, do you per chance not want him to see you that way? do you have any mixed feelings for this guy?

This seems like a massive over reaction for something so petty. You man is just a dick, and you bf shouldn't have told you what he said.

LegacyUser

thanks for all your replies i now realise that this guy was only trying to hurt my boyfriend, i am too over sensitive for my own good,this guy is not even worth thinking about. thanks again

Canard

Don't listen to him, you've managed to get a boyfriend after all, right?

And exactly, he hasnt seen you much, how could he know you?

Just let it go, it means nothing, especially since the person who said it isnt exactly on friendly terms with your bf.