I am obsessed with girls!

LegacyUser

Ok I know this mite sound like a stupid problem but here goes anyway. I am a 22 year old guy and in college. Like most guys my age I think about sex a lot of the time. Unfortunately for me I don't get near as much as I would like but I have done ok so far I think and I think 99% of people my age would agree that they would like to have more sex than they actually do, just life! Anyway I think I am a little over obsessed even for my age. I cannot stop staring at girls I fancy every day. Its not like I am blatantly gazing or anything and don't get caught much (I don't think) but I cannot help myself, I am obsessed with the female form.

When I pass a nice girl it is almost like torture some times how I feel. It is not always about sex or anything and I am not thinking "oh I'd love to" but instead I just want to be close to the girl(s). Even the smell drives me crazy sometimes when I am close to a good looking girl. I don't know whether I am just a hugely sexually frustrated young man or I have some sort of a problem. For instance I almost don't like seeing lots of good looking girls through out my day because it just makes me feel inadequate that I am not with one of these women. There are so many beautiful girls everywhere you look these days and I feel like there is something wrong with me that I cannot seem to land one. I dunno maybe these are normal feelings, I am not bad looking or anything and I feel I am good enough to land a girl I like but I just get this huge dominance feeling that girls portray when you see so many together and it is very over whelming!

HalloweenJack

I'm 21 and I'm exactly the same.

I wouldn't worry about it. From what my friends tell me, they are mostly like that.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

I hear ya. It's really not even worth your while looking at a really hot girl on the street, it hurts too much

I suppose we should all just get girlfriends or something

LegacyUser

firstly dude, i and all my friends were like that bat your age.

I know it a pain that you don't score allot but i can give you one solid piece of advice that works:

if it gets to much, just whack off (not joking or troll baiting). Not only will this help relax you but also relaxs you around the opposite sex.

lucky guy, you have it all ahead of you .

Stu

Congratulations on being a perfectly normal young healthy horny red blooded male. Now, get out there and charm the pants (literally) off the ladies , play the field and all that. What a great age, make the most of it.

deadpoet

I could have written that exact same post OP. In fact I originally thought I wrote this the other night whilst drunk and complete forgot about it as I'm even the same age *laughs*. Unless this is causing disorder to your life then it shouldnt be a problem - these feelings are completely natural.

There is nothing on this Earth more comely than a beautiful female - which isn't at all a pun for my attraction more often than not is one not based on sexual lust nor the ilk of anything perverse. Rather, it is founded on an intense sense of appreciation and affinity I've aquired over the course of my life.

What is concerning is your choice of words, most importantly your use of the word 'obsessed' which suggests that this is indeed causing disruption to your daily doings.v The best cure for this pining would be to befriend an appropriate female and pursue the romance. This always works for me as I focus all my desire upon the one woman and take immense pleasure in playing the gentleman: being her man, her desire, her hero...

Many years ago, when my skills in persuing women fell far short of being anywhere near as honed as today (mainly through cowardice and a ridiculous fear of rejection) I began to paint beautiful women - again, not what you would describe as erotic or pornographic - but out of appreciation of the female form and this for me was HUGELY theraputic. I continue to paint them to this day.

LegacyUser

I think for me it is an over-appreciation for how good looking some girls are. And the thing is most of these girls are not even that beautiful. I mean they are obviously good looking but would not put them in the same category as some girls from other nationalities. Like I find myself gazing at any half decent looking girl and many of them are just the usual done up with make up, hair, and dressed well. For me I think my obsession is a result of extended periods of time without having sex. For example if I has sex this weekend I guarantee I would not be almost walking in to walls next week while admiring girls. I'd most likely be content for a couple of weeks and then this burning desire to be with another girl with grow back. This has been the theme anyway in my past after being with women. Its like women are this extremely addictive drug (and I don't just mean sexually) and you crave them more and more the longer you have gone without them. Like I said earlier it is just an over all urge to be near a girl you are attracted to. The need for sex is a big part of it but it is also the need to be close and affectionate with a girl. Personally I love the company of girls full stop but seeing so many beautiful women each day can be very over whelming. Ok its not like I am gonna turn in to a stalker or anything or jump on one but its the strong feeling I get inside that can almost hurt some times. Ha, guess I just need to get the hell out there and pull!

Miss Fluff

girlsonthebrain wrote: »

Ok its not like I am gonna turn in to a stalker or anything or jump on one but its the strong feeling I get inside that can almost hurt some times.

Regular masturbation should help that

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Regular masturbation should help that

Nah am not big on that, there's no substitute for the real thing , just gotta get out more socially I think and try get back in the game

krudler

You sound like a normal guy tbh

LegacyUser

Mate, I would love to be you. I'm a 20 year old male and depression has basically reduced my sex drive to almost nothing. I had a sex drive like your's until I was about 16 I suppose. I think most men have a high sex drive. I would kill to have the sex drive you describe O.P.

IamtheWalrus

I could easily have written that post OP. I'm now 28 and I'd say my obsession has halved. Has been like this for about 2 years. When my sex drive lowered, at first I wondered if I was turning gay. Then wondered if it was just me growing out of the phase but now that another poster mentioned depression lowering his sex drive, I wonder is that happening me.. Don't feel overly depressed though.

Calibos

girlsonthebrain wrote: »

Nah am not big on that, there's no substitute for the real thing , just gotta get out more socially I think and try get back in the game

Of course its not a substitute and you do need to get out more socially etc but you don't have to pick one to the exclusion of the other(masturbation-Sex) Just think of it as self administered medicine you take a couple of times a week to take the edge off the obsessing that maybe affecting your concentration, which is affecting your college work, which will affect your grades, which will affect your job prospects, which will affect your earning potential, which will affect your ability to pull the stunners you desire so much

Ahoy!

op,man i could've written your post word for word. Its nice to see beautiful girls but at the same time makes you feel like sh*t because you're not close with them.:p

Zascar

girlsonthebrain wrote: »

Unfortunately for me I don't get near as much as I would like

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We don't allow promotion of PUA scams on this forum.

LegacyUser

Zascar wrote: »

Dude look up David DeAngello and Ross Jeffries etc and learn the skills you need to be more confident and get more women. Some guys just have the talent naturally but others no so much. It can be learnt though, and believe me it's worth it if you do

Are these those "pulling mentors" that you have to pay for their e-books and stuff or are there resources free? Not really in to this whole sort of training thing but I'll keep an open mind and would be willing to try it. Are there any resources that you personally recommend?

Zascar

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We don't allow promotion of PUA scams on this forum.

That's ridiculous. I gave the name of two people who are known for helping guys be more confident with women. Some tactics may be questionable by some, but me not being allowed mention two names is silly.

OP look up the stuff on the web, there is plenty available for free

LegacyUser

Jesus this is freaky, i could of written that myself word for word. Its extremely frustrating being surrounded by such beautiful women, If op like me you are in a leading university setting everyday you are coming into contact with possibly some of the most beautiful women of our age in the country. Im 21 and judging by what my friends are saying i think we are all in the one boat women are just on the brain 24/7 especially if your not getting any so i think our feelings are 100% normal. The most annoying thing for me is that I wouldnt know what to say to women good looking or otherwise, I dont know op if you may have this problem or not. Basically I think if I had the know how and confidence to approach and converse with girls I wouldnt have the same anxietys around them. But where to start its bugging me. I never really had a relationship with women or even a girl whom i could call a mate which is really quite frustrating. Im no good with women only when im locked, in college when sober im sh**e at talking to women i just get tongue tied so approching is a major biggie for me, and sustaining a conversation is worse... it really is bugging me!! The key with women is confidence and I just dont have it!

Zaph

Zascar wrote: »

Some tactics may be questionable by some

Which is why we don't permit this sort of thing any more. Who's to know which are the legit guys and which are the scam artists? Certainly not the poster requesting help, and the mods aren't either so it's not possible for us to make a distinction.

Regardless of that, as a mod you should know better than to question another mod's actions on-thread. If you have an issue with what Thaed did I suggest you PM her.

LegacyUser

johnnynogee wrote: »

Jesus this is freaky, i could of written that myself word for word. Its extremely frustrating being surrounded by such beautiful women, If op like me you are in a leading university setting everyday you are coming into contact with possibly some of the most beautiful women of our age in the country. Im 21 and judging by what my friends are saying i think we are all in the one boat women are just on the brain 24/7 especially if your not getting any so i think our feelings are 100% normal. The most annoying thing for me is that I wouldnt know what to say to women good looking or otherwise, I dont know op if you may have this problem or not. Basically I think if I had the know how and confidence to approach and converse with girls I wouldnt have the same anxietys around them. But where to start its bugging me. I never really had a relationship with women or even a girl whom i could call a mate which is really quite frustrating. Im no good with women only when im locked, in college when sober im sh**e at talking to women i just get tongue tied so approching is a major biggie for me, and sustaining a conversation is worse... it really is bugging me!! The key with women is confidence and I just dont have it!

Yep this is pretty accurate Am in a big university so LOTS of amazing looking girls around every day. Definitely some of the finest this country has to offer! To be honest in this country these girls probably feel like celebs as there is not that many who are this attractive. If you compare it with America and even the UK where the population is far higher and there are way more good looking girls, their confidence is not as high. I've been with girls from the UK and America that I would NEVER pull in Ireland! Ireland has its fair share of gorgeous girls but the ratio isn't near as close to even the UK from what I have seen. This just makes good looking girls more intimidating over here than they are else where. However the issue of whether or not they are harder to pull may very well just be with me and this is perhaps just an insecurity I have regarding girls from home.

I'd say most of the hot girls in college are in relationships with guys a few years older than them who have jobs, car etc. Not trying to imply that they are shallow or anything but isn't this often the case with girls? Even back in secondary school, all the girls I fancied were with guys who were a few years ahead. Anyway as for the self confidence thing, I think it comes with having interactions with girls. For me every time I am with a girl or get a compliment my confidence is high for a week or so after and then it gradually drops the longer I am not with another. Ha, its sort of like a drug effect I guess and when it is low, walking around college can be tough as hell. Its weird though coz on another day I can really enjoying seeing beautiful girls, it all depends on how I feel about myself.