Should I text or is it too late??

LegacyUser

Just to throw it out there before I get into this…I have a serious problem with initiating anything with a guy, call it low self confidence or whatever…it’s never been my style. Terrifies me!

So I met a guy on a night out a few weeks ago, got on like a house on fire and spent the night slagging each other off/flirting, (turns out we have people in common, though a somewhat tenuous link…) with a cheeky kiss at the end of the night. Swapped numbers, texted the whole next day.

We met in Cork but both living in Dublin, and he expressed interest in seeing me in Dublin at some stage, that night and again the next day. Anyway, I was in the middle of the busiest week of my life, so when he asked I said would love to, but it will be next week by the time I’m free…he said yeah, cool, provisionally next week. He sent a text later in the week asking if I was out…I wasn’t. Then a few days later, Paddy’s night, was I out…yes I was and completely sh1tfaced for shame…didn’t see the text til the next day so didn’t get to meet up with him then either.

Now it’s almost a week since I last heard from him. I really do like him, he’s hot, hilarious and there was definite chemistry…but does all this look like I’ve been fobbing him off? I genuinely haven’t been, it’s just that work went nuts literally the day after I met him and I haven’t had a breather. I’d love to see him again but not sure what he’s thinking, or if indeed he even remembers who I am at this stage! What do you think, have I ruined my chances?

christina_x

text him, asap!
It might not be too late. Just explain that last week was hectic for you and that your sorry and ask him is he free any night this week Just straight out with it! He's done all the chasing and hasn't got anywhere so you cant expect him to try yet again. Just text him and explain
But dont leave it too long or he may think your texting as you couldnt find anything better, yahno?
Hope it works out for you!

Inari

He probably won't text again trying to initiate it, but you definitely could. Go for it. Send him a text asking if he's free.

MsHolloway

Hi op!

Yes, it could look like you were fobbing him off, so show him you are interested - why not send him a text asking him out (personally I think ringing someone is better but I understand your fear) dinner, cinema, drinks theres loads to choose from. Just say something simple like "Sorry I've been so busy lately, work was hectic lately. It would be nice to see you again. Would you be free for dinner/drinks/cinema on friday night" etc. Just go for it, op!

Lets weigh this up shall we?
Whats the worse that would happen? He doesn't text back - well then you will know. If you don't at least show the guy you're interested he won't know.

Whats the best that could happen? .. Well you won't know unless you give it a chance!

It's only been a week op, but saying that, don't leave it any longer to get in touch with him.

You may look back and really regret it if you don't!

gavney1

OP, if i was in his shoes (and I have been before) - I would DEFO think you were fobbing me off.

TEXT HIM TEXT HIM

I don't think it's too late btw. My guess is he'll be delighted with the text (although probably a bit pee'd off with you for not texting him back)

G-Money

If I was him your number would be a few days away from being deleted. In my own mind I understand that people can be busy, but it literally takes 30 seconds to write a reply to a text. I think if you have time to stop and read a text, you have time to reply, no excuses. Even something simple like "sorry I'm frantic busy at work, text you soon x" would be enough to keep him interested. I've received texts from people myself and haven't responded straight away. I've read the text and said to myself "ah, I'll respond later". It's not that I'm so insanely busy that I can't take time to respond, it's just lazyness.

My own rule is that unless some emergency happens at the exact same time, if you have time to read it, you have time to reply.

When I send a girl texts and she doesn't reply, I just assume that she's off out with some other guy and I eventually delete the number and move on. It makes you feel like an idiot if you thinking you are constantly chasing someone and just being given the run around.

If you are actually interested in this guy, text him soon or you'll likely never hear from him again.