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Am I Bisexual ?

  • 18-03-2010 3:38pm
    #1
    alpha2010
    Closed Accounts Posts: 304 ✭✭


    I'm 18, been with my bf 2 years but past year or so, i have been dreaming about having sex with girls, and when i wake up, i dont think its weird at all, i quite like it. me and bf watched porn together for the first time a few months ago, and i noticed i was focusing more on the woman, i was really turned on. i don't fancy any girl like even growing up i have always liked boys. but i dont know if im bisexual. like i fantasize about having sex with women sometimes, but the idea of being in a relationship with one, would freak me out, its hard to explain

    my head is messed up over this, i dont know what to think

    any advice ?


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  • #2
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    This sounds completely normal tbh. Wouldn't say your bisexual necessarily, lots of women have girl-on-girl fantasies and I think it's quite natural to look at the girl more during porn so I wouldn't stress about it.


  • #3
    alpha2010
    Closed Accounts Posts: 304 ✭✭alpha2010


    i hope so because i'm curious and i know i wont get a chance to find out because im with my bf now and hopefully forever

    i love him so much, and i dont want this to affect us at all

    :(


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    alpha2010 wrote: »
    i hope so because i'm curious and i know i wont get a chance to find out
    :(

    Is it something that you want to explore? I.e., if you weren't with your boyfriend would you like to experiment? Have you discussed it with him?


  • #5
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    It is really hard to know.

    The thing is though - are you normally attracted to women?

    If not then I would not worry about it.
    In terms of the porn though - lets put this in context - guessing that this is straight porn - so the guys are normally hairy, unshaven, sometimes a bit rough looking - so with that in mind really would not blame anyone for not spending time looking at their bodies. Not to mention their acting ability. Whereas at least some of the women really look like they are enjoying themselves - and it can be quite easy to see that pleasure and let your mind put you in that place...

    So personally, I would not freak out about this.
    It could also mean that the porn you are watching does not tick all your boxes - maybe male homosexual material might be better suited.

    At the end of the day though - you are in a committed and happy relationship I hope - so whether you are attracted to men or women - it is not like you can act on that without betraying your OH. So again, just relax and enjoy yourself with your partner.


  • #6
    profitius
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,976 ✭✭✭profitius


    Stop thinking about it. The more you think about it the more likely it is to happen. So when you start thinking about it think about something else instead.


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  • #7
    cafecolour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,328 ✭✭✭cafecolour


    Well, even if you are it's sort of immaterial - bisexuality is not a 'get-out-of-jail-free' card for monogamy - ie sleeping with a woman behind his back would still be cheating.

    The other possibility is you could see if he'd be up for a girl-girl-guy threesome, if that wouldn't cause jealousy issues.


  • #8
    Barracudaincork
    Closed Accounts Posts: 773 ✭✭✭Barracudaincork


    IMO you sound more bi-curious than bi-sexual, as you have said you dont fancy women in real life and these thoughts have only really been in your dreams.

    With regards to focusing on the women during porn, you said it was the first time, i am going to assume the first time you looked at porn ever and if that is the case then chances are its the first time you will have seen a women vagina etc other than your own, up close and personal. That alone would make it more intriguing to watch the women, as lets face it you can get a good look at a penis when you want :)


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