confuzzled :(

malibles

Hi

Would really appreciate some advice please, I'll keep this as concise as possible..

was with a guy last year for a few months until he had to move away for work, so we decided to call it a day and maybe see how things go when he gets back and he returned last week.
in the meantime, I've been seeing this other guy since after Christmas, to me its nothing serious, texting and whatever but only meeting up the odd time which is fine.
now the first guy i really cared for and my feelings have not changed for him. the new one seems pretty interested and initiates contact and meeting up.

my predicament? ... how do you end a "relationship" (or whatever you call something that isnt serious but ongoing all the same?!) I've been thinking for a while that I dont see any future with the current guy but I just dont know how to fizzle it out... he's really nice , just not really my type. now with the other one back in the country ( i should prob add we bumped into eachother in dublin last night and kissed) its put me thinking even more about it all. I'm really confused so any advice would be muchly appreciated...with an emphasis on how to let the current guy down as gently as poss but it wont be easy as we are not exactly in a definite relationship as far as im concerned so how would i go about finishing it? thanks

mood

Just tell him you don't think it is working out. If either of you were that keen you would be in a relationship at this stage not just texting and meeting up the odd time.

Ickle Magoo

malibles wrote: »

my predicament? ... how do you end a "relationship" (or whatever you call something that isnt serious but ongoing all the same?!)

Just be honest, without saying anything to hurt him. You've had fun but you don't see it going anywhere and you want to be free to meet someone you can have a more serious relationship with...

Best of luck.

malibles

thanks for the replies. one more question...how can I bring it up. should i just say it out while we're texting or whatever? (I know i know its not all about texting but the way things are with us it just seems easier that way) like do i just say it out of the blue or ask him where he thinks we are going and follow from there?

Ickle Magoo

I'd call just because that's the way I think things should be done and it's always appreciated more doing these kind of things, unpleasant as it may be, as close to face to face as you can.

malibles

Hmm true .... I dunno it seems kinda weird to just come out with it, out of the blue! Why do I get myself into these situations!

Thanks for your help Ickle Magoo

Ickle Magoo

They are going to appreciate it's a horrible thing to do but I think calling always breaks it as kindly as possible and no-one can be bitching that you dumped them by text!

malibles

Yeah, I'll just have to bite the bullet I guess. Thanks again