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Friend problem

  • 16-03-2010 8:32pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I know I am going to come across as a horrible person. This year a new girl joined our school. My group was a group of seven and we were all put in different classes. There was a group of three and for partners and things they had to join up with the new girl. Basically she is part of our group now, but for some reason I really can't warm to her. She is quiet and quite a closed and old-fashioned person. Some of her views really grate on me such as having no tolerance for gay people. Anyway I find myself getting frustrated at her for no reason. I don't feel like she adds much to the group and even when she tries to make conversation with me I find myself automatically closing up. I'm not normally a nasty person but I dont feel like there is anything I can do to change the situation. I can't exactly kick her out of the group and even though I have tried to get to know her, I just can't seem to warm to her. Is there any advice you can offer to change the situation or will I just have to put up with her for the next 2 and a half years.


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  • #2
    Kevster
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,980 ✭✭✭Kevster


    Yes, learn more about her. Set some time aside from your 'schedule' to talk to her to eliminate any preconceptions you have about her. She might be intolerable to homosexuals, for example, but maybe there's a logical reason behind this view. It might be rather out-dated in the modern society we live in, but there are reaons behind everything; just as there are reasons behind why you dislike her.

    Do you always take a while to 'warm up' to new people?; and how are you with new situations in general? For example, if you had to get the bus to a new town/city, would you feel very uneasy and nervous? New things can sometimes irk/unsettle us.

    Kevin


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