What Should I Do? Possible missing person

LegacyUser

I have been stewing on this for days now...

My ex and I split over a year ago, but have continued to remain as friends - he is not from Ireland and does not have any family here. Tuesday (2nd of march) he went for an operation in another city. I did not see him before he left. We kept in contact, all seemed ok, and he was released last saturday and travelled back down...I met him last sunday for bout 30mins to see how he was doing.

He seemed ok, but told me this crazy story about his living situation...its not the first time he complained about this problem with his flat mate. Saturday night when he came home he said his flatmate and his friends were doing drugs in the house. He went up to his room to find 2 people asleep in his bed. He got annoyed and stormed out. He went and stayed in a friend of his house (I know of this friend but I dont actually know him - I know roughly where he lives).

So anyways, met him last sunday for around 30mins - monday morning got a text from him (he was going to a checkup in hospital) and thats the last ive heard from him despite me ringing and texting numerous times to see is he ok (he was feeling a bit down).

I dont know what to do...I dont know if I should go to where he is renting - sunday he was adamant that he wasnt going to return to that house. Do i go in search of the place he said he was staying in...I dont know what to do. On a few occasions his phone has been off and now its back on again but no answer or reply from him. We havent fallen out or anything - he has no family here - I just want to see that he is safe and ok - he is a grown man, but what if something has happened him?

peanuthead

Well if you are very worried you should maybe go to the gardai and explain the situation to them. I don't think going to the house yourself is a good idea.

Is this behaviour typical of him? Have you often gone a long time without being in touch with him?

He doesn't have family here, but do you have contact with any of them wherever they are? You could get in touch with them.

Do you have any mutual friends you could ask?

There is a 'lost contacts' section on www.missing.ws you could advertise there - the only thing is that if he doesn't want to get in touch he won't.

The fact that the phone has been on and off at times is a good sign though.

Maybe text him and explain your worries and that if you don't get a text in say, 2 days, even just to say he's okay and doesn't want to chat at present that you're going to gardai as you're worried.

cafecolour

I second perhaps sending a text that says that you're worried to give a call that he's okay since you almost wondering if you should report him missing to the guards.

Also, he's not on facebook or anything like that were you could check to see if he's been active?

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice - still no sight nor sound of him...

I spoke to the lad he lived with - apparently the beginning of the month, he just upped and left - the guy in the house said that he owed him money...starting to sound like he has done a runner.

Ive also rang hospitals...no luck. Looks like he just doesnt want to be found/talk. There is nothing more I can do. Ive told some friends and a family member whats going on so that has relieve a little bit of pressure. Ive text him to say contacting the gardai is next (hey who knows, maybe he is in jail or something-who knows at this stage- i dont even know if what he is telling me is the truth).

theg81der

No guarentee the guy from the house is genuine I would go straight to the guardai they`ll sort it very quickly if he`s receiving benefits or anything.

Its not worth taking the chance if in doubt get the guards involved, if he`s fine then thats that if not good job you called.

Please go to the guards if something is wrong then the earlier you say the better.