Would you marry a second time?

Elenxor

I know many people do meet someone else and get married and live happy lives ever after.

Personally, I don't think I would., but never say never I suppose.

MaybeLogic

I wouldn't marry a first time, tbh.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

Can't see myself marrying either, I'm way too grumpy

But if I was married once and that didnt work it would take a hell of a lot for me to do it again

alwaysadub

Don't plan on getting married once,never mind twice.

Stacey.x

yeah, i would.

Cheap Thrills!

Marriage is for grown ups.

No-ies !!! :pac:

Dr_Phil

Elenxor wrote: »

I know many people do meet someone else and get married and live happy lives ever after.

Personally, I don't think I would., but never say never I suppose.

I would, but a different girl.

Joey the lips

i will never marry again. For one its stupid spending all that money on one day and second. I am too ugly.

SadieSue

I don't think that I would get married again.
I am not a glutton for punishment!

cynder

I intend on staying with the one i married - until death do us part.


I was with him since i was 17 and married him when i was 28 (3 kids later)

I dont believe in happily ever after, life is what you make it, be content.

MaybeLogic

grindelwald wrote: »

I intend on staying with the one i married - until debt do us part.

FYP.

Tail Wagger

Elenxor wrote: »

I know many people do meet someone else and get married and live happy lives ever after.

Happy ever after is only for fools, I would call it adjusting to someone else's way
of life. There's a lot of young and not so young guy's and ladies out there who wouldn't last 5 years with a ring on their finger.

They have spent to much time living at home with their parent/s and wouldn't have an idea how to look after a wife/husband because they can't look after themselves properly, cooking washing ironing etc.

there's loads of guy's and girls still heading home to their Mum's at the weekend with the big bag of washing, I'd call it Pure-Mule work for the week and then home to Mammy for the dinner and the washing.

cynder

FYP ????

Been in the deep debt and came out the other end still intact and still alive. But yeh i get the point debt can drive people mad and can even make them kill there kids and spouse. Even hire a hitman to kill of there loved ones, so they can get their hands on the life insurance.

Elenxor

grindelwald wrote: »

I intend on staying with the one i married - until death do us part.

Sorry...I meant this thread for people who are free to make a choice.

Black Dog

Second marriage = a victory for optimism over experience.

ronaldoshaky

most of the people on here are losers.

ejmaztec

Elenxor wrote: »

Sorry...I meant this thread for people who are free to make a choice.

Even married people are free to make a choice, but the legal fees act as a deterrent.:(

cynder

Elenxor wrote: »

Sorry...I meant this thread for people who are free to make a choice.

I am free, i could walk out and ask for a divorce tomorrow.


i dont intend on ever getting married again.

Elenxor

ronaldoshaky wrote: »

most of the people on here are losers.

Always nice to get an intelligent reply to a thread..!!!

force majeure

Lets see now... my track record well suggest I'm not heading down the isle any day, month, year soon... although if I was to meet a separated woman or indeed divorced I guess that would put me in the frame off the question.
As for remarrying after a messy time I must admit its unlikely as I'm a sensitive soul so a divorce could well retire me from romance.
.... now let me reread all that to see if I am contradicting myself...:eek:

Bolag_the_2nd

not a hope, i lost a 12 stone growth when my marriage broke up, its name was alan!

epgc3fyqirnbsx

How you fixed for an 11 stone growth?

Bolag_the_2nd

Carly Scarce Skeleton wrote: »

How you fixed for an 11 stone growth?

hay,,,, how you doin,

Elenxor

Bolag_the_2nd wrote: »

not a hope, i lost a 12 stone growth when my marriage broke up, its name was alan!

I'm sorry to hear that Bolag...now when you say "lost" were you just careless
and put the growth down and now you can't find it...or..
did you cut it out/down and bury it.:D:D:D

Bolag_the_2nd

Elenxor wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear that Bolag...now when you say "lost" were you just careless
and put the growth down and now you can't find it...or..
did you cut it out/down and bury it.:D:D:D

i would have loved to do that Elenxor, :rolleyes:

Tail Wagger

grindelwald wrote: »

I am free, i could walk out and ask for a divorce tomorrow.


i dont intend on ever getting married again.

What will it cost you to walk away?

You won't be able to afford to re-marry when you'v been cleaned out by the 1st one!

Mike 1972

Back in the nineties they legalised divorce in Ireland although personally I wold have voted to outlaw marriage.

Tail Wagger wrote: »

What will it cost you to walk away?

Possibly less than it cost to get married in the first place although its a good point all the same

Sea Sharp

Not a chance am I getting married. I intend on being rich and I will not want to share.

vicecreamsundae

i don't plan to get married, but if i did and it ended up not working out and i met someone else then yeah i would probably get married for whatever reasons i [hypothetically]did the first time round be they love/financial/whatever.

i wouldn't enter into a marriage thinking "this is 100% forever and always" -nobody is psychic and **** happens.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

We're such a bunch of old romantics around here!

Pherekydes

Have done.

Poor Uncle Tom

I'm a hardcore masochist, but there's only soo much I can take....:D

bryaner

grindelwald wrote: »

I intend on staying with the one i married - until death do us part.


I was with him since i was 17 and married him when i was 28 (3 kids later)

I dont believe in happily ever after, life is what you make it, be content.

Hide all sharp objects doom and gloom or what!!

Elenxor

vicecreamsundae wrote: »

i don't plan to get married, but if i did and it ended up not working out and i met someone else then yeah i would probably get married for whatever reasons i [hypothetically]did the first time round be they love/financial/whatever.

i wouldn't enter into a marriage thinking "this is 100% forever and always" -nobody is psychic and **** happens.

In fairness, I think most people who get married intend it to be for ever..but as you say.... **** happens.

Bolag_the_2nd

ronaldoshaky wrote: »

most of the people on here are losers.

pics or GTFO!


always wanted to say that

Biggins

On my second marriage. No regrets.

Mike 1972

The only good reason I can think of for getting married would be where it was necessary in order for oneself and their partner to live in the same country.

In the majority of such instances it is probably a bad idea too.

Bonito

Carly Scarce Skeleton wrote: »

How you fixed for an 11 inch growth?

FYP

Fear Uladh

ronaldoshaky wrote: »

most of the people on here are losers.

I wish I had a name like ronaldoshaky, I would be one swell dude.

On topic, why get married when you can travel the world? 20,000 on a wedding? I would rather get a house in thailand with a few thai girls.

Corkfeen

I'd marry a second time. Have to find someone to divorce the first time so I can make the ex-wife jokes which i've longed to say.

Alessandra

If one day I do get married, I would hope to be married to that person for the rest of my days as antequated(sp?) as it may sound. i don't think I would remarry if it failed first time.

SeekUp

Really, two scenarios here -- If I ever got divorced (which would definitely have to be for a good reason that I'd find myself single again) or if - heaven forbid - my husband dies.

I think life is fun when it's shared with someone you love, and if I was lucky enough to find yet another person who made me happy, I like to think that I'd be able to go for it again.

Biggins

If your lucky in this even crazier, more faster moving, more pressurised world, you will find your "one" that you will want to be with.
Not just with a marriage cert but maybe in partnership too instead - each to their own way.
Only speaking from experience, my first one didn't work out partly due to us having bills to pay (mortgage, etc), work-wise we became ships that passed in the night, sometimes she going in, me going out...
She then sought solace in the arms of another while I was trying to keep working.
That's the short version without the explicit details.

* Second time around, my priorities were much different. I knew what what was more important to our long term happiness, not just the happiness of the bank manager.
* Second time around, I knew better of how important more so it was that time shared was not just better but should be found daily for each other by effort and not just by luck bumping into each other during the daily grind.
* Second time around (after much reflection and looking for the errors of the past) I knew better what I wanted from marriage, there was more realistic expectations, goals and desires. I was able to better put those across and seek the conditions that suited us both.
There is much more but that's just a start...

If a person on their first time marriage is lucky enough to know deep down even some of the above, they are truly blessed.
First time around I thought I knew it all but looking back, I knew nothing at all and was taking it day by day, hit or missing most of the time with less effort than I should have been putting in.

I learned all the above and more at a deep personal price.

If a person on their first time marriage is lucky enough to work though many, many life obstacles - fair play. You have my sincere congratulations.
As for me, second time around I knew what would make me a happier, better person, I knew what would make "her" a happier person, how I should make that so and I knew better how to appreciate the many things in between us and allow for them to join us further, not pull us a part more.

So on second marriages, yes I got married again and have no regrets. No one should.
I am a better person from the experience (I hope) of the first.
We, not just I, are more happier together than I was with my first wife (and I can now judge the difference better and see possible dangers up and coming better).
...and although the bills still have to be paid, my priorities are to my beautiful wife, my precious four children and as for the bank manager... I keep him waiting in line further down - much further down!

Second marriages! If Carsberg did second marriages, they would probably be the...

P.S. Its mothers day tomorrow.
If my wife is reading this, I want her to know I am the lucky one.
I've gotten four great kids from a even greater mum. She is daily, my rock, my life, my world and the air that I need to breathe.
Not just as a wife but as a mum, I couldn't have asked and gotten better than her.
I am truly a very lucky man.

Abi

When I copped this thread, I thought - bet ya biggins is in here with something vomit inducing :pac: so when I read.......

Biggins wrote: »

On my second marriage. No regrets.

I thought - well we got off lightly there! then couple of posts later..

Biggins wrote: »

If your lucky in this even crazier, more faster moving, more pressurised world, you will find your "one" that you will want to be with.
Not just with a marriage cert but maybe in partnership too instead - each to their own way.
Only speaking from experience, my first one didn't work out partly due to us having bills to pay (mortgage, etc), work-wise we became ships that passed in the night, sometimes she going in, me going out...
She then sought solace in the arms of another while I was trying to keep working.
That's the short version without the explicit details.

* Second time around, my priorities were much different. I knew what what was more important to our long term happiness, not just the happiness of the bank manager.
* Second time around, I knew better of how important more so it was that time shared was not just better but should be found daily for each other by effort and not just by luck bumping into each other during the daily grind.
* Second time around (after much reflection and looking for the errors of the past) I knew better what I wanted from marriage, there was more realistic expectations, goals and desires. I was able to better put those across and seek the conditions that suited us both.
There is much more but that's just a start...

If a person on their first time marriage is lucky enough to know deep down even some of the above, they are truly blessed.
First time around I thought I knew it all but looking back, I knew nothing at all and was taking it day by day, hit or missing most of the time with less effort than I should have been putting in.

I learned all the above and more at a deep personal price.

If a person on their first time marriage is lucky enough to work though many, many life obstacles - fair play. You have my sincere congratulations.
As for me, second time around I knew what would make me a happier, better person, I knew what would make "her" a happier person, how I should make that so and I knew better how to appreciate the many things in between us and allow for them to join us further, not pull us a part more.

So on second marriages, yes I got married again and have no regrets. No one should.
I am a better person from the experience (I hope) of the first.
We, not just I, are more happier together than I was with my first wife (and I can now judge the difference better and see possible dangers up and coming better).
...and although the bills still have to be paid, my priorities are to my beautiful wife, my precious four children and as for the bank manager... I keep him waiting in line further down - much further down!

Second marriages! If Carsberg did second marriages, they would probably be the...

P.S. Its mothers day tomorrow.
If my wife is reading this, I want her to know I am the lucky one.
I've gotten four great kids from a even greater mum. She is daily, my rock, my life, my world and the air that I need to breathe.
Not just as a wife but as a mum, I couldn't have asked and gotten better than her.
I am truly a very lucky man.

BAM!! there it is :pac:

Biggins

Abitar wrote: »

When I copped this thread, I thought - bet ya biggins is in here with something vomit inducing :pac: so when I read.......

I thought - well we got off lightly there! then couple of posts later..

BAM!! there it is :pac:

We show anger, hatred, division and frustration on the boards.
Why not once in a while also show a little compassion, understanding and how lucky one is blessed too!

...we luv you too Abitar - gezz a hug! :P :pac:

Abi

Biggins wrote: »

We show anger, hatred, division and frustration on the boards. Why not once in a while also show a little compassion, understanding and how lucky one is blessed too!

Ohh Gawd I think I'm going to vomit! :eek:

...we luv you too Abitar - gezz a hug! :P :pac:

Ewwww. Get off me! :mad: :pac:


/flees mushy wushy thread

Terry79

Elenxor wrote: »

I know many people do meet someone else and get married and live happy lives ever after.

Personally, I don't think I would., but never say never I suppose.

Once is enough. Never again:D

Hagar

Would I inflict me on a second woman? No.

Elenxor

Abitar wrote: »

Ohh Gawd I think I'm going to vomit! :eek:

Ewwww. Get off me! :mad: :pac:


/flees mushy wushy thread

Ah Abs., embrace the love...gowan, gowan, gowan.:D

dlofnep

Need to marry first

Abi

Elenxor wrote: »

Ah Abs., embrace the love...gowan, gowan, gowan.:D

No thanks! It just gets complicated and messy after that =P