Marrying outside your parish

Karen23

My sister wants to marry outside her parish. the Church she wants to get married in have said it's no problem but she needs to bring her own priest. The priests in her own parish wont travel to the other church as they cant see why she doesnt want to marry in her own church. I can totally understand this but she has her heart set on the other church.
I've been through this myself and a friend of mine was friends with a priest and he agreed to marry us outside my parish but he is no longer in the country so asking him is not an option.

So my question is does anyone know of a priest who would be willing to do it or know any way around it ?

I'll expect the barrage of abuse that might come about it being the ceremony thats important and not surroundings and she understands all that. At the end of the day she will use our parish church if she cant get a priest but she really would love to marry in the other church.

Thanks for any help or advice anyone can give.

who the fug

Ask her local PP if he knows of somebody, ditto with any nuns you know.

Wave an invite to the reception and some folding stuff under the the priest who won't travel

Karen23

The parish priest was absolutely dead set against her marrying outside her parish and no amount of persuasion would shift him. he was adamant and he said he didnt know of anyone else who would do it either.

afkasurfjunkie

surely his attitude alone is reason enough to get married elsewhere. would her fiance know an obliging priest from his area?

Karen23

Thery're both from the same parish.

Unfortunately I dont think this is anything to do with the priests attitude , as I said I got married outside the parish 18 months ago and had the same problem. And I have heard of a lot of couples having the same problem so I think it's becoming very common.
The Church will allow you to use the Church but bring your own priest and unless you have a family member or friend who is a priest no other priest will do it for you.

I would have thought priests would be happy to see couples marrying instead of putting obstacles in their way.

Toots

Would she talk to the PP in the church where she wants to marry? Maybe if she explains the trouble she's having they might agree to provide a priest, or point her in the direction of someone who'll do it.

Karen23

She's been there and tried that. They couldnt help her at all in pointing her in the right direction and wouldnt provide a priest.
They said PP's were sick of people using their Church to marry in and then never coming back again after that and thats why this change was brought in. And couples shouldnt assume its their right to marry wherever they please.I can understand what they mean but you'd think they'd be happy to see couples wanting to marry in Church at all.

BC

Try weddings online. A lot of people have had this issue and might be able to recommend a priest in the general area.