what is the right thing to do

smaaaa

! we were on and off for three years then split for a year!! im back with him 3 months now and hes been great! but withing the year i was very much in love with someone else!!and not sure im over the other one even tho i know its dead!!
my personality suits the one im with now but in the back of my head i do feel he deserves better than me cause im so confused! but i fear im not able to be on my own hate being lonely!
should i cut ties with the both of them and move on?
or take each day as it comes

Bonito

In my opinion you need to grasp a bit of independence here. Explain to your BF you're not comfortable with the relationship and you need some time to find yourself and figure out what you want.

smaaaa

ye i think your right but i keep going back to his cause i cant settle in my rented room he distracts it all he lives onhisown ive told him everything and he just says ok i can have space but if i finish thats it for good (and mentions an advent coming up and wants me there) !!! i do just feel so sick wen im on my own and still not over my x!!! do i persevere the pain in my tummy for my own sake!!

Bonito

smaaaa wrote: »

ye i think your right but i keep going back to his cause i cant settle in my rented room.

Why not? Is there something wrong with it or is it just that boredom and being lonely sets in? Have you got any hobbies that you could join clubs in?

he distracts it all he lives onhisown ive told him everything and he just says ok i can have space but if i finish thats it for good

Sounds to me like his piss arting around TBH and you should walk away. He's not going to give you space unless you break it off with him but, he says if you do then it's over for good. sounds to me like he wants out but doesn't want to do the dirty work.

i do just feel so sick wen im on my own and still not over my x!!! do i persevere the pain in my tummy for my own sake!!

You're asking the wrong questions here. Ask yourself how long can you live like this. Get rid of him he's just holding you back. The pain will go away eventually but, it'll obviously take time. You owe it to yourself to move on and be happy Op.

smaaaa

ye im scared i wont meet someone that i get along so well with!!!
i dont have much friends and all my family are in the country!
i try go gym after work !
i think i know what i have to do its just doing it i guess!
im gona feck his head up again and i dont think thats fair

Bonito

It's natural to be scared but you need to find yourself and find your own sense of indpendence.

smaaaa

im terrified of it! i know i sound so stupid but i dont know how to be on my own!!