can't stop thinking about him

shoes34

Hi,

Posted here before how I had broken up with my boyfriend, and we still text. I just can't seem to get him out of my mind, I try and not text him but I just can't stop myself, have deleted his number etc. but we had been together for a while so know his number off by heart.

Now if I am being honest I guess I sometimes start the texting and the other night we were texting on and off then I said it was getting late and I better let him get some sleep and he started to ask me about something else, I was giving him the chance to sign off.

I guess if I knew why we broke up it would be easier to not contact him but it came totally out of the blue and when we do see each other and we have slept together a couple of times since the break up its always like we never parted.

I feel like him is in my head 24/7. I do go out and do stuff but when I am in bed at night is when I think about him the most.

Thanks for listening to me rant.

daveo90

aw I know the feeling !

I had a break up awhile ago and you start to take life one day at a time..

and you get these silly thoughts in your head that their off not giving a crap about it..

Can i ask how you broke up ?

shoes34

We were out for a few drinks one night and I was chatting to his mates and he was chatting to my brother and other mates. His mate who I was talking to said "you and "the boy" are getting on so well", and we were, we never fought, I never nagged as he said I was the perfect girlfriend, if he wanted to go out with and I didn't I would never stop him and if he wanted to watch a match in the pub on a Sunday I would drive him in and pick him up.

A few days before the breakup he was out in company with my brother as they are friends and he told me that my brother introduced him as his sister's boyfriend and I guess he would have opportunity that night to finish with me but he waited a few more days. We had been together 8 months and I guess I thought he was the one. He stayed with me the night we broke up and as I've said we've spent a few nights together since then as well.

I know I need to get over him, but its just so hard. I've dated guys before but just felt like this about them, guess I had fallen in love but didn't realise what I had till it was gone from me.

shoes34

I know you are right Sunflower and I do try my hardest and I can't expect anyone else to do it for me. Going to try my hardest this weekend, the funny thing is I am not usually this sort of person, I know everyone says that but guess he was my first real love even though I have been around a while!

Thanks:)

legend365

shoes34 wrote: »

I know you are right Sunflower and I do try my hardest and I can't expect anyone else to do it for me. Going to try my hardest this weekend, the funny thing is I am not usually this sort of person, I know everyone says that but guess he was my first real love even though I have been around a while!

Thanks:)

Yea im the same, except roles reversed (think about her when things get quiet).

Best advice...

...throw your phone in the river.

Better off with it/him :P

shoes34

I know wish it was that easy. Mostly the weekends is when I miss him the most as I guess have more time on my hands.

Hope you are feeling better about it Legend365.

When did life become so complicated or is it that we just let it...

legend365

Try to forget would be my answer to that.

Fill the voids and keep busy as the devil makes use of idol hands (aka txtin).

Take up goin on the lash at the weekends. You'll soon forget EVERYTHING, nevermind the ex

shoes34

thanks - I do know its over but just miss the being able to talk to him about stuff, we were friends as well as lovers and that is the hard part.

shoes34

Hi,

Posted here about trying to get over and ex - and he is still occuping my mind. I did join a dating site and have also written a thread here on that, I went on a date the other night, the guy wasn't for me but I didn't go measuring him up to my ex, went with a clear head.

But today my two brothers got invitations to the ex boyfriend's brother's wedding and just got a little upset knowing that i wouldn't be there with my ex. I know its only a wedding but we had been to a few while we were together and guess I would have been going to this one with him if we were still dating. I know its over but just got a little teary.

Sorry for all the ranting and thanks for listening.

shoes34

Thanks Sunflower,

I know you have replied to me before so I hope I'm not wrecking your head. I know I need to move on and it probably wasn't the wisest thing to do joining the internet dating but at the same time I was trying to move on and meet new people.

Its just sad that it all ended over nothing really. Just that he didn't want a relationship and I did. Guess there were a few red flags after we had been together a while he told me when he was in college in Scotland he dated this girl who live in another city and he just stopped calling her. I guess that should have warned me that maybe he could do the same to me.