Life seems meaningless

daveo90

Hey All,

Need advice , my life seems very meaningless at the moment , I have a degree and doing a postgrad now in UCD. I have no passion for anything I've done in college...

Since last year I pretty much lost contact with my mates from home , and for some reason I can't be bothered meeting up with them. They are nice and everything but I just feel blah about everything. ( I know i'm busy a lot but I could make time I guess)

My boyfriend is on about going to work aboard next year and he is probably 90% sure he's going. It's funny I know he'd leave me in a heartbeat to go aboard to work he has told me this before.

so a meaningless education and a meaningless relationship
= meaningless life... (overly strong word i guess :> meaningless)

I know I should just get on with things , and im young, but does anyone else have the same kinda feelings?

kjl

ah look, it will pass, this is just how you feel now. To be honest I think you bf sounds like a jerk, I would get rid of him asap.

Just bare with it, things will turn around if you are positive.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

Everything has a meaning, it just doesn't have a place right now.

You are in a prestigous university doing a postgrad (is that an MA or a BA?).

Chances are you are young, live your life

Is your boyfriend unemployed? If so has he been unemployed for long?

Kjl, you have nothing but a few words, yet you can judge this man? Try not be so quick off the mark to judge people who you know nothing about. Suggesting the OP "get rid of him asap" is extremely naive and premature to say the least.

Your boyfreind has his own life, respect that and his decisions. He has told you well in advance that he will go away for work, which is very understandable as there is no work here in Ireland and for many young men that really want to work, this is extremely fustrating. If everything else is going well in your relationship, then why not enjoy what you have now? If you are not happy, then you can decide on what to do, keeping in mind that only you matter He has made up his mind about going abroad. Would you not go with him? Has he asked you this?

As for your friends, you need to put in a little effort to see them every so often, otherwise they will become estranged and you may come to regret that in later days.

Thinking positively is something that might help you. It has helped me lots in the past. It sounds like you are a little depressed, are you? If so, try to occupy yourself, with anything, that will keep your mind off these things that make you this way. I am not suggesting you ignore the problems, but it's best to face problems when you are positive. If you think about them when you are depressed it may seem a lot worse. That's not a good thing. Well good luck OP.

daveo90

Yeah it a MA, thanks for that comment really helped, I guess I can get a bit depressed but sure can't everyone.

I would go aboard but the issue is that he'd go without me in a heartbeat, but I wouldn't do that to him..kinda feel my relationship seems to be pointless at the moment if its going to end like that. (unemployment for him would not be an issue here etc)

daveo90

so useless i cant get a reply! lol

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

daveo90 wrote: »

Yeah it a MA, thanks for that comment really helped, I guess I can get a bit depressed but sure can't everyone.

I would go aboard but the issue is that he'd go without me in a heartbeat, but I wouldn't do that to him..kinda feel my relationship seems to be pointless at the moment if its going to end like that. (unemployment for him would not be an issue here etc)

You're lucky to be doing an MA, I am unemployed, would love to do my MA but costs too much, at least you have that much Everybody gets down, be it bad or not. I don't know anybody that is on a high all the time, I think that is physically impossible :P

So he has a job here? What age are ye both if you don't mind me asking. I have been in your situation, and it was very very confusing for me, very depressed and completely hearthbroken. You may feel the same way, I am not saying this to scare you, but to be prepared. When my ex told me she was moving abroad, I said fair enough, if that's what you want to do then I will support you, so I did. I helped with a lot of things, even what shoes she was bringing, clothes, helped out with her banking problems (I worked in the bank at the time) and other things that I can't remember right now. I said we should enjoy the time we have together before she moves away, and we did. The only problem I had was the uncertainty of getting back together again. She didn't give me a real answer, it was always "I don't know, I don't know". So after about 6 months of this I got fed up, I was seriously depressed by this stage, but I just moved on, found a lovely girl and began living again. I am not sure why I am telling you this, I am not sure if this helps, but if you guys stay together, make sure the breakup is clean when he goes away, know exactly what's going on and don't let him mess you around, i.e. Long distance relationship, the promise of getting back together again etc etc. That's what made it hard.

daveo90 wrote: »

so useless i cant get a reply! lol

Sorry about that...

daveo90

Thanks for the reply! Im up stupidly late! :rolleyes:

Age 22 and 23, Pretty young.

I have a feeling it might end up like you there, its a real moment in a relationship isn't it. Deal or no deal moment.

People need to ask themselves during a relationship "do you want to be together" and stop living in routines. Like not in an angry weirdo way.. but I think people really need to talk more.

Maybe I should talk about it , I know I may be digging for words I don't want to hear but maybe It is better to hear it now and not at an airport holding his bags.

Honestly, you only live once. Enjoy it as much as you can. The boyfriend thing, yeah, kinda sucks, but if you break up, there's your opportunity to start a new life without him. If you feel that he isn't that bothered about you, move on. I learned that life is too short to be with someone who doesn't appreciate you and doesn't think you're the best person on earth.

It sounds like you have your health and no major problems outside of being bored with things. Don't take that for granted. Many people would trade their lives for yours. I'm also doing an MA and having some sh*tty health problems right now and would love it if feeling a bit bored and my relationship going south were my biggest issues. It puts it all into perspective.

You need to make the effort with friends. Everyone feels a bit 'meh', everyone thinks it would be easier to stay in in front of the TV than have to get ready and go out (well I certainly do) but you have to make yourself do it. People say you get out of life what you put into it. I think that is largely true.

dave 27

daveo90 wrote: »

Hey All,

Need advice , my life seems very meaningless at the moment , I have a degree and doing a postgrad now in UCD. I have no passion for anything I've done in college...

Since last year I pretty much lost contact with my mates from home , and for some reason I can't be bothered meeting up with them. They are nice and everything but I just feel blah about everything. ( I know i'm busy a lot but I could make time I guess)

My boyfriend is on about going to work aboard next year and he is probably 90% sure he's going. It's funny I know he'd leave me in a heartbeat to go aboard to work he has told me this before.

so a meaningless education and a meaningless relationship
= meaningless life... (overly strong word i guess :> meaningless)

I know I should just get on with things , and im young, but does anyone else have the same kinda feelings?

op i know EXACTLY what you mean, im 22, im in 3rd year in a degree course..supposed to be doing my placement at the moment but theres no jobs so the college made an in house course for us whis is rediculously hard..8 subjects and thousands of word projects for each, its just too much to ask from us, fed up!

i have no job because of the recession, i cant claim the dole cos im in college, im broke, every day i get up i think why..i would do better in australia or somewhere, my only enjoyment comes from going to the gym these days..oh and at least u have a partner..im single:o

LegacyUser

Ah yeah!

I think it's the amount of work thats killing me, couldn't go for a piss the other day was so busy haha! (no lie)

In a class now , and im thinking what the hell am i doing here !!! I don't want to sit in an office all my life.

sajama

Hi OP

Totally understand how you feel - I'm in my final (4th) year of my degree, a degree which I haven't enjoyed since 2nd year but decided not to give up on, cos I didn't know what else I'd do...

Life seems so meaningless for me at the minute too - I hate my degree course, it's really hard and makes me feel stupid almost every day, I don't know what I'm going to do careerwise (and like you, I don't want to be stuck in an office all my life), plus I'm single to top it all off.

I'm completely clueless as to what to do next?

So I decided a couple of months ago to just bite the bullet and do what most people advise people of our age to do - travel! I've taken a loan out and got a J1 visa sorted for the summer - have some savings too, which I was gonna keep and try to build up a deposit for a house as soon as i get a job, but then I thought, what's the rush?! I kinda did it all on a whim and now I'm heading to the States for the summer. Nobody else would do it so I thought feck it I'm not gonna let that stop me, and I'm heading over alone. And now I'm really excited about the summer - it's what's getting me through college!

I figure, what have I got to lose? One little loan at my age shouldn't be too hard to pay off - I'll try and get some sort of job when I get back (anything just to clear my debt), and considering you'll have a masters under your belt it should help you in your job-search more than my little Bachelors

The way I've been looking at it, I'm young, fresh out of many years in education, and have no worries about a mortgage or kids to feed yet, so may as well make the most of it! Maybe you could do the same?

Best of luck OP