Girlfriend acting funny

LegacyUser

Don't know how to put this but my girlfriend is acting very strange lately, she is constantly texting or asking me is everything ok. She keeps saying she loves me which is nice but its the whole time. She asks me now and again am I going to leave her and when I tell her I am not and shes knows the only reason why I would leave her ( if she cheated on me) she goes quiet. Her phone is always getting messages etc but she just knocks them off quickly when I am there. We were planning to go away together but she changed the date as she has something else on and now when we had planned to go to a certain place she now wants to go somewhere else and keeps changing her mind when I agree to a place. This is becoming a pain in the butt but I don't know what to do. I ask her is she ok and whats on her mind but she just tells me nothing. I have enough crap going on in my life and now I have do try and figure this out. can anyone shed some light on this please.

krudler

The cynic in me says she cheated and is now repenting for it, from my own experience when one of my exes cheated on me she spent ages just making sure I knew she loved me and telling me all the time (a better way of telling me how she felt wouldnt have been not sticking her tongue in another guys mouth, but thats a different rant) and it took me a while of pressing her to tell me after I thought something was fishy for a week or so. The texts thing is a bit suspect, if they were from friends she'd read them, plain and simple, nothing to hide and all that,I'd ask her straight out if something happened she wants to talk about, as shes giving some fairly big warning signs.

It may be nothing more than her being at that unsure stage of the relationship, have ye been together long? maybe its a commitment thing from her side

LegacyUser

we only together about 5 months and have had the usual ups and downs but nothing major. the text thing does not bother me as she gets alot for work etc so decided to ignore it. I have asked her is everything ok but she tells me it is. If I don't respond to a text message she will either email me or send me a pm on a website we are both on as well. Its like she panics if she cannot get in contact with me.

Walls

Have you stopped the 'early dating' behaviour, like flowers or calls or complements? Maybe she's noticed but you haven't, and she's wondering what she's done wrong.

Taltos

Having been cheated on - well the realist in me says you already know what the answer is here - but you are looking for confirmation.

Thing is - as sure as I am based on your message - this is just one side and there could be more to it.
Would suggest you sit down and let her know that right now all her her actions are setting alarm bells going. Just ask her what really is going on.

It might be nothing. But I think it is.
Thing is though - if you are only going out 5mts - maybe in the early stages of your relationship she was hedging her bets and is now feeling bad about that. And if this is the case - well it was early days, that is something alot of folk do - I disagree with it personally - but it is the choice of the other person. And if I cared enough for my partner then I would cut some slack over a poor choice. - But again - right now - you just do not have this information - or really any to go on.

Just one thing - be damn sure what you are seeing is really there and you are not just throwing your insecurities onto her. Last thing anyone wants is a jealous partner checking their texts / emails etc....


Additions:
Actually Walls could also have hit the nail on the head - if you have changed how you are behaving then you might have triggered a similar response in her... You know - out of the initial hormone driven period - maybe you are not as attentive??? Those texts could be from her friends asking if you have dumped her yet......